Aase~ Welfare help -

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Hi Aase-

Your so right- there was no other way to go except the possiblity of marrying my

then so called boyfriend ( but he was an abuser -- I did the right thing though

and became brave on the medication during hospital stay and kicked him out

--------- whew ! )

What makes it even harder though is that some sit around stating that they are

working hard to pay those state dollars while people sit on their rumps getting

money theyyyyyy worked hard for........ ugh that one bothers me.

In all actuality, I do know i stated that it almost embarrassed me to admit it,

but in many ways - I guess it doesn't all that much- You know one thing that I

was really worried about were my boys reaction to it as they were given free Hot

lunch at school.......... and in my days, to present that ticket showing

everyone in the line that you were a welfare family was a horrible experience

for most of those kids to go through........... When I told my boys though they

were like wow cool ! And now they do make it look like normal tickets and

seldom does one know they are even getting a free lunch........... and thats the

way it should be. After all the state is still giving them money- so why a

different ticket at all.........

There are probably quite a few more parents that do need it in my territory but

won't do it........... LOL- my Dad is embarrassed to use my food stamp card to

get my groceries ( it does not even look like a food stamp card ) they now have

mad them look like a credit card - so no one would even know the diff unless

they too carried one or knew someone that did........ Dad just won't do it,

although he will take my 16 yr old to the store but not go through the checkout

with him LOL LOL...........

Thanks for the response- It is always nice to know your not alone in these

situations.........

Hugs and hope you are feeling as well as can be.

Love, TJ

Hi TJ,

It is just the same here in Norway as it is everywhere, I guess... It

is so difficult for anyone having to turn to the welfare office. That

is really too bad, because everyone can find themselves in a

situation where they have no other options. And a most (!) people end

up having such needs because of things happening in their lives,

which they have no power over at all. But I guess there is a lot of

old thoughts and prejudice connected with this, that if you find

yourself in such a situation, it must be because you made some bad

choices, didn't try enough or something like that. But that is just

not true. I have so many times wished that we could all just " reboot "

when it comes to things like that, just get rid of old beliefs and

prejudice. Because we never know. Things can happen in our lives that

causes us to suddenly be in a terrible financial situation, where we

need help. And we should be able to turn to the system then, with our

heads up high. We all contribute to such a " last resort system " when

we are able to, through paying taxes. So we really should view it as

a form of insurance, because that is exactly what it is. Many people

believe that there's way too many people getting such help, but the

real truth is that there is way too few people who gets help. Just

because so many who really have a need, don't dare go there, because

it is too difficult for them to do so. That has been proven in many

studies, and I can't imagine that the US is any different at all...

hugs,

Aase Marit

>Hating to admit, but am one that has had to go on welfare to be able

>to " almost " paying off my bills since I had the first surgery

>myself-

>Only reason I hate to admit, is not of embarrassment- but of how

>some people think of you for being on it , well - sometimes- its the

>only way one can go- and I've been on it for two years- and after

>reading what Aase wrote here, it reminded me.....

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