Re: Husband having BSSO in 2 weeks...

[Guest guest]

Christy,

I had my BSSO on Feb 2nd. For me, the swelling peaked on day 3. After

that, the swelling subsided quite rapidly. As far as pain after the

surgery…I had very little and only requested one shot for the pain

(mainly so I could sleep a full night). I'm willing to bet that he'll

do just fine after the surgery.

The swelling will probably not be so great that it will scare your

baby. But if you are concerned I would suggest that you just monitor

the swelling and when you feel comfortable, let the baby see daddy.

If you have any more specific questions…don't hesitate to ask. There

are a lot of very informative people in this group who enjoy

answering your questions.

[Guest guest]

Christy,

I had my BSSO on Feb 2nd. For me, the swelling peaked on day 3. After

that, the swelling subsided quite rapidly. As far as pain after the

surgery…I had very little and only requested one shot for the pain

(mainly so I could sleep a full night). I'm willing to bet that he'll

do just fine after the surgery.

The swelling will probably not be so great that it will scare your

baby. But if you are concerned I would suggest that you just monitor

the swelling and when you feel comfortable, let the baby see daddy.

If you have any more specific questions…don't hesitate to ask. There

are a lot of very informative people in this group who enjoy

answering your questions.

[Guest guest]

Hi, Christy.

If your husband is just having his lower jaw done, I don't think he

will have to worry about the baby not recognizing him. I think the

biggest changes in appearance come from people who have their upper

jaws moved (or both upper and lower). Also, how much movement they

will be having done. Your husband's lips will probably be swollen, but

that goes away after a few days.

I had upper, lower and genio (chin) done almost 4 weeks ago, and my

kids (2 and 4) didn't have any problem recognizing me. I told them I

would be swollen like a blowfish, and we had fun pretending to be

swollen (this wouldn't really work for a 6 month old, though). They

were surprised at how big my lips were, but I drew a funny cartoon of

myself with huge lips, and they laughed and then they were fine. Do

you think your daughter would understand " Daddy has a boo-boo " ? Maybe

that would help her to understand that this swolen man is, in fact,

Daddy.

I wasn't in much pain at all--nothing that Tylenol or Motrin couldn't

handle--and I suspect the same for your husband. You can ask your

surgeon about eating--every doctor is a little different in how they

do things. Some people are allowed to eat soft foods right away, some

are on a liquid diet for 6 weeks. (I'm on week 3 1/2 of the 6-week

liquid diet, which isn't bad at all--I'm eating very well.)

This is a wonderfula place for asking questions and getting support,

so I'm glad you've found us.

Eileen :-)

> Hi, so glad I found this group. My husband is having BSSO soon and I

> feel so uninformed. All I know is what they are doing and why, but

> none of what to expect afterward. How much pain will he be in? how

> different wil he look in the long run, when will he be able to eat,

> will our baby be afraid of him...(she's ony 6mos. old, and i'm

> worried she'll wonder where daddy went and who os this strange

> swollen man on the couch.) I guess I'm not so much looking for

> specific answers as every person has a slightly different experience

> with this, but just support, guidance and tips on how to help him.

> Thanks so much for your help and THANK YOU for this group! I'll send

> my DH a link here so he can have some support in recovery.

> Sincerely

> Christy