Re: sex and ALS

[Guest guest]

,

That sounds like a question only you can answer.As for myself I told my wife

if she wanted to she could but she said shes with me till the end thank GOD but

I felt it was only fair to her.I told her I would rather get a divorce first

though so she wouldnt be stuck with the bills or the worry.I guess its different

for women though.We can still have sex but its difficult and I cant move the way

I used too so I dont bother her about it and shes the type that can do without

it.I guess you will have to figure out how you would feel about it and you two

sit down and talk about it in depth.

Your Friend

journeying03 journeying03@...> wrote:

Hello,

My husband has recently come to me and asked me if it would be alright

for him to have " physical releases " with other woman. He still loves

me, he says, but he is still young (42) and has certain needs. I want

to support him. He did ask for my permission.

What should I do? What are some ways of dealing with this?

Please help,

[Guest guest]

,

That sounds like a question only you can answer.As for myself I told my wife

if she wanted to she could but she said shes with me till the end thank GOD but

I felt it was only fair to her.I told her I would rather get a divorce first

though so she wouldnt be stuck with the bills or the worry.I guess its different

for women though.We can still have sex but its difficult and I cant move the way

I used too so I dont bother her about it and shes the type that can do without

it.I guess you will have to figure out how you would feel about it and you two

sit down and talk about it in depth.

Your Friend

journeying03 journeying03@...> wrote:

Hello,

My husband has recently come to me and asked me if it would be alright

for him to have " physical releases " with other woman. He still loves

me, he says, but he is still young (42) and has certain needs. I want

to support him. He did ask for my permission.

What should I do? What are some ways of dealing with this?

Please help,

[Guest guest]

,

That sounds like a question only you can answer.As for myself I told my wife

if she wanted to she could but she said shes with me till the end thank GOD but

I felt it was only fair to her.I told her I would rather get a divorce first

though so she wouldnt be stuck with the bills or the worry.I guess its different

for women though.We can still have sex but its difficult and I cant move the way

I used too so I dont bother her about it and shes the type that can do without

it.I guess you will have to figure out how you would feel about it and you two

sit down and talk about it in depth.

Your Friend

journeying03 journeying03@...> wrote:

Hello,

My husband has recently come to me and asked me if it would be alright

for him to have " physical releases " with other woman. He still loves

me, he says, but he is still young (42) and has certain needs. I want

to support him. He did ask for my permission.

What should I do? What are some ways of dealing with this?

Please help,

[Guest guest]

Get to a councilor that specializes in working with couples with chronic

diseases. He may sound like a cad to many, but my guess is it's more of

" what can I do, I do have these urges? " .

dale

sex and ALS

>

> Hello,

>

> My husband has recently come to me and asked me if it would be alright

> for him to have " physical releases " with other woman. He still loves

> me, he says, but he is still young (42) and has certain needs. I want

> to support him. He did ask for my permission.

>

> What should I do? What are some ways of dealing with this?

>

>

[Guest guest]

Get to a councilor that specializes in working with couples with chronic

diseases. He may sound like a cad to many, but my guess is it's more of

" what can I do, I do have these urges? " .

dale

sex and ALS

>

> Hello,

>

> My husband has recently come to me and asked me if it would be alright

> for him to have " physical releases " with other woman. He still loves

> me, he says, but he is still young (42) and has certain needs. I want

> to support him. He did ask for my permission.

>

> What should I do? What are some ways of dealing with this?

>

>

[Guest guest]

Get to a councilor that specializes in working with couples with chronic

diseases. He may sound like a cad to many, but my guess is it's more of

" what can I do, I do have these urges? " .

dale

sex and ALS

>

> Hello,

>

> My husband has recently come to me and asked me if it would be alright

> for him to have " physical releases " with other woman. He still loves

> me, he says, but he is still young (42) and has certain needs. I want

> to support him. He did ask for my permission.

>

> What should I do? What are some ways of dealing with this?

>

>

[Guest guest]

Hi . I agree with Dale. Before you give him the 'go ahead', try

to see a counselor that works in the area of chronic illnesses. In

my area there is an ALS Society who can refer you to such a person.

Perhaps there are other alternatives that could be explored.

Hugs.

Di..............Canada

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>

> Hello,

>

> My husband has recently come to me and asked me if it would be

alright

> for him to have " physical releases " with other woman. He still

loves

> me, he says, but he is still young (42) and has certain needs. I

want

> to support him. He did ask for my permission.

>

> What should I do? What are some ways of dealing with this?

>

>

> Please help,

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Give me a Break What are wedding vows for and what do they say

Excuse me, but im old fashioned and i beleive that the vows i made

that special day mean alot to me and my wife . GEO

>

>

> Hello,

>

> My husband has recently come to me and asked me if it would be

alright

> for him to have " physical releases " with other woman. He still

loves

> me, he says, but he is still young (42) and has certain needs. I

want

> to support him. He did ask for my permission.

>

> What should I do? What are some ways of dealing with this?

>

>

> Please help,

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Sounds like a question for Dr. Phil to me. There are way too

many 'what if's that neither of you have probably thought of at this

point.

Now for next part of my statement I will go ahead and apologize

beforehand to the individuals that find it offensive. About 9 months

ago I ran across a program on Nova (of all places) on Techno Sex. I

was utterly amazed. The unit they demo-ed was for the female's

enjoyment but they also described the R&D on the male unit. The female

unit was a reclining lounge with separate moveable supports for legs

and arms. Without making this a porno message I will simply say

everything was connected in someway to a computer. The partner could

talk and interact with the female thru the computer whether they were

in the room, down the hall or on a business trip in Tokoyo. Items of

the aparatus could be lengthen, shortened, widened, narrowed,

accelerated,increased/decreased in pressure and/or speed by the partner

in response to the female's communication.

Nova detailed uses/needs for such devices such as a spouse who is

quadraplegic, irreversible erectile dysfunction, a spouse who is

constantly traveling on long overseas trips, and of course on the dark

side Internet sexual gradification with animinity, no risk of pregnancy

or sexually transmitted diseases.

Ok so now I imagine several males in this group are already on Google.

lol

Please investigate all other possibilities thru counseling and a joint

session with your family doctor.

Eva

>

>

> Hello,

>

> My husband has recently come to me and asked me if it would be

alright

> for him to have " physical releases " with other woman. He still loves

> me, he says, but he is still young (42) and has certain needs. I want

> to support him. He did ask for my permission.

>

> What should I do? What are some ways of dealing with this?

>

>

> Please help,

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

:

I asked myself what I would do if my husband of 45 years had ever asked me that

question, and here is what my answer would have been, absolutely NO! I couldn't

imagine him with any other woman, and I couldn't handle that kind of stress.

When we married we talked about situations like that, and what we would do, and

he we said we would be and stay together no matter what, and that day did come

when I was diagnosed in 1986. I was young when this hit me, and even though it

did take it's toll on our sex life at one time or another, the was and still is

enough love to hold us together till the end comes. I sometimes ask him how he

can still be physically attractive to some one who walks like the enstein

Monster, and he gets very upset with me, and says to me what if I were in your

shoes??? It's called unconditional love, and we have it. I can't tell you as a

couple what to do or how to handle your particular situation, but if there is a

will there is a way (if you get m

e message).

Good Luck to you an do hope you can work it out.

Rita

Till next time!

Love & Hugs

******************************

Some people succeed in spite of their handicap.

Others succeed because of them.

sex and ALS

Hello,

My husband has recently come to me and asked me if it would be alright

for him to have " physical releases " with other woman. He still loves

me, he says, but he is still young (42) and has certain needs. I want

to support him. He did ask for my permission.

What should I do? What are some ways of dealing with this?

Please help,

[Guest guest]

Rita, I couldnt have said it any better myself. Here, Here!

Aussie Maureen

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> :

>

> I asked myself what I would do if my husband of 45 years had ever

asked me that question, and here is what my answer would have been,

absolutely NO! I couldn't imagine him with any other woman, and I

couldn't handle that kind of stress. When we married we talked about

situations like that, and what we would do, and he we said we would

be and stay together no matter what, and that day did come when I was

diagnosed in 1986. I was young when this hit me, and even though it

did take it's toll on our sex life at one time or another, the was

and still is enough love to hold us together till the end comes. I

sometimes ask him how he can still be physically attractive to some

one who walks like the enstein Monster, and he gets very upset

with me, and says to me what if I were in your shoes??? It's called

unconditional love, and we have it. I can't tell you as a couple

what to do or how to handle your particular situation, but if there

is a will there is a way (if you get m

> e message).

>

> Good Luck to you an do hope you can work it out.

>

> Rita

>

> Till next time!

>

> Love & Hugs

>

>

>

> ******************************

> Some people succeed in spite of their handicap.

> Others succeed because of them.

>

>

>

> sex and ALS

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>

> Hello,

>

> My husband has recently come to me and asked me if it would be

alright

> for him to have " physical releases " with other woman. He still

loves

> me, he says, but he is still young (42) and has certain needs. I

want

> to support him. He did ask for my permission.

>

> What should I do? What are some ways of dealing with this?

>

>

> Please help,

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

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[Guest guest]

That would be a personal decision but for me I couldn't stand knowing my hubby

was having sex with someone else. Susieq

sex and ALS

Hello,

My husband has recently come to me and asked me if it would be alright

for him to have " physical releases " with other woman. He still loves

me, he says, but he is still young (42) and has certain needs. I want

to support him. He did ask for my permission.

What should I do? What are some ways of dealing with this?

Please help,

[Guest guest]

OK, now that others have had their say I have a suggestion--tell your

hubby to " Talk to the Hand! " if you know what I mean! ;o) Not judging

but I know it wouldn't be acceptable for me!

Sue Me

> That would be a personal decision but for me I couldn't stand

knowing my hubby was having sex with someone else. Susieq

>

[Guest guest]

Sueme, didnt you already have your say replying to " thanks for the

comments " ? Which was constructive.

I consider this reply offensive.

aussie maureen

>

> OK, now that others have had their say I have a suggestion--tell your

> hubby to " Talk to the Hand! " if you know what I mean! ;o) Not

judging

> but I know it wouldn't be acceptable for me!

>

> Sue Me

>

> > That would be a personal decision but for me I couldn't stand

> knowing my hubby was having sex with someone else. Susieq

> >

>

[Guest guest]

Hi ,

I don't know how affected you are by PLS but I would think you could still

have sex with your husband and he wouldn't need to look elsewhere for physical

release. There are books and magazines that deal with issues such as sex and

physically challenged people. I would think there are lots of things you & your

husband could do together which could bring pleasure to both of you, just use

your imagination and ge tsome books or whatever it takes. I sure wouldn't want

my husband looking to have sex with someone else cause I'm afraid it would lead

to more than just sex unless of course he would go to a prostitute and pay for

sex so it would be less likey to lead to more.

What about your physical needs and desires and intimacy like cuddling and

holding each other and so on.

Good luck and I hope you find a solution that works for you & your husband. I

can't wait to hear what SueMe has to say on this subject.

Donna HSP Ca

journeying03 journeying03@...> wrote:

Hello,

My husband has recently come to me and asked me if it would be alright

for him to have " physical releases " with other woman. He still loves

me, he says, but he is still young (42) and has certain needs. I want

to support him. He did ask for my permission.

What should I do? What are some ways of dealing with this?

Please help,