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Posted by: " bcky_mayo " bcky_mayo@... bcky_mayo

Sun Aug 27, 2006 2:07 pm (PST)

hi, all, I'm not a resident of NJ, but I am most definitely the

mother/ father of a special needs child. I say mother/father,

because my kids' dad is decased, so I am pretty much doing it all.my

son, the one with sn is almost 4 and we have an almost 2 yo little

girl. My husband was a severe alcoholic, and it finally consumed

him, and he died last year. My son, was born with Alcohol Effect

disorder, which for people who may not know, is the Daddy version of

Fetal Alcohol Syndrome.

Where as FAS is caused by the mother's drinking during the

gestational period, babies born with AED receive an overdose of

alcohol in 1 " shot " so to speak.

Because my husband's sperm was so concentrated with the alcohol, it

affected the chromosomes, and caused congenital defects. Which

basically means my son was born an alcoholic. He has tremors such as

that of a person who is detoxing. He suffers from insomnia, speach

and developmental delays, adhd and behavioral problems.

Because of his age, it is very difficult to get treatment for him.

Alot of the adhd meds, are designed and regulated for school age

children, so dosing is a problem for us. It is also very hard to

find a dr. that will treat his AED because many either don't believe

in the disorder or just don't know enough about it to treat my son

effectively.

Discaplin is a huge problem, I have tried everything. Time outs,

loss of privaleges, spanking, all the new types of discaplin, and

nothing seems to work. He is very mean to his sister, has even tried

to suffocate her with a pillow. He can be very dangerous, and it

only takes a second for him to go from playing nicely to bouncing

completely off the walls and unable to settle back down.

If anyone out there is struggling with this same type of issue, or

maybe even FAS, please contact me. you may be the link I need to

helping my son.

If you have read all of this, you are a very patient person, and I

appreciate the time you took to read it.