Re: Sexual response after hyst/Leonie

[Guest guest]

Leonie you make several very good and provocative points. i for one

had pretty much stopped having frequent sexual interactions with my

spouse prior to surgery - and when i was, i wasn't having orgasms

because i was on an antidepressant which had been prescribed to me

due to all the emotional and physical anxiety/depression my situation

had caused me! so going off of that immediately after surgery gave

me a better chance of returning to my previous " orgasmic " self once

the time came that i had healed enough to resume sexual relations.

i also agree that trying to measure what your individual response

will be based on other's experience following a hysterectomy doesn't

necessarily mean that you will have the same outcome. HOWEVER i must

confess knowing there were women out there who'd had it done and

still had orgasms - well, it gave me hope. and although i do NOT

discount the uterus as part of the sexual functioning of women (i

always believed it was more than a " baby house " , which is why i hung

on to it for so long!) i also believe that (for me, at least) a big

portion of how i would do following was based in part on my mind and

how i perceived i would " do " (i.e., would I be orgasmic or not) and

hearing positive stories definitely impacted my perspective at the

time of sexual interaction.

AND finally as i stated in my previous email, i too agree that the

skill of the surgeon has an ENORMOUS impact on whether or not a woman

is left with the possibility of a host of problems. i actually chose

not to use my regular gynecologist because i didn't think she had

enough experience using a laproscope and i wanted to reduce the

potential for error. so i actually traveled out of town to a

more " proficient " MD - like so many women on this board have done for

myomectomies.

i still think that it's CRITICAL for women to try as best as they can

to determine if fibroids are the only source of their pain, bleeding,

etc. so they can make the best choice regarding which procedure is

best for them. i was under the impression (based on repeated

ultrasounds and a laproscopic " look-see " ) for the past several years

that fibroids were

the major source of my problem, and although there were numerous

fibroids, there was also endo, adeno, and adhesions --- all of which

were contributing greatly to my pain and bleeding and which would not

have been ultimately rectified by having just a myo or an UAE.

thanks again for your thoughtful response to the original message.