Re: Need to whine

[Guest guest]

Whine away. I think it's very natural for this set of problems to be

consuming. It involves a lot of what we do and think and live.

Appearance, talking, breathing, money, eating, etc. It's a long-term

change, and there's pain involved, as well.

And then there are those sweet folks out there who, not considering

that they know nothing about orthodontics, dental treatments, oral

surgery, TMJ, etc., insist, " You look just fine, honey! Your teeth

look great to me. I don't see a reason in the world why you're

putting yourself through all of this. "

Humpf! Call my ortho and surgeon, if you wish, and they'll explain it

to you, if you, as do I, pay for their time to do so.

Let's go hypothetical. Suppose your husband suddenly discovered that

he had, oh, maybe, scoliosis, or some other skeletal malformation.

Maybe one leg was significantly shorter than the other. He hadn't

noticed, and nobody's ever measured... But by golly, yes. His hip

does cause him constant pain. And the ankles aren't quite right,

either, and well, yes, the knees seem to be more troublesome than

most. Not to mention the headaches, and that trouble in the lower

back...

If you found a doc, or a group of docs, who said, " Here's the

problem, and here's what it will take to put it right. It's gonna

cost, big-time, and be inconvenient, big-time, but we can fix it. " ...

If that happened, would you hesitate in the least to postpone any

dream you ever had to help the man you love?

I wouldn't. And I'll bet you wouldn't, either.

Best.

Cammie

> Hi All,

>

> Haven't posted in a while but I feel this strong urge to whine a

> little and am hoping that you all don't mind.

>

> I'm 42 and was told in January that I need surgery on my lower jaw

to

> correct a 10mm overbite, a crossbite, and also a deep bite (my

upper

> front teeth totally overlap my lower front teeth when I close) It

> all started with me not liking my teeth and asking my regular

dentist

> about cosmetic dentistry. Next thing I know, we're talking braces,

> surgery, three years in treatment and THEN cosmetic dentistry. I

> have my first visit with an oral surgeon in San Francisco on April

> 5th and am really hoping that he agrees with my orthodontist on

doing

> just the lower jaw because I can be a little claustrophobic and am

> really not wanting both done.

>

> The whining part is that I feel that this has totally taken over my

> life and I can't seem to get past the guilt that I feel over how

much

> this is going to cost. The braces alone are $7,000 (with no

> orthodontic insurance coverage)and I have no idea at this point how

> much of the surgery will be covered. My husband and I have been

> trying to get back on our feet after several financial setbacks and

> this is going to be putting our future on hold for even longer than

> planned.

>

> I have a whole laundry list of symptoms and complaints from my jaws

> being so messed up so why can't I just accept the fact that this is

> medically necessary and move on?

>

> OK, I'm done. Thanks for listening!

>

> Sue