Spouse Weight Gain

[Guest guest]

Hi everybody,

I don't post often, but I read the digests every day. It is like a

mini version of my favorite TV show. It almost feels like I know

each and everyone of you

I had lap RNY on 6/9/3 after battling my insurance for 3 months.

Lost the battle and was self pay. I have lost 65 lbs. so far, and

let me tell you this was the best $ 17,000 I ever spent. My only

regret has been not doing it sooner. I live in Miami, and I know

some of you are local, and I was the first WLS patient done at

Kendall Regional Medical Center. My doctors were great and the

hospital staff was great. Now I mainly use y PCp for follow up

bloodwork and such, but so far there has been little need for me to

see my surgeons.

A while back some of you posted about the changing dynamics of

relationships about WLS. I have been married for 2 years to a

wonderful man, and I have 3 boys (6, 7, 11) from my previous

marriage. My current husband met me when I was about 220 lbs., and

has loved me thru my gains and losses. I was 250 the day of surgery,

and you would have thought I was Cindy Crawford the way he was all

over me. Now that I am feeling better about myself, (great actually

since I just fit into size 11 jeans) it seems he has gained about 20

lbs. since my surgery. He was always kind of husky to begin with,

and it is not his size that bothers me, it is his health. I know

what it feels like to be tired, and out of breath and I hate to see

someone I love suffer thru the same. I don't want to bring it up

cause I don't want to hurt his feelings (afterall he loved me thru

thick and thin). Any ideas on what I can do to help him ?

Thank you all for sharing your lives and struggles, you truly are an

inspiration,

Bibi

250/185/140

SoOrry for such long post.

[Guest guest]

Hi Bibi!!! I don't know if this posts my last name here, but I am a

Villazon too! I don't know you but I know of you from work, I work

for WCMC and I can't think right now of the company you work for, but

I just called there yesterday regarding NOI on someone (I didn't

speak with you though, spoke with the other contact). I am Villazon

from marriage, but actually, now divorced since February. I've been

with WCMC 9 years so we've probably talked at some point.

Congratulations on your WLS!!! I am preop, waiting right now for the

insurance approval, it was submitted last Friday. Hope to hear

something by next week at least and hoping for surgery 1st or 2nd

week in November. My surgeon is Dr. Eddie Gomez, he's with Dr.

s who is famous for the banding. I hardly ever post in here

either, but also read the posts every day! By the way there is a

local Miami group too, MiamiWLS, it's small but we're a good bunch!

About your husband, don't worry, he is probably going through a phase

since you've had your surgery. Maybe he see's you eating so

differently and subconsciously eats for you! That sounded silly but

that's the first thing I thought of. Also, maybe it's similar to

when a woman is pregnant, the husband gains sympathy weight also!

He'll probably be just fine, maybe he's adjusting to the surgery in

his own way. Anyway, congratulations, sounds like you are doing

great! Hope to be right behind you! Take care and if you ever call

the clinic ask for me, so I can say hello! Carol

> Hi everybody,

>

> I don't post often, but I read the digests every day. It is like a

> mini version of my favorite TV show. It almost feels like I know

> each and everyone of you

>

> I had lap RNY on 6/9/3 after battling my insurance for 3 months.

> Lost the battle and was self pay. I have lost 65 lbs. so far, and

> let me tell you this was the best $ 17,000 I ever spent. My only

> regret has been not doing it sooner. I live in Miami, and I know

> some of you are local, and I was the first WLS patient done at

> Kendall Regional Medical Center. My doctors were great and the

> hospital staff was great. Now I mainly use y PCp for follow up

> bloodwork and such, but so far there has been little need for me to

> see my surgeons.

>

> A while back some of you posted about the changing dynamics of

> relationships about WLS. I have been married for 2 years to a

> wonderful man, and I have 3 boys (6, 7, 11) from my previous

> marriage. My current husband met me when I was about 220 lbs., and

> has loved me thru my gains and losses. I was 250 the day of

surgery,

> and you would have thought I was Cindy Crawford the way he was all

> over me. Now that I am feeling better about myself, (great

actually

> since I just fit into size 11 jeans) it seems he has gained about

20

> lbs. since my surgery. He was always kind of husky to begin with,

> and it is not his size that bothers me, it is his health. I know

> what it feels like to be tired, and out of breath and I hate to see

> someone I love suffer thru the same. I don't want to bring it up

> cause I don't want to hurt his feelings (afterall he loved me thru

> thick and thin). Any ideas on what I can do to help him ?

>

> Thank you all for sharing your lives and struggles, you truly are

an

> inspiration,

>

> Bibi

> 250/185/140

>

> SoOrry for such long post.

[Guest guest]

thanx for such a candid post, bibi. it's been almost 2 yrs of

marriage for me too, & he was around, warts & all. never a word about

my ballooning. so basically i return this unconditional love. i

remember the wife & offc manager of one of the reconst surgeons i

auditioned told me i won the lottery, after i told her my hubb never

complained when i was heavy.

about possible health issues, that's a tough one. b/c even if you

stock the house w/ healthy choices, not all his meals are @ home. i'm

always after my guy about taking his vitamins & the 80 mg aspirin. &

i'm not embarassed to admit that i pack his lunch, haha! like

is he were a pre-schooler.

keep posting!

lori h.

in the magic city, too