Re: Help/Depression

[Guest guest]

The first thing that I would suggest for you to do is to talk to your

dr. The reason that I say this is because you mentioned depression.

I have suffered from severe depression since my pregnancy with my 3

yr old daughter. Hormones in pregnancy are sooooooo crazy on it's

own, mix it up with depression and you can wind up in a bad place. I

have always wanted to have a houseful of kids. I currently have two

and am pregnant with #3. I got pregnant at only 6 months post op and

from the moment I found out I cried and was so depressed I could

barely get out of bed. I went back and forth with thoughts of

abortion, adoption, and keeping it. I was a mess. I finally talked

to my dr about my feelings (at around 24 weeks) and she adjusted

depression meds. I am a whole new person, I can't believe I waited

so long to talk to her! I am feeling like I used to and I am no

longer even thinking about abortion or adoption. I still have a hard

time sometimes when I see my big belly in the mirror (I was 20 lbs

from goal when I got pregnant) I freak out a little. But in

actuality, even though my tummy is BIG, I've only gained 3 pounds. I

just remind myself of the little bundle I will hold at the end of

this and I keep telling myself that the belly will go away and the

pounds will come off with a little work. After all, we will still

have our " tool " - pregnancy does not undo the surgery, right?

BTW: my first two pregnancies were not fun either, not high risk, but

9 months of puking and the last 3 were spent sleeping in a recliner

because I was in so much pain! I was miserable with both of them.

After this long-winded response, I am just trying to tell you that

you are not alone in how you are feeling. But make sure you take the

time to really really think about it before making a decision. If I

had gone through with terminating my pregnancy when I was thinking

about it, I would regret it so badly now I don't know if I could live

with myself!! HUGS! I hope that you can find some peace of mind to

help you through this.