Re: problem with spouse

[Guest guest]

> because of having diabetes and it hurts me and feels horrible. She does

> know this but if there were some way of showing her that i'm not strange and

> these things about me ARE normal, that would be of great help.

>

I think that spouses just dont understand. For instance last Friday I got up

at 5 am and was at diabetes classes all day, and did not get to sleep until

1am saturday. So anyone would be tired, but especially a diabetic like me who

was in a coma last may!! Well I asked my spouse to get up when our son did at 10

am on saturday and he muttered a bunch of stuff at me to the effect of why

couldnt I do it, and how I was always sick. Taht hurt like hell! I have enough

issues with feeling different and sick and not able to keep up, later he said

he was sorry that he was just tired but @@ like that helps it not hurt! So i

wish I had advise for you other than just trying to talk to her honestly and

open about how you feel, or maybe joining a support group or going to diabetes

classes, the classes helped my spouse some.

[Guest guest]

In a message dated 7/29/2004 11:47:18 AM Pacific Standard Time,

loggirl@... writes:

Hello all I have a problem I'd like to get any advice on. My other half

doesn't understand my diabetes (type 1) Thinks that i have too many lows etc,

when it is just an average i'm having. She critises (sp?) everything that is

wrong with me, but what she does not understand is that i am more vulnerable to

things (eg catching a cold more easily, being sick for longer then most people)

because of having diabetes and it hurts me and feels horrible. She does know

this but if there were some way of showing her that i'm not strange and these

things about me ARE normal, that would be of great help.

Helen

Hi Helen, I would call the diabetes society and ask them to send you some

" sick day " material. Then leave it lay where she may just pick it up and read

it. Hugs, marikyn