Re: What is your empathy quotient?

[Guest guest]

Thanks, Sue. The presentation in front of 40 people was very difficult

for me, but I just thought about the children who are served by the FRC.

I've repressed all memory of it, however.

Maggie

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[Guest guest]

Thanks, Sue. The presentation in front of 40 people was very difficult

for me, but I just thought about the children who are served by the FRC.

I've repressed all memory of it, however.

Maggie

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[Guest guest]

> I got a 56.

>

> Does that make me whimpy

Only if my 57 makes me whimpy.

I don't think I am. I've been accused of being bitchy more often than

considerate.

Tina

[Guest guest]

> Being empathetic doesn't have to mean being a doormat, yes?

>

Absolutely not.

But I think it's the reason I'm accused of being bitchy at times. I

understand where people are coming from and why they feel the way

they do but I don't always 'act' sympathetic if I feel I need to

behave in another manner to protect my kids or myself.

I used to be a doormat. I used to be a victim. Not anymore. Just

because I'm very empathetic and I want everyone around me to be happy

doesn't mean that I should sacrifice my own well-being for theirs.

*wiping brow* but dang it's hard sticking to my principles some days!

Tina

[Guest guest]

22 :-|

~~~ Imagine all the people, living life in peace - Lennon ~~~

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gina, 31, ny

single mom to -

kailey, 8, autism, hyperlexia, depression, anxiety, OCD, DSI

trevor, 3, multiple developmental delays, no " official " dx yet

parker jade, due 7-25-03 :-D

[Guest guest]

and my SQ is 13 :-|

~~~ Imagine all the people, living life in peace - Lennon ~~~

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gina, 31, ny

single mom to -

kailey, 8, autism, hyperlexia, depression, anxiety, OCD, DSI

trevor, 3, multiple developmental delays, no " official " dx yet

parker jade, due 7-25-03 :-D

[Guest guest]

> http://www.guardian.co.uk/life/flash/page/0,13249,937836,00.html

>

> I scored a 20. Hmmm.

>

> Tuna

>

> =====

> mom to:

I got a 45.. I thought I'd be lower, as I get older, I seem to get

more blunt and cynical.

Kerri

[Guest guest]

>

> I got a 45.. I thought I'd be lower, as I get older, I seem to get

> more blunt and cynical.

>

But true empathy means understanding how people work, NOT assuming that they

will do thiings that they will not do. That perhaps is the error in the

whole test and the error that people make when they assume that empathy is

sympathy. It ain't. Sympathy is weaker and feebler and not worth a whole

lot really. Empathy is truly understanding where someone is coming from,

the good AND the bad, and being able to predict with some reliabilty and

warmth and understanding what people want and need.

You can be fairly cynical, i.e., have low expectations of your fellow man,

based on experience, but still be quite empathetic.

Surely the best counsellors would function that way?

Salli

[Guest guest]

>

> I got a 45.. I thought I'd be lower, as I get older, I seem to get

> more blunt and cynical.

>

But true empathy means understanding how people work, NOT assuming that they

will do thiings that they will not do. That perhaps is the error in the

whole test and the error that people make when they assume that empathy is

sympathy. It ain't. Sympathy is weaker and feebler and not worth a whole

lot really. Empathy is truly understanding where someone is coming from,

the good AND the bad, and being able to predict with some reliabilty and

warmth and understanding what people want and need.

You can be fairly cynical, i.e., have low expectations of your fellow man,

based on experience, but still be quite empathetic.

Surely the best counsellors would function that way?

Salli

[Guest guest]

> >

>

> But true empathy means understanding how people work, NOT assuming

that they

> will do thiings that they will not do. That perhaps is the error

in the

> whole test and the error that people make when they assume that

empathy is

> sympathy. It ain't. Sympathy is weaker and feebler and not worth

a whole

> lot really. Empathy is truly understanding where someone is coming

from,

> the good AND the bad, and being able to predict with some

reliabilty and

> warmth and understanding what people want and need.

>

> You can be fairly cynical, i.e., have low expectations of your

fellow man,

> based on experience, but still be quite empathetic.

>

> Surely the best counsellors would function that way?

>

> Salli

True Salli, I suppose I can empathize, meaning I understand how they

feel..and yet not really care? LOL

Kerri

[Guest guest]

I scored a 68.

Jacquie H

What is your empathy quotient?

http://www.guardian.co.uk/life/flash/page/0,13249,937836,00.html

I scored a 20. Hmmm.

Tuna

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mom to:

, 8, ASD

, 4, NT

Normal is just a setting on the washing machine.

- Whoopi Goldberg

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[Guest guest]

My SQ is 22. Hmmmmm....

Jacquie H

What is your empathy quotient?

http://www.guardian.co.uk/life/flash/page/0,13249,937836,00.html

I scored a 20. Hmmm.

Tuna

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, 8, ASD

, 4, NT

Normal is just a setting on the washing machine.

- Whoopi Goldberg

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[Guest guest]

My SQ is 22. Hmmmmm....

Jacquie H

What is your empathy quotient?

http://www.guardian.co.uk/life/flash/page/0,13249,937836,00.html

I scored a 20. Hmmm.

Tuna

=====

mom to:

, 8, ASD

, 4, NT

Normal is just a setting on the washing machine.

- Whoopi Goldberg

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[Guest guest]

> My SQ is 22. Hmmmmm....

Okay...I took both; EQ is 37 (average but lower than women are

supposed to be)...SQ is 17 (way low for anyone).

Apparently I stink at life in general?

Raena

[Guest guest]

> My SQ is 22. Hmmmmm....

Okay...I took both; EQ is 37 (average but lower than women are

supposed to be)...SQ is 17 (way low for anyone).

Apparently I stink at life in general?

Raena

[Guest guest]

Hey, you do JUST fine being assertive when you tell me you can't walk.

hee hee

Penny

RE: What is your empathy quotient?

It shouldn't, but it's something I have to work on as well. Hehe, matter of

fact, I just got " The Idiot's Guide to Assertiveness " .

ellen

[Guest guest]

I am perfect scored 69 do I bow now or later.....rofl

Louisa

[Guest guest]

I am perfect scored 69 do I bow now or later.....rofl

Louisa

[Guest guest]

I am perfect scored 69 do I bow now or later.....rofl

Louisa

[Guest guest]

> I think my score was a 67? When I was younger, I wanted to save the

> world, hence the major in social work.

>

> Maggie

Then I would think your major was appropriate.

Sue, who actually remembers what we were talking about yesterday!

[Guest guest]

> I think my score was a 67? When I was younger, I wanted to save the

> world, hence the major in social work.

>

> Maggie

Then I would think your major was appropriate.

Sue, who actually remembers what we were talking about yesterday!

[Guest guest]

> I think my score was a 67? When I was younger, I wanted to save the

> world, hence the major in social work.

>

> Maggie

Then I would think your major was appropriate.

Sue, who actually remembers what we were talking about yesterday!

[Guest guest]

hehe, I suppose you're right. BUT, you don't know what my insides are doing

when I'm emailing it! LOL!! " Will she not want to walk anymore? " " Will

she think it's HER? " , " Will she think I'm a slacker? " GGGRRRRRR!! CAn't

wait till I start seeing the counselor next week!

ellen

RE: What is your empathy quotient?

It shouldn't, but it's something I have to work on as well. Hehe, matter

of

fact, I just got " The Idiot's Guide to Assertiveness " .

ellen

[Guest guest]

hehe, I suppose you're right. BUT, you don't know what my insides are doing

when I'm emailing it! LOL!! " Will she not want to walk anymore? " " Will

she think it's HER? " , " Will she think I'm a slacker? " GGGRRRRRR!! CAn't

wait till I start seeing the counselor next week!

ellen

RE: What is your empathy quotient?

It shouldn't, but it's something I have to work on as well. Hehe, matter

of

fact, I just got " The Idiot's Guide to Assertiveness " .

ellen

[Guest guest]

Mine is 37. Kinda low huh. :-(

Debbie with twins

- Jordan (ASD) 2.5yo

- (NT) 2.5yo