Re: complaints-to lyle-cheryl, billie-sue,kimi,cindi and all

[Guest guest]

Yeah, at first, as understanding as he was and is, he kept trying to

find " the right pill " to cure my symptoms. What he just can't get

right now is that I'm recovering rather well from this breast-

reduction, while I still have this disease that is causing me so

many problems. You would think that because of the Lupus and the FM,

my post-op recovery would be hell. Don't get me wrong the first 2

days sucked pretty much, but they are blur now and I'm doing OK with

that. I did find myself a little weepy today, because as the

surgical pain decreases, my FM is returning. I knew it

wouldn't " fix " everything, but at least the surgery is behind me,

which has relieved a lot of stress (not to mention breast weight)

and I can focus on dealing with the other stuff. So, to lift my

spirits today,I dressed up my 4 terriers in festive clothing. One of

these days I'll get some of their pics posted for you all to see.

Luv ya, Robyn

-- In LUPIES , " lyle-cheryl " wrote:

> So true Robyn,

>

> They can only take so much crabbing about the thing. It is

stressful for

> them. Men prefer to be told about something they can fix. Since

they can't

> fix us, it just makes them feel bad. This is a good place for

complaining,

> we know how you feel.

>

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> http://www.mymailsignature.com>

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> From: jrtrobyn [mailto:jrtrobyn@y...]

> Sent: Saturday, May 22, 2004 4:27 PM

> To: LUPIES

> Subject: Re: Ronika, again from Robyn

>

>

>

> One thing I've learned over the years is that I can't dump every

> single thing on my husband. I think he has his limits at times, as

> to how much he can handle. So I try to turn to others sometimes

> when I'm really having a rough time, my sisters or a friend, or a

> support group such as this. I can't expext them to fix it all. I

> just ask that they listen. And if they can't, I try someone else.

> I'm 49 and I used to be too proud for that. I always thought that

I

> could handle it all myself. And then when I married I expected my

> husband to be my only sounding board. Well, he has his stresses,

> anxieties, fears too. And I have to be honest here, I never truly

> understood chronic illness and pain and how it effects people

until

> I've had to experience this myself. So, I can't expect anymore

from

> anyone else.... just thought I'd share this for what its' worth.

> Hang in there, lu, Robyn