To Habon - Upcoming Surgery (and Delle)

[Guest guest]

Hi Habon -

If I were in your shoes, I would not hesitate to cancel this surgery and run as

quickly as possible from this Dr. With fibroids, you do have time to conduct a

little more research until you find a surgeon you feel comfortable with and in

whose skills you have complete confidence. Once you're in the op'g room, you

need to be able to thoroughly trust that your Dr will do what you want him to do

for you, and it clearly looks like waking up without a uterus is not your

objective.

I don't disagree that it is every Dr's responsibility to provide his patients

with all relevent information associated with a procedure, including risks, but

he should not terrify you with the negative possibilities or discuss them to

excess (ie uncontrollable bleeding/transfusions/hysto/even death/etc) ...From

what you're saying, it sounds like he's not confident in himself and is

preparing you for acceptance of a possible and entirely unwanted result due to

his lack of skills. It's your body, and you may only get this one chance.

You're very young and you want children... do you trust him? Do you think

you're going to trust him next Friday?

Should you decide to cancel (and I'm sure I'm not the only one here hoping you

do), please remember that, IF you find a qualified/skilled Dr, there is no such

thing as a fibroid case that is so big or so difficult that your uterus cannot

be preserved--and further, I believe, be preserved in a manner that allows you

the ability to conceive and carry a full term pregnancy (ask Dr West), and no

reason ever for a surgeon to convert to a hysto (except for cancer). There have

been lists here on the site of questions to ask a potential Dr during the

evaluation process. Also, absolutely wonderful resources are books by Carla and

Dr's and Stanley West that you might find priceless right now to

assist you in making an informed decision. None of them take very long to read

and all 3 are written in a format that is very easy to understand.

My Dr's consent form which I signed the day prior to surgery very clearly stated

that the procedure to be performed was to be " MYOMECTOMY--NO HYSTERECTOMY " , and

my Dr GUARANTEED myo (unless cancer was present). I don't know if other Dr's

and their forms are similar, but I do know that there are other very qualified

Dr's out there besides the one I chose who would be worthy of your trust. Yours

appears not to be one of them. While on that subject, neither does the one who

has had his patient on Lupron for the past 9 mths (Delle, holy cow!)!! Where do

you both live? I'm sure someone on the list can help point you to more

qualified Dr's. We aren't Dr's (at least I'm not), but we're all here to help

women like both of you as best we can-- please take advantage of us! I know

that if we posted something inaccurate or otherwise off-base, Carla would no

doubt pitch in to correct us.

Marie