happy new year

[Guest guest]

Gotta say, I agree with your son, Janie! 23 is my favorite number due to

it's my favorite ball player's number.

That would be Ryne Sandberg and he's finally been voted into the Hall of

Fame this year too. SO I must say

It is a very special year! I wish your son a very Happy Birthday! (My

birthday comes 3 days after his too. LOL)

Happy 23!

in Va.

Thanks Sim!!! The very same back to you. )

My son told me that this was to be his VERY special year. Why?

Because he is turning 23 on Jan. 23rd. 23 on 23!! We should all have

such a special year!!

Janie in Colorado USA

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[Guest guest]

Hi Elaine,

What a horrible couple of days. I don't know how you

do it.

If you ask me (and nobody has :-) I think your next

plan of action is great:

get help for yourself and a plan in place for the next

time this happens to you!

It sounds as though it has already happened too many

times.

By all means take care of yourself. I hope you can

take a few days off from grandkids as well as kids and

take some deep breaths, have a good cup of coffee, or

whatever it is you enjoy.

Here's sending lots of wishes for peace back to you!!!

Deborah

> I see my own psycholgist tomorrow and I am going

> toa sk him to help me with a plan for next time,

> this is the third or fourth major drunk in the alst

> 2 months and I am not going to support it or rescue

> anymore so I need to set up a plan and thne find a

> way to spell it out for her so wish me luck...

>

> Elaine

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[Guest guest]

In a message dated 1/1/2006 11:10:43 PM Eastern Standard Time,

helpbpdmom@... writes:

I knew calling 911 would terrify grand and I also knew that time would ease

the situation adn it did. I just got home and I just need to unload, my body is

stiff with tension so I am going to hjsut chill amd relax.

I see my own psycholgist tomorrow and I am going toa sk him to help me with

a plan for next time, this is the third or fourth major drunk in the alst 2

months and I am not going to support it or rescue anymore so I need to set up a

plan and thne find a way to spell it out for her so wish me luck...

Elaine

I don't want to tell you what to do, but seems to me you keep rescuing your

daughter on behalf of your grand. This is not going to work or get your

daughter any better. Calling 911 and then shielding grand from it would have

been

better. I would have called 911, then left her house w/grand. Something

drastic has to be done in order for your daughter to start on the road to

recovery.

There's always going to be a " next time " . I would have put my foot down

THIS and final time. She belongs in a hospital. I feel for your grand, but she

has you to take care of her. I wish you a better new year.

DebbieL

[Guest guest]

Elaine,

Good that you have a plan. Perhaps you can have a backup plan for someone to

watch grand so she doesn't have to be subjected to this. Not a way for her to

live!

You are a good mom!!!

The answers are easy when there is no grandchild involved. Becomes trickier

when kids are involved.

Keep us posted, Let us know what happens.

Peace in 2006!

Carol

-------------- Original message --------------

> Dear friends, I have just come home from a very frightening experience. Last

> night started out great, Iw ent for dinner with mny kids, partners and grand.

> Dgters partner was a jerk, had a scowl the whole time, said he thought we were

> wasting good money, it was expernsive but it was New Years and he had agreed

to

> come. Then when my dgter went to the washroom he loudly said he didn't know

how

> much longer he was going to be able to ahndle ehr, she is a handfull. I agree

> but very inappropriate. it was all I could do to stay at that point.

> Then dgter decided, not asking, that I would babysit because they " " needed " to

> party....not a big deal.

>

> Today was as bad as it gets. Grand and I went to church, thank God we started

> off strong. Got home to dgter calling, clearly drunk, yelling, abusive. I hung

> up, grand crying. She calls back, told me the dog needed to be picked up, he

ahd

> run away (smart dog!!!) and get HER dgter home and bring food...

>

> So grand now really upset so I deceided to go thinking I would droip ehr off

> and leave but found dgter with alcohol poisoning. I called the Health Link for

> advice and ws told keep ehr hydrated and asleep and if she got violent to call

> 911. It was awful, she would sleep, get sick, yell, sleep....I knew calling

911

> would terrify grand and I also knew that time would ease the situation adn it

> did. I just got home and I just need to unload, my body is stiff with tension

so

> I am going to hjsut chill amd relax.

>

> I see my own psycholgist tomorrow and I am going toa sk him to help me with a

> plan for next time, this is the third or fourth major drunk in the alst 2

months

> and I am not going to support it or rescue anymore so I need to set up a plan

> and thne find a way to spell it out for her so wish me luck...

>

> Elaine

>

>

> May there be peace on earth and may it begin with me and with each one of us

> Elaine

>

> ---------------------------------

> Find your next car at Yahoo! Canada Autos

>

>

[Guest guest]

Elaine

I am so sorry to hear that your daughter seems to be in another downward

spiral. For your own sake, please take some action on setting your boundaries.

I hope you did nothing to locate her dog when she demanded that you do and

that you did not respond to her demanding the return of your grand and

bringing daughter food. She is acting like a spoiled brat again. Are you

still

goig to weekly counseling sessions?

My daughter's husband will be getting out of the slammer on the 17th of this

month so we will see what type of emotional crap I'll be involved in.

Hopefully, I will maintain my boundaries. I have been good, I make NO negative

comments about him. I did tell my daughter last week during a conversation

that I have resigned myself to her choices in men and if these are the types

she

wants in her life, well bottom line, it is her choice and her life.

And quite honestly, that is really how I feel. I would have wanted to see

her with a nice, hardworking guy obviously with no substance abuse problems

and no prison record(silly me), but if this is what she chooses, this IS what

she chooses. I toild her I cannot live her life, only my own.

The boys are getting older and more mature by the day. THey seem to have a

very good idea of what is good, wholesome, etc. Their comments sometimes

amaze me. So I feel confident this is much hope for thema nd their futures. I

hope I am correct.

Jean

Jean

[Guest guest]

Hi Jean,

I just wanted to tell you how I respect the way you've worked through so

much with your daughter. She's had you emotionally at her mercy for so

long, and it's been good for me to see how you've become stronger by

somewhat accepting her " disorder " , setting your boundaries, and remaining

alert to what could be ahead of you.

I must also say your style of writing and choice of words often gives me a

chuckle. Case in point --

your " silly me " when referring to your preference your daughter choose men

without prison records.

I firmly believe a sense of humor can keep us sane during life's trials.

Joan

----Original Message Follows----

From: cascorsam@...

Reply-To: WTOParentsOfBPs

To: WTOParentsOfBPs

Subject: Re: Happy New Year

Date: Wed, 4 Jan 2006 12:20:37 EST

Elaine

I am so sorry to hear that your daughter seems to be in another downward

spiral. For your own sake, please take some action on setting your

boundaries.

I hope you did nothing to locate her dog when she demanded that you do and

that you did not respond to her demanding the return of your grand and

bringing daughter food. She is acting like a spoiled brat again. Are you

still

goig to weekly counseling sessions?

My daughter's husband will be getting out of the slammer on the 17th of

this

month so we will see what type of emotional crap I'll be involved in.

Hopefully, I will maintain my boundaries. I have been good, I make NO

negative

comments about him. I did tell my daughter last week during a conversation

that I have resigned myself to her choices in men and if these are the

types she

wants in her life, well bottom line, it is her choice and her life.

And quite honestly, that is really how I feel. I would have wanted to see

her with a nice, hardworking guy obviously with no substance abuse problems

and no prison record(silly me), but if this is what she chooses, this IS

what

she chooses. I toild her I cannot live her life, only my own.

The boys are getting older and more mature by the day. THey seem to have a

very good idea of what is good, wholesome, etc. Their comments sometimes

amaze me. So I feel confident this is much hope for thema nd their

futures. I

hope I am correct.

Jean

Jean

[Guest guest]

Jean, I think this is a big step for you, accepting the choices your daughter

makes in men. It's not easy we all want what's best for our children, but I

know I am realizing everyday that mine has to go through her own experiences

with limited input from me. So far she is making good choices, she is starting

classes at our community college on Monday. I am so proud of her!!! This is a

big step and she seems excited. I never thought we would be in this place now,

I know a huge part of our success has been my participation with this group.

It has given me such strength. You have been a big part of that Jean.

I have learned a new technique being used for bi-polar disorder, alcoholism,

eating disorders, and probably some other issues as well. It is called

neuro-feedback. Anyone hear of it. I find it fascinating, my daughter and I

went to a psychologist in Arizona using it as part of a research program. He

is a friend of my sister's. He explained the process of stimulating electrical

components of the brain so they make connections better. (Short summary!) I

don't have the website address with me here at work but I will send it out to

all of you. We are going to give it a try, the guru is here in Orlando where

we live. should be interesting.

Has anyone heard or read of it?

cascorsam@... wrote: Elaine

I am so sorry to hear that your daughter seems to be in another downward

spiral. For your own sake, please take some action on setting your

boundaries.

I hope you did nothing to locate her dog when she demanded that you do and

that you did not respond to her demanding the return of your grand and

bringing daughter food. She is acting like a spoiled brat again. Are you

still

goig to weekly counseling sessions?

My daughter's husband will be getting out of the slammer on the 17th of this

month so we will see what type of emotional crap I'll be involved in.

Hopefully, I will maintain my boundaries. I have been good, I make NO

negative

comments about him. I did tell my daughter last week during a conversation

that I have resigned myself to her choices in men and if these are the types

she

wants in her life, well bottom line, it is her choice and her life.

And quite honestly, that is really how I feel. I would have wanted to see

her with a nice, hardworking guy obviously with no substance abuse problems

and no prison record(silly me), but if this is what she chooses, this IS what

she chooses. I toild her I cannot live her life, only my own.

The boys are getting older and more mature by the day. THey seem to have a

very good idea of what is good, wholesome, etc. Their comments sometimes

amaze me. So I feel confident this is much hope for thema nd their futures.

I

hope I am correct.

Jean

Jean

[Guest guest]

I thought you lived in trhe Wash DC area???

Jean

[Guest guest]

In a message dated 1/6/2006 3:49:47 PM Eastern Standard Time,

somalitamale@... writes:

He explained the process of stimulating electrical components of the brain

so they make connections better. (Short summary!)

Elaine,

Kudos to you and the progress you are making with your daughter. I am so

glad for you that things are working out. I'm happy too that maybe some of us

have made a difference for you in your dealings with your daughter. I get

great comfort in hearing success stories.

Then there are others that are not so lucky. A dear, dear old friend of

mine, from high school, sent me an email the other day. She lost her 18 year

old

daughter to a heroin overdose on Dec. 30. I'm beside myself with grief for

her. I had been keeping in touch with her, helping her with coping skills, and

she says a lot of them were working, she just couldn't get her daughter away

from the bad influences of the low life people she was hanging with. She did

her best. I feel so bad I couldn't help her more.

DebbieL

[Guest guest]

I did for 23 years, then divorced and moved down here to be closer to my

parents two years ago. That is where my heart is though.

cascorsam@... wrote:

I thought you lived in trhe Wash DC area???

Jean

[Guest guest]

Sue and I would like to wish all of you a happy and prosperous new year.

It has been an interesting adventure since my WLS in July and I am really

grateful for you all and the fun and information that we share with one

another.

Lin

422-338-250

Lhsh@...

American by birth,

Saved by the grace of God.

[Guest guest]

Same here Lin! I'm so thankful I've met all of you. And I look forward

to doing this journey in 2007 w/ all of you.

W

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Lin Hunnicutt wrote:

> Sue and I would like to wish all of you a happy and prosperous new year.

> It has been an interesting adventure since my WLS in July and I am really

> grateful for you all and the fun and information that we share with one

> another.

> Lin

> 422-338-250

> Lhsh@...

> American by birth,

> Saved by the grace of God.

>

[Guest guest]

You too! lismathis

>

> Sue and I would like to wish all of you a happy and prosperous new

year.

> It has been an interesting adventure since my WLS in July and I am

really

> grateful for you all and the fun and information that we share

with one

> another.

> Lin

> 422-338-250

> Lhsh@...

> American by birth,

> Saved by the grace of God.

>

[Guest guest]

Happy New Year!!

Lin Hunnicutt lhsh@...> wrote: Sue and I would like to wish all of

you a happy and prosperous new year.

It has been an interesting adventure since my WLS in July and I am really

grateful for you all and the fun and information that we share with one

another.

Lin

422-338-250

Lhsh@...

American by birth,

Saved by the grace of God.

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Thank you Lin!

Kim

Rny 6/23/06

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>

> Sue and I would like to wish all of you a happy and prosperous new

year.

> It has been an interesting adventure since my WLS in July and I am

really

> grateful for you all and the fun and information that we share

with one

> another.

> Lin

> 422-338-250

> Lhsh@...

> American by birth,

> Saved by the grace of God.

>