RE: Update and question for those who have been there...

[Guest guest]

Hi Ivy, congratulations! And, good news on seeing the heartbeat and

the little one. Its always a great relief when signs of that

wonderful little life are given to us.

We told our 12 yr old when we were around 8 weeks along. He's been

through a miscarriage with us before and understood how things could

turn out. Besides, I was very sick for the first couple of months

and he definitely needed an explaination as to why after a year out

from WLS I was suddenly vomiting and sleeping all the time. He was

concerned that my surgery was going south. He went to my first

ultrasound appointment and that gave him a little more personal

feeling for the whole thing.

As for your family... You're an adult and I personally think this

wonderful news is worth celebrating with your loved ones, and (being

raised in a strict Catholic household too) I'm willing to bet they'll

embrace your excitement.

Good luck and congrats again.

Toi

EDD 8/17/04

[Guest guest]

Ivy,

I am almost 16 weeks(monday) pregnant and I have a 9 1/2 year old daughter. We

waited to tell her until we were about 8 weeks since I just had a miscarriage

w/triplets back in September and she was devastated by that. She was with me

when I had the ultrasound that confirmed there were no heartbeats. I broke down

in front of her and she was so confused but tried to comfort me like an adult.

We didn't want to hurt her again. She has wanted a sibling for so long and WLS

made it possible for me to get pregnant. She is so happy now. My best advice to

you is to wait as long as possible to make sure everything looks okay then

spread the news. If something were to happen then just explain that things

happen that we can't control and sometimes they are for the best. I wish you the

best of luck.

DE

RNY 10/16/02

Katelyn 6/94

Miscarriage w/triplets 9/03

EDD#2 8/2/04

" ivyjo215 " sij2003@...> wrote:

>Hello everyone. I am posting from work, I hope this goes through!

>Anyway, I am now 12 weeks, 5 days and had my appt Tuesday with my Dr.

>specifically to hear the heartbeat. Unfortunately, we couldn't hear

>it but she sent me across the street to a Radiology Center for an

>ultrasound. I was hoping for an ultrasound to see our little peanut

>but was then nervous because right away you think what is wrong with

>the baby. Everything turned out great, the HB was 156 beats/minute

>and I loved seeing him/her on the screen. I have a son who is 9 now

>but I had an u/s with him later in pregnancy, at 25 weeks so this was

>much different!! I got some great photos and one in particular the

>hand was up and she froze it then, adding the caption " Hi Jake " as if

>it were waving to my son! I cannot wait to show it to him. This

>leads to my question... when did you tell your other children that

>you were pregnant? We have only told a few people, my best friend

>just this week & he told his but wanted to wait until after the 12

>week period for others due to anything that may have gone wrong with

>the pregnancy. I know the risk is still here, just that the odds go

>down. I want to tell my son but my fiancée says it is too early.

>What is your experience? How about your employers? When did you

>tell them? Sorry, so many questions! I feel so happy about this, I

>want to tell people but is it too early from your point of view?

>When I found out I was pregnancy with Jake at 8 weeks, we told

>everyone right away but then again I was married too so maybe I

>should wait now... I just don't know! I have to admit even though I

>am almost 35 years old, I am already anticipating people bombarding

>me with when are you getting married then, etc. I don't even want to

>deal with that at this point. We already had planned to " elope " this

>summer but had no set date as it would have been spontaneous but even

>so I still don't have an answer to that question. I guess I

>shouldn't worry about what people think but unfortunately, I do too

>much! I was born & raised Catholic so telling my father will be hard

>but he will get over it-- I am having a baby, a sweet baby made out

>of love! My mom is great, I know she will be happy for us but also

>this will be the 9th grandchild for them.

>Thanks in advance for any thoughts or insights to my questions!

>Have a good day,

>Ivy

>Open RNY 11/7/00

>DOS 239; 12/25/03 138

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Have a great day!!

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