Waiting to have kids

January 8, 2004

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Ditto here on putting off having children. Now I'm 40 with fibroids

(and other issues) and now I can't have them. The sadness is

overwhelming at times. I wish I could come to some peace about it, but

I'm not there yet. Months back someone on this board posted that for

her, the goal was not so much to have a biological child as it was to

create a family, i.e. adoption. That has been comforting for me to

remember. I have to believe there are other women on this board who've

dealt with this. I'd be interested in hearing how other women without

children have come to terms with waiting too long.

D.

Re: Re: just been diagnosed with fibroids

Dear

Thanks so much for your email. I also have put off having kids due to

realationships and money etc. How do you feel since that choice was

taken away from you?

January 9, 2004

Dear ,

You will be amazed by the number of women with the same problem.I have recently

have a myo , very successful in terms of removing fibroids but unfortunately the

doctor had to remove a part of my uterus too. So there is no place for a

pregnancy to develop.Since the operation in November I had adoption thoughts

almost every day, to be honest I wasn't very depressed , a day or two, I did't

like the feeling at all. Luckily for me I live in a country where are a lot of

children for adoption and I don't need to wait too long to do this.(Romania)I

also believe that people decide to have kids because they have something to give

not necessarily to see their faces reproduced. I know that this is just me and a

few other people, but I think that instead of thinking doing is better. I know

that I have some decisions to make about my life but one thing is for sure I'm

going to adopt and if the first one is a success I'll probably take two. I have

only one friend (living in the states ) with a

adopted boy from Romania and they are both great. I have always admired her

long before I found out that I'm not able to have my own babies so I will

definitely take some action in the near future. I have infertile friends and

they decide not to adopt, I love children too much not to do that.

Don'tlet the sadness to take over. I won't,

Neli

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