Lana-

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Thanks Lana-

I've only had two people that told me I was 'bonkers' and believe it or not -

one was the Church nun- she told me that I should stop visiting the cemetery and

putting so much umph into it ( decorated and kept clean - plus went down there

daily when I was able to drive ) just to say prayers and an I love you- this

Nun- grabbed my hand and put it to my heart- she said -------- " Keep him

here----- not up here ( she pointed to my head )........ I was in horrible shock

at her display of thoughts- but I just looked at her and said " I know my son is

NOT in the grave ---- his spirit is everywhere ----- but everyone handles their

grief differently and I will not let you make me feel that I am doing anything

wrong " - she said no more.

The other person was my x- and to be honest with you- the two never got along-

Kenny saw too much of what went on- and if anything- I think his dad fears that

something will happen to him if he is down by the grave yard too long or too

often- *paybacks?*

But I didn't let that stop me either- told him I was going to continue with or

without him......... and that I did- up until I could no longer do it...... And

I know that saying the prayers here or anywhere- or just plain talking to him -

he hears - no matter where I am.

It is great to hear that I'm not alone in having conversations with loved ones

that have went before me ........ Hugs And Love- TJ

TJ, I think you're right, it wasn't really a mistake - it was supposed to

happen. You are so right, they ARE here - I love it when someone else talks

to their loved ones like I do mine. I refuse to stop - I know they hear me,

and I feel I get love and support in return. Good for you, TJ!

Love Lana 0:-)