Update

[Guest guest]

,

People really upset me. It doesn't matter if you would *still*

have 2 left, that 3rd baby is YOUR BABY! Medical professionals

should have much more compassion than they actually demonstrate. So

even though I have had many miscarriages, and stillbirths, each one

is upsetting to me. If the time ever comes when I lose compassion

for these women who are hurting, then that's the day I will be

looking for another job or profession.

> Does anyone know anything about low fluid and could this have

> anything to do with my RNY surgery. I ask the Peri and he doesn't

> know and had a real " I don't care attutide " He said if Baby C

doesn't

> make it you still have two.

you have a condition called OLIGOHYDRAMNIOS and you can Google or

YAHOO search it for additional information. It is in no way related

to your WLS though.

http://www.marchofdimes.com/pnhec/188_1033.asp

I like reputable sites and frequently use the March Of Dimes sites.

Best Wishes!!

Sheila

[Guest guest]

Eleanor,

I " second " your thoughtful response. I read it with interest.

Lari

> Dear Jim,

>

> Thanks for e-mailing us about this. Are you forwarding these

messages

> on to Tom, in case personal ones don't get through?

>

> As a 12 week and 5 day post op person who still has groin pain and

> clunks, and wound aches, and sometimes pain going down the front

of the

> leg to the toe (probably referred) and bad in the middle of the

night,

> and who's x-ray shows everything is fine, I feel he should not

give up

> hope, nor stop posting here. As someone else has said and as we

see,

> this site is for everyone with all different recovery rates.

> Personally, I find it useful to know that there are others who

still are

> struggling or have struggled at this stage, and that it will take

time.

>

>

> It feels complicated---how much to do, how little, alternative

therapies

> (I do Technique and go to my osteopath, both which

help), how

> much/ little of pain medication? Everyone on this site and

elsewhere

> says patience, patience, patience and don't push too hard. This

feels

> right.

>

> It is also good to notice what one is doing, that we tend not to

notice

> when feeling dispondent. A friend just visited who hadn't seen me

for 2

> weeks and saw a big difference in my walking, in spite of my

pain. I

> hadn't realized it had improved. I am also now driving into work

( one

> hour each way commute) and although going in late and coming home

early,

> am pleased that I am managing it.

>

> Has anyone done any research into recovery patterns----men v

women; fit

> v non-fit; age; pre-opt problems; method of surgery, etc. etc.?

Maybe

> there are too many variables? There must be some studies there

for some

> keen registrars.

>

> Eleanor

>

> Update

>

> For you oldtimers that remember San Francisco Tom, he needs some

> cheering up.

> I've been in contact with him to see what's happening with his

> predicament. i

> havent had the surgery yet so I'm following his with interest. At

12

> weeks he

> had to go back to see Dr Mont because the pain in his hip is just

as bad

> as

> before the surgery. They tried their best to figure it out but it

hasn't

>

> helped. Doctor Mont said the surgery was a success but he's still

in

> pain. He's very

> depressed and needs some cheering up. He doesn't post / read here

> anymore

> because he knows people don't want to see when surgery doesn't

work. So

> for those

> of you who remember him send him an email. He's the one that

fought Blue

>

> Cross for a year and won. this website won't let you print email

> addresse so his

> is t3man at aol dot com.

>

> Jim

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Hello Everyone!

It's been a while since I posted, but I have been reading, though. Am

still feeling overwhelmed by this whole thing.

For Cheryl in CA,

I am so sorry to hear of your situation, you and your family are in my

thoughts and prayers. Hugs to you.....

For Sue and and ,

Welcome! I regret that it is under these circumstances, but we are in

this together! I am also newly diagnosed with lupus. And , my

doctor said my ANA will always be positive, that makes me curious as to

how you can get your ANA to change.....

For everyone,

I have a quick question..... I had a UTI last week, it was not really

bad, just pain, pressure, burning, etc., I took my medicine (Bactrim),

and was terribly sick for 3 days!! I have had UTIs before and have not

had this reaction to the sulfur antibiotics, but this time I was sick.

I tried to watch an air show in my area, it was hot, I felt faint, my

head was pounding. Do you have different reactions to medications than

you have taken previously?

Thanks for your input!

Cheryl J - GA

Message: 9

Date: Fri, 14 May 2004 07:21:13 -0700 (PDT)

Subject: Re: Hi! I'm a new Lupie

Hi !

Thank-you for writing! I have not met many who even heard of MCTD...it

snice to meet some of the family! How do you feel most days? I notice

my hands and hips really bother me and this horrible all over achy sick

feeling sometimes. How long have you had it?? Did you notice a

difference when it went into SLE? Sorry for all the questions! You have

already helped me though..just knowing you are there!!

Love from------->Sue

Marie s FiushaMirage0582@...> wrote:

Sue,

I was first diagnosed with Mixed Connective Tissue Disease. I had a

terrible rash on my arms also. It was also on the back of my neck. I

didn't have too much problem with it being on my face. I had fatigue

and

loss of appetite. Then it later on progressed to SLE. Now I have

organ

involvement and sport the butterfly rash across the bridge of my nose.

Being in this group there is a lot of information. I've learned a lot

about

this illness just being here a couple of months. I hope that someone

can

provide you with the answers to your questions. Welcome to the group.

-.

Hi! I'm a new Lupie

> Hi!!

>

> My name is Sue and I just found out (about 3 months ago) that I

> have Lupus...Mixed Connective Tissue Disease. I also have Fm,Osteo

> Arthritis,Neuropathy (that suddenly appeared in legs and feet about

> 4 years ago..I am not diabetic and they say I have it because of my

> thyroid problem?)and degenerative disk disease in disk in my back. A

> few other non-pain related things too. I have been reading about

> what I have..trying to understand all I can. The articles are vague

> sometimes or over whelmingly graphic...either way..I need to talk to

> those that really know what I am going through...I have mutiple

> symptoms as is common in Mixed Connective Tissue disease.. (I know I

> am not suffering as much as many of you.) I have been getting a rash

> on my one arm whenever I get too stressed physically by doing too

> much. No rashes on my face though...is that common? I hope to get to

> know you all and hope I can help you too!

>

>

> Love from----->Sue

lyle-cheryl lyle-cheryl@...> wrote:

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Well, I don't know what I'm going to do now. I was complaining that

my husband was on a brand new job & we wouldn't have insurance for a few

months. He has been getting treated for bipolar disorder at the VA

hosp. The Dr. drugged him up so bad he couldn't function at work. He

got fired today. He has never been fired before. He tried to explain

what was wrong but they didn't care. Two weeks ago they loved him.

Yesterday he worked 8 hours non-stop, without lunch and then fell asleep

sitting up straight in his chair. His boss called him 3 times before he

woke up. He has been putting in 10 and 12 hours days for that guy. He

was clocking in at 6 am and working the phone on the East coast. I

guess his sales career is ended. He can't take the enormous pressure

anymore. He sleeps a lot at home. He tried tonight to get a resume'

out but couldn't put the words together. His boss scolded him for

sending a letter to a prospect that was chock full of grammatical

errors. I have

been worried sick. When I called him at work his answer machine set

up didn't sound good. He said the meds. just took out all his sales

drive. He is on a lot of meds and all but one has drowsy side effects.

He has been a salesman for 25 years. It is his trained profession. Now

I have no prospect of insurance and we might loose everything. I am

sick and cannot work. Pray for us please.

Cheryl in CA

[Guest guest]

In a message dated 8/27/2005 9:43:04 AM Eastern Standard Time,

abjacobs1@... writes:

She left two criminals in the house whom refuse to move. One is on probation

and awaiting trial Sep 12 from her new charges the other one is awaiting his

first felony trial. She told me she had the insurance bill to keep her health

insurance in force in her purse. She does not have; it must be in the house

with the criminals.

Frances,

Is this your house? Call the police, have them removed. Also, the health

insurance....... your daughter is 44 yrs. old? Why on earth are you paying her

health insurance? The state has to foot the bill if she has none. It's her

problem if she doesn't have any. You will never be out of this mess as long as

you continue to bail her out. Don't mean to sound harsh if it does, this is

just what I would and wouldn't do.

Debbie

Debbie,

It started out as her house she could not pay me so I filed a deed she had

signed to me rather than go through forclosure. I told her she could stay there

until she had settled with workmans comp. She settled in July while I was out of

town. I took the car away in May when she was in the mental ward of the

hospital after threating to kill me and others. I have chosen to keep the

health insurance because she has one illness after another plus her mental

problems, staff infections this summer while I was gone. I have been trying to

give her enough " rope to hang herself " which she has done. It has not been easy

to find health care for BPD in Oklahoma. No one want to treat her. She is not

a high functioning one. I put her out of the house in 1997 and did not let her

back into my life until Dec 2002. My other daughter begged me to help her. The

patient is in Dallas at Timberlawn. They believe they can help her. I will see.

I look on her as a test case. If they can help her, will be singing their

praises.

The insurance is $140. a month. She is going on SSI or going to work at

something once Timberlawn turns her out. She does not know this but I am worn

out of all thes " Drama " . The state law in Oklahoma has given the two crimials

rents rights because she has allowed them to stay in the house so long. I gave

notice by posting Saturday and will fill the court case to have them removed in

the morning as my 5 days will be up then. It will at least 10mnday to two weeks

before I get a court date.

Saturday night I called the police to get them out. It did not work. The male

was arrested Saturday night for warrants out standing. He posted bail money and

was released that night. Monday his ex wife got him for back child support and

he is back in jail. The woman is still in the house. The electric goes off

tomorrow for non payment and I told the electric company not to turn it on for

anyone but me as no one had permission to live there. This is how one can loose

title to their property. It is easier than you think.

I to am getting daily phone calls from Patient and the doctors and the

counselors. Think I have convinced them there is noting more I can do. Time

will solve the house problem. The hopital has the real problem which I can not

cure maybe she wants help from them and they can get through to her this time.

Will keep you posted.

Frances