Re: just been diagnosed with fibroids-TO HEATHER

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I would be lying if I told you I was 100% ok with having an unplanned

hysterectomy....obviously....I wanted the myo, however, it is done

and in hindsight I know it is what was best for me in my situation.

My husband is fine with it (he was actually the one that had to make

the decision as the Dr. came out and explained what the situation was

when I was in surgery...and he had to give his ok to the hysterectomy

or have him continue the myo.) and of course the fact that he is ok

with it gives me one less concern.

At first I was sad that the myo turned in to a hysterectomy....then I

was angery! But I am not the kind of person that is going to dwell

on things that I have no control over. I can tell you that I

certainly DO NOT feel like I am any less a woman simply because I

don't have a uterus. The fact is....it is done. Now I have to turn

my energies to finding out what this means to my health going forward

(something I had looked at briefly, but not in depth as I did not

expect it as an outcome).

There are many things that you need to consider in having a

hysterectomy....some of them being: Will you keep the cervix, will

you keep your ovaries, If you keep your ovaries will they work after

surgery, How do you feel about Hormone Replacement Therapy if you

choose not to keep your ovaries or if they fail, Prolapse issues,

Bladder Issues, and of course how you will feel.

Like I said....for me...I don't want to dwell on what happened but I

want to move forward from this. I can tell you that it is now 5

weeks post-op and I feel 100% better than I have in a long time. I

certainly will not miss the periods, pain, and bleeding (Keep in mind

for women in other situations a myo could have produced these same

results ....except the loss of periods). As far as children go...we

still have options, I still have my ovaries so it would be possible

if we really wanted to have our own child (not that I think I would

ever go to that extreem (but it is an option), there is always

Adoption or being a parent, or I could just SPOIL my

nephew!

The important thing here is that you do have OPTIONS!!! Of course

only you can decide what is ultimatly best for you. I have also

found an excellent support group for hysterectomies.

www.hystersisters.com They have a TON of info for women thinking

about having or having had hysterectomies. You might want to check

it out.

I hope this helps!

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> Thanks so much for your email. I also have put off having kids due

to realationships and money etc. How do you feel since that choice

was taken away from you?

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