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In a message dated 5/3/2006 12:42:34 PM Eastern Standard Time,

jkldski4@... writes:

Thanks for being supportive, this is so difficult to deal with. She

is 17 and the law states she does not have to live at home, but I am

still legally responsible for her. But she wont come home.

You are welcome, , anytime. Bide your time and don't push. My mantra

was, " the more I push, the more I push her away " . I lived by this, let her go,

and she came back.

You will be fine.

DebbieL

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My daughter has manipulated the mom into believing that this whole

running away episode is due to her being a lesbian and that we her

parents will not accept her, and also that we abuse her. We have

talked to the mom and let her know that daughter is bi-polar and

bpd. The mom allows the friend to come over every day and on the

weekends....something we never allowed because the friend is very

disrespectful. She has even allowed her to get a kitten with

her " friend " . My daughter is only in 10th grade and has two more

years of highschool. She has embarrsed our family beyond belief and

her dad and I are so confused. I think by not enabling her she will

come to see how difficult it is to support herself. But at this

point she seems to be doing fine. We do not go to any of her

highschool softbll games.....it is too painful to see her with her

entorage of " friends " and surrogate mom on the side lines. I

actually think she likes all the attention.....even if it is

disrespectful and negative in my eyes. I hope by just letting things

run its course it will end up being the right thing to do right now.

Thanks for being supportive, this is so difficult to deal with. She

is 17 and the law states she does not have to live at home, but I am

still legally responsible for her. But she wont come home.

[Guest guest]

I think I remember you telling saying that you still financially support your

daughter even while out of the house. Perhaps you should re-consider that,

seems to me she is getting the best of both worlds. When will she be 18?

kaknits1 jkldski4@...> wrote: My daughter has manipulated the mom

into believing that this whole

running away episode is due to her being a lesbian and that we her

parents will not accept her, and also that we abuse her. We have

talked to the mom and let her know that daughter is bi-polar and

bpd. The mom allows the friend to come over every day and on the

weekends....something we never allowed because the friend is very

disrespectful. She has even allowed her to get a kitten with

her " friend " . My daughter is only in 10th grade and has two more

years of highschool. She has embarrsed our family beyond belief and

her dad and I are so confused. I think by not enabling her she will

come to see how difficult it is to support herself. But at this

point she seems to be doing fine. We do not go to any of her

highschool softbll games.....it is too painful to see her with her

entorage of " friends " and surrogate mom on the side lines. I

actually think she likes all the attention.....even if it is

disrespectful and negative in my eyes. I hope by just letting things

run its course it will end up being the right thing to do right now.

Thanks for being supportive, this is so difficult to deal with. She

is 17 and the law states she does not have to live at home, but I am

still legally responsible for her. But she wont come home.

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