Query appearing in AARP this month.....

[Guest guest]

From AARP Magazine, June 2004

Q: I'm dating a great lady who enjoys sex, but she's had a

hysterectomy and takes a long time to climax, if at all. I tend to

climax before she does, so I have trouble fully pleasing her. What can

help? —Jake S., Tyler, Texas

read the doctor's answer here (scroll down on the page to the second

question):

http://www.aarpmagazine.org/lifestyle/Articles/a2004-06-01-modernlove.html

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[Guest guest]

After reading this question and answer, I didn't even need to check out the

author's name to know the answer was written by a male...and an

unenlightened one, at that. What gave him away?

" Most important, ask how you could arouse her more before sex. "

That old male assumption glares out of this sentence: " real " sex is

intercourse, real sex is the part where the male gets off.

We need a new name for " foreplay " . The word itself implies that it's an

appetizer before the main course...while good sexual experience for both

partners is really more like a buffet than a formal meal with a lesser

course and than a main one. Each selects what they want to enjoy or what

works best for them, and they share it. And no one part is less or more

" sexual " than another.

Leonie

[Guest guest]

I couldn't agree more, Leonie. I read a review of a book this week ( " She

Comes First " -- the review was on Salon.com) that suggested the term

" coreplay. " I like it!

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>Reply-To: uterinefibroids

>To: uterinefibroids

>Subject: RE: Query appearing in AARP this month.....

>Date: Fri, 04 Jun 2004 08:18:23 -0400

>We need a new name for " foreplay " .

[Guest guest]

Good word, -- COREPLAY. I'm going to start using it. Words

have power. Foreplay is a description totally from a man's point of

view.

Leonie

> I couldn't agree more, Leonie. I read a review of a book this week

( " She

> Comes First " -- the review was on Salon.com) that suggested the

term

> " coreplay. " I like it!

[Guest guest]

" There are about 3,000 ways to please her after you've climaxed, and

she can walk you through most of them. "

How about BEFORE he climaxes? That's what a smart man would do. So

glad I'm married to one!

" Also, don't assume that she feels cheated until you've asked her.

From your note, it doesn't seem as if she's complaining. " Many women

enjoy the closeness and warmth of sex, even if they don't climax, "

Zoldbrod says. "

Yeah right, we only do it for the cuddling. I'd like to hear a man

say that he doesn't mind not having an orgasm because he really just

likes the cuddling.

> > I couldn't agree more, Leonie. I read a review of a book this

week

> ( " She

> > Comes First " -- the review was on Salon.com) that suggested the

> term

> > " coreplay. " I like it!