Intro & re.: To re: getting pregnant after myo

[Guest guest]

I guess this is as good a time as any to

introduce myself. My name is . I'm 33

yo, married with an 11 1/2 mo dd.

Almost two years ago, I had my myo. I did a

short course of Lupron (3 months) immediately

after. My gyn told me that if I planned to have

any children, I needed to start trying right

after I got my first period. We literally

conceived on the first try. I know because sex

was still pretty uncomfortable at that point, so

it didn't happen often. FYI - doc told me we

could start having protected sex w/in 6 weeks

post-surgery. After the first few tries, I

certainly never pushed the issue w/dh. It hurt

too much, no matter how gentle he tried to be.

But we really wanted kids.

I had the whole childbirth thing all planned out

- I would deliver at home in my bathtub with a

midwife & a loving support system, breastfeeding

immediately, etc. So I was quite dismayed when I

was unable to find a single midwife or even OB in

Houston, with our extensive medical facilities,

who would touch me if I would not consent to a

scheduled C-section. The fibroids that were cut

out were on the inside and outside of my uterus

and a couple that went all the way through. As

I'm sure many of you do, I have endometriosis, as

well. So I finally resigned myself to the fact

that I had no other option. One OB actually

looked at my surgical report and told me, " Don't

even think about it. You should just be thankful

that you're hoving a kid at all " . What a

tenderheart.

So I found an OB that I really liked (my gyn who

I LOVE doesn't do OB any more) and had my dd via

a scheduled C-section a year to the date from my

surgery. It was still a truly magical

experience. I feel like my life began the day

she was born. We practice Attachment Parenting,

plan to homeschool, and my husband and I both

have developed a strong bond with her, and we

both want more kids. I was ready to get pregnant

again as soon as she was born. Especially once I

was able to somewhat stop worrying about uterine

rupture during the pregnancy, I LOVED being

pregnant, and with my medical condition, I really

don't know if I'll be able to have any more. So

I've just been bathing in the bliss of motherhood

for the last year.

Enter the new issue of Mothering magazine. I

love the publication. It's always been a great

source of information & support. This issue has

a lenthy article about VBACs. For the very first

time, while reading the article, I'm finding the

emotions of the whole situation surfacing. I

guess I've just been ignoring them, but it's

evident now that those days are over.

I've got a great support system. I try to

surround myself with people who have similar

family values and are positive influences. The

only problem is that none of them are in the same

position I'm in, so no matter how much they want

to, they just can't understand. I talked to my

local ICAN (Internation Cesarean Awareness

Network) leader, and she even said I'm the only

woman she knows who is not a candidate for VBAC.

If I'm blessed with another baby, then I'll be

dealing with the whole surgical birth thing

again, and I guess that's where the grief starts

rearing its ugly head. I am immensely thankful

for my dd. But I still feel that I've been

robbed of a basic womanly right - the right to a

natural childbirth.

So here I am. It's comforting to find kindred

spirits. I look forward to giving and receiving

support from this group. Thanks for having me.

)

--- littlepetuniablossom68

ldstevens@...> wrote:

> My Dr. recommended waiting at least 4-6 months

> after my myo to try to get pregnant (and my fibroids were all on

> the outside). I think some Drs. will tell you sooner, but I think

> most will tell you to wait at least a couple months.

>

>When is the soonest your doc. has said you can

> try to get pregnant post myo ?

[Guest guest]

Hi ,

18 years ago I had planned a natural childbirth only to have a C-

section and was disappointed just as you are. All I can say is time

heals, and in the end it really doesn't matter. You are no less a

women or a mother because you had a C-section instead of a natural

birth. Trust me on this one..... Try not to dwell on the negative

thoughs and just enjoy every precious minute you have with your

baby. One day you'll turn around and your daughter will be 18 too!

They really do grow up quickly. Hope this helps a bit.

Gerri

But I still feel that I've been robbed of a basic womanly right - the right to a

natural childbirth.