Family issues affecting fibroids

[Guest guest]

At the moment I am working on family issues.

My mother mistreated me as a child (what she is still denying) and I

still have enormous problems with her.

I recently decided again to drop contact with her, now forever, which

I had done in the past several times and often I did not spoke to her

for at least a year, sometimes two.

Last time she took care for some hours of my son and again she did

not gave me my son back and again (now the third time!), I had to

come with the police for getting my son back.

Now I decided it is time to take some legal steps against her, I just

have enough and I have to protect myself for such crazy people.

She will never see me or my son again, she is completely mean, lazy

and bitchy.

Well, the point is, I read over and over that a lot of women with

fibroids have issues with their family especially with their

mothers.I read it over and over again and because of the recent

private matters in my life, I finally feel the need to talk about

that.

It also seems to be that I have to divorce the whole family of my

mother and my father because he watched the mistreating and he did

nothing and still is doing nothing. What a lame coward guy!

But anyhow the seperation before was always only temporarily, now I

will divorce my parents and the family of my mother for good.

And you now what, it gives me an enormous power and well-being.

Finally, to see how bad and mean they are, how jealous and lazy, to

realize it and to say, well that is enough, go away there forever and

enjoy your life with people who are lovely, supportive and give yon

energy instead to take it away.

God thanks, that I had only one fibroid which was removed via

myomectomy.

I do not want to say disclose ladies, but are here any women in that

group who also have some serious family issuses?

If anyone here wants to discuss something privately, do not hestitate

to email me privately.

Sui

[Guest guest]

Hi Sui,

As a toddler, I was locked in a basement and only allowed to come up

stairs for meals and to use the bathroom (so my mother could watch

all her stories). I feel it is abusesive to lock a child in a

basement all day even with toys. My mother feels I had the all the

comforts of my own private playroom. I didn't want a playroom, I

wanted my mom, but she wasn't available. Her TV soaps were more

important. It didn't get any better. I left home within 2 weeks of

turning 18. Years later, I talked to my family doctor about it. He

told me I didn't have to love my parents but I had to respect the

fact that they were my parents. Realizing that helped me

tremendously, so I share those words with you. Accept her for who

she is, not who you want her to be, and expect no more from her than

who she is. Hope this helps.

Gerri

[Guest guest]

When I've browsed amongst women's health and fibroid books

in bookshops I noticed a couple that latched on to the idea of

connections to that kind of emotional trauma. I have an idea

there's one particular author into this idea.

I don't like this portrayal of fibroid sufferers myself, but it may be

worth exploring whether prolonged or excessive stress has a

role in fibroids appearing and/or growing. Disruption of

hormonal balance makes sense.

To me, if something like 1 in 5 women have fibroids then that

would be an awful lot of women with emotional trauma.

I suppose it could be various sources of stress/adrenaline in the

past or present? It's one of those things that's hard to prove one

way or the other.

I'm glad things are changing for the better for you. I found last

year (The fibroid year) made me re-assess plans and attitudes.

You might find those books insightful, but I can't remember the

titles.