Suggestion to Vivi

[Guest guest]

Vivi, I was so sad to read what your sister had written. I think

you

can say she is not even a support now, much less after surgery. Look

for another person who is meaningful to you. I stumbled on a strategy

that helped me. I am 53 and my mother is 80. Older folks tend to be

more conservative and my adorable mom is just that. She is tiny. I

wasn't so much interested in a letter of support as in her

understanding that I had made a competent decision about my health.

So, when I told her about the surgery I gave her not only a patient

manual but a copy of my insurance letter from Dr. R. Later when she

got back to me she wanted to know when the surgery would be. I said

I

didn't know because of insurance approval. She was adamant the I

should not let anything stop me because my health was at risk! That

might work for your next support. Good luck, keep us posted!