Re: |I apologize for starting a war, and abuse to my husband, Tom.

November 27, 2008

Sharon,

I am sending this via the group-- and gang, I want his to be the end of this process--please no more responses from anyone else. I want to close this discussion.

First off, none of us owe anyone an apology--except you. You, as you stated, started this. I am ending it.

I'm sure Tom is a good man. I'm sure you are an ok person with some huge issues.

To lie to all of us, and then to ask us to send Tom apologies does not have to happen. Greg and I both posted to this yesterday. It's over.

Both of you are responsible for your actions, and regardless of the fact you choose to bring this to the group-- opened up a line of communication that obviously needed opening. Both at your home and at the home of others.

For anyone, you, me or others to decieve and manipulate the story line-- is horrible. This is the direct action that makes it so that ALL of us have to go through our families and friends and doctors not believing us. Think about it.

Then do something within your marriage to deal with these issues.

In the future, if you want to talk about an issue, fine-- but do not include accusations that are lies.

Very sincerely,

Tracie

NS Co-owner/moderator

To: Neurosarcoidosis <neurosarcoidosis >Sent: Thursday, November 27, 2008 4:13:52 PMSubject: |I apologize for starting a war, and abuse to my husband, Tom.

I know I am responsible for 99% for what I did, including lying to Tom from the onset of our relationship. I did spend and charged alot of money behind Tom's back ever since our relationship for a multitude of unnecessary things I did not need, and now Tom has to pay it off. He has provided a nice , comfortable place for me with many ways to stay off my feet and do simple chores, etc. I regret spreading lies behind his back-- and now he is getting some hate mail from the Sarc group. I wish you all would stop sending him belittling email and apologize to him.Tom is Disabled Vietnam Vet who won many medals in Combat Aviation in 'Nam where he served to 2 tours of duty as a helicpter door gunner. He has worked hard and long all his life, has many skills, talents and friends. He suffers from PTSD, OA - arthritis, Fibromyalgia, a fractured

neck and back from some terrlble accidents, and uses a power scooter too. It very hard for him to walk nowdays and it's frustrating because he was very active in the skllled trades and even had to sell his prize motorcycle last Summer because of the pain. It is because if Tom that I enjoy all the good insurance coverage [becasue he worked at Chrysler all those years and also has a service-connect disability rating from combat in Vietnam: 68-70 --and things would be much worse if I had not met him! I regret telling you all about my problems and including Tom into the mix. He doesn't deserve to be insulted and abused. He is helping out more arou8nd the house and has told me that he is willing to take over most of the cleaing chores at home. Please take this message to heart and spread the word to lay off my husband. He has been very patient and kind to me, and he

has many medical problems and challenges too.

I take full responsibility to starting this small war.

I do know I did not want this disease and I cannot blame this disease on my compulsive spending. For the spending I am to blame.

Sharon L. Schuckman

Trust in the Lord with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. In all thy ways acknowlege Him, and He shall direct thy paths.Proverbs 3:5-6sharupac@...

November 28, 2008

FIRST...........THANK YOU to Tracie..........she said it perfectly! I could not agree

more! I was not aware of all of this as I have had 23 people here all day yesterday

and it was nearly 6:00 pm when they left last night and I went to bed............

it was wonderful (we only had one family missing and one girl from another family,

so it was great to have them all here.

Now, back to the real issue here.........it is situations like this that can break up a great

"family" online here. It has happened many times and there is no reason for this at

all. True, we ARE a family here and we ARE supposed to discuss our problems, our

needs, and etc, but.........NOT lies, made up issues and etc. This ALWAYS causes

trouble and is never necessary. I agree with all Tracie said and I am so thankful she

is a Co-Owner. She is great with words (which I am not ),

Sharon, you need to talk to a professional and get some help; and like Tracie said,

you need to grow up! None of us here are happy with what we have been dealt --

but we ARE trying to survive and still enjoy what life we have left. True, it is not

easy to give up the life we had, but you must face it and live in the new life as much

as possible. Like many others, I have had to give up many, many, things and I have

days where I am really depressed about it, but then I look at all I am blessed with and

I am still alive to enjoy it, so I look ahead and decide just what I CAN do and CANNOT

do and make my choices. Believe me, it is difficult. You must do the same. Face what

you have been given to deal with and NEVER stoop to lying. It never solves anything

and causes so much trouble and pain.

Let this be the end of this discussion.

Sincerely,

Darlene

NS Co-Owner/Moderator

November 28, 2008

I cried because I had no shoes---Then I saw the man who had no feet.

Jackie