Re: To Shelly

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Babe, I didn't mean it as a compliment or a criticism... I just

thought it was funny that I'd misunderstood.

Actually, 40 isn't old, at all. Ask any 80-year-old you know!

But I will also tell you what the charming poet Judith Viorst once

told me in an interview: the 50s are even better! And that's true, in

my experience. We have been in some hell holes that make jaw surgery

look like a walk in the park in this, my sixth decade, but by and

large, it only gets better and better, honest. Especially if your

mouth is working and no longer a source of trouble!!!

And yes, it is wonderful to realize how many kind friends are eager

to help with whatever troubles you have. I agree totally.

Breathtaking, in fact.

Hmmmmmm. Ask your mom to go get out the blender, and fix you whatever

kind of chocolate shake you want, but put a couple of tablespoons of

peanut butter in it and blend it. Maybe that will help the craving.

It's good protein, too! ;~)

Besides, it'll drown out the chatter!

I dunno what your doc wants, but mine, although (or maybe because) I

wasn't wired, nor banded, did not want me trying to talk. " DO NOT

TALK " he said. " I know you like to talk. A lot. DO NOT. "

I tried not to... Not always successfully -- maybe I'm your mom's

first cousin!

Take care. You sound as though you're doing well, and I'm so glad.

C.

> I gues it is compliment that u thought I was 22 but since when is

40

> old. Age is only in the mind, I dont act or look my age. I am very

> athlethic and health enthusist that is probably the reason that I

> dont look my age. My students think Im in my early 30s. Hey but

> there in junior high what do they know. I post some picture before

> and after when it all goes down. but as u can see I am kind of

> sensitive about that big 40. U know what I am thrilled I did the

> surgery. A lot of my swelling went down today I can finally see how

> good it will look eventhough I did for functional reasons. the

> asthetic is just a great bonus. I hope that is an incentive for

some.

> This surgery made me realize something else that I am so blessed.

All

> my friends and family were very concerned. They been calling non

stop

> expressing their love and support. A bunch of people tried calling

> the hospital right after the surgery but they don't give out

> information Everyone from my dermatologist's receptionist to my

> principal to my ex- boyfriend has been calling. I guess sometimes

it

> takes trauma in your life to realize how many people's lives we all

> effect for the better. You don't realize how support from your

loved

> one really helps you get through it. As well as the support from

> those on this site.

> I have been able to talk on the phone today but it seems to be

tiring

> on my joints it seems to hurt after a while. Does that get better

> while ur wired banded and stinted? Most people seem to understand

me

> for about 20mins Then they start having trouble. Oh my god was it

> frustrating yesterday my mom was over and I told I cant talk

anymore

> it hurts. She said that ok I'll do all the talking. I think they

> should torture prisoners with my mother talking about herself.

> Guaranteed they will talk. . The juice diet is getting tired

> already. I am trying to do it in a healthy way. There is way too

many

> posions in Ensure. I am drinking protein shakes, fruit, vegetables

> and soups. Any other suggestions on stuff you can blend and drink.

I

> am a vegetarian. God I am craving peanut butter on toast right now.

> According to my scale I have lost 8pds already. I was 125 before

> surgery I want to be thin but not aneorexic. I have to be wired for

5

> wks.

> I was wondering if it normal for your jaw to feel very stressed

like

> someone is pulling it? If so when does that go away. Its like your

> joints are stressed. Thanks for the support and great advice. To

> Cammie you are the lovliest lady on the block. Regards to all,