Re: Daughter Assaulted/ TO CHERYL

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Dear Cheryl,

I just wanted to let you know that a lot of children who are assaulted don't tell. As for me, I never told untill I was an adult and didn't get help untill the same thing happened to my grand daughter. We might never have known about her, except for the fact that I SAW it happen .....Children are so easily intimidated, or made to feel like an accomplice....even in their own abuse that they often don't tell out of fear or guilt. Sometimes, as in my case, one of the reasons I didn't tell was because I didn't want to make my Mother cry......I felt resposible for her well being, instead of vice-versa.

If your son has not sought counceling, it is never too late......I didn't get help till I was in my 50's.and I was able to learn a lot of coping skills, and even came to realize that my abuse even affected my relationships with men in my adult life.....I tended to seek out men who were abusive and not emotionally available. .....As my therapist put it ....'YOU TEND TO STAY WITH WHAT YOU KNOW "...... and what I knew was abuse and neglect.

If your son has not sought couceling yet for his abuse , urge him to do so now. you would be surprised at how many facets of our adult life are colored by the things that went on in our childhood.

You can still help him as a Mother now even though you couldn't then...how can you fix what you don't know is broken.

Daughter Assaulted

OMG, I’m so sorry. All I can say is keep after the police so they don’t let it slip by. My heart goes out to you. I just found out last month that my boy was molested for several years and he never told me. He is now in his 30’s. I cried for a week. The kid who did it was 5 years older and I don’t know where he is now. I feel horrible about it and feel guilty too. I tried hard to keep them safe from things like that but I’m sorry to say that it happens to a lot of kids. I hope you can take her for counseling. What the heck was wrong with that Dr? Be assured of my prayers.

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