Guest guest Posted May 23, 2004 Report Share Posted May 23, 2004 Resent the parents who adopted me....Never...they gave me so much...I think my adoptive mom called me the adopted daughter cause she was proud...she would not want to hurt anyone by saying that...it just did not sit too good with me...I never told her how I felt about it cause I did not want to hurt her feelings. Your children have to deal with so much more than just being adopted and they have a great mom in you...cause you care...and that is so important. My birth mom may be scared...she went on and made a new life for herself...perhaps her family does not know about me...but she does...she knows I still live right across the street from her sister...and she has my phone number...but still no communication with her...so I chalk it up as it being her loss cause even though with all my faults, I am a cool person...and she is missing out on two great grandkids and one terrific great grandson...My adopted mother would have loved her great grandson...she just never got to meet him...but she sees him, alone with my adopted daddy, from Heaven...He has two angels watching over him...and my daughters and son in law also have those angels. chippy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 23, 2004 Report Share Posted May 23, 2004 Resent the parents who adopted me....Never...they gave me so much...I think my adoptive mom called me the adopted daughter cause she was proud...she would not want to hurt anyone by saying that...it just did not sit too good with me...I never told her how I felt about it cause I did not want to hurt her feelings. Your children have to deal with so much more than just being adopted and they have a great mom in you...cause you care...and that is so important. My birth mom may be scared...she went on and made a new life for herself...perhaps her family does not know about me...but she does...she knows I still live right across the street from her sister...and she has my phone number...but still no communication with her...so I chalk it up as it being her loss cause even though with all my faults, I am a cool person...and she is missing out on two great grandkids and one terrific great grandson...My adopted mother would have loved her great grandson...she just never got to meet him...but she sees him, alone with my adopted daddy, from Heaven...He has two angels watching over him...and my daughters and son in law also have those angels. chippy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 23, 2004 Report Share Posted May 23, 2004 Wow Chippy you are so right. You have a great attitude and it is her loss. My mom has been fighting cancer for seven years now and has been told three different times that she only had months to live. Now when they do her bone scans and blood work and stuff, they can't find any at all. She has gotten to see eight more grandkids since she was supposed to be gone and we thank God each and every day for the time he has given us with her. I guess we never know when our time is do we? We have actually had people ask us why we don't just tell them to keep Justen. Would they say that if he was our birth son? We packed some clothes for him today and took them up to the hospital. He wouldn't see us. In the back pack we found a notebook full of terrible drawings as well as some witch craft cards. He knows that we found them and told the nurse we were stupid for not finding them sooner. a C ....so I chalk it up as it being her loss cause even though with all my faults, I am a cool person...and she is missing out on two great grandkids and one terrific great grandson...My adopted mother would have loved her great grandson...she just never got to meet him... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 23, 2004 Report Share Posted May 23, 2004 a C., He sounds a lot like my eldest son, . We went through years of never knowing if he would see us when we came for a visit, or not. Sometimes, he would even run away from the group home where he was living in order to get daily therapy, just to avoid us. It was very stressful the first few times, but I learned to enjoy my visit with the therapeutic foster family, let my other kids visit, ride the horses, and relax a bit, and pretty soon, was wanting to join in the fun. He used his right of refusal as a power play. I hope things settle down for you all, Justen included. Love, MM Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 23, 2004 Report Share Posted May 23, 2004 a C., He sounds a lot like my eldest son, . We went through years of never knowing if he would see us when we came for a visit, or not. Sometimes, he would even run away from the group home where he was living in order to get daily therapy, just to avoid us. It was very stressful the first few times, but I learned to enjoy my visit with the therapeutic foster family, let my other kids visit, ride the horses, and relax a bit, and pretty soon, was wanting to join in the fun. He used his right of refusal as a power play. I hope things settle down for you all, Justen included. Love, MM Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 23, 2004 Report Share Posted May 23, 2004 a C., He sounds a lot like my eldest son, . We went through years of never knowing if he would see us when we came for a visit, or not. Sometimes, he would even run away from the group home where he was living in order to get daily therapy, just to avoid us. It was very stressful the first few times, but I learned to enjoy my visit with the therapeutic foster family, let my other kids visit, ride the horses, and relax a bit, and pretty soon, was wanting to join in the fun. He used his right of refusal as a power play. I hope things settle down for you all, Justen included. Love, MM Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 24, 2004 Report Share Posted May 24, 2004 Okay but don't forget to send the cute little fancy goldfish things that go with it. What are those things called? oh yeah, koi? Is that how you spell it? Anyway, we will take water any way we can get it, there are already several forest fires burning. a C I've got a little pond or something starting in my back yard, I'll send that down to you! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 25, 2004 Report Share Posted May 25, 2004 Thank you . Because they are having to put him in a group home we have to sign Justen over to the state for at least 90 days tomorrow. This is so tough. I was thinking all day about the day that we adopted him and how excited we all were. Now he hates us. I just can not believe that it has come to this but we will still tell people about adopting older kids we don't regret it a bit, we just had different plans for Justen's future than what he is able to do. Mental illness is so sad in anyone, but watching it tear this kids world apart after all that he has been through is just awful. a C Looks like you guys are having some really tough decisions to make over there. I wish you the best of luck and the strength to get through this. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 25, 2004 Report Share Posted May 25, 2004 Thank you . Because they are having to put him in a group home we have to sign Justen over to the state for at least 90 days tomorrow. This is so tough. I was thinking all day about the day that we adopted him and how excited we all were. Now he hates us. I just can not believe that it has come to this but we will still tell people about adopting older kids we don't regret it a bit, we just had different plans for Justen's future than what he is able to do. Mental illness is so sad in anyone, but watching it tear this kids world apart after all that he has been through is just awful. a C Looks like you guys are having some really tough decisions to make over there. I wish you the best of luck and the strength to get through this. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 25, 2004 Report Share Posted May 25, 2004 Thank you . Because they are having to put him in a group home we have to sign Justen over to the state for at least 90 days tomorrow. This is so tough. I was thinking all day about the day that we adopted him and how excited we all were. Now he hates us. I just can not believe that it has come to this but we will still tell people about adopting older kids we don't regret it a bit, we just had different plans for Justen's future than what he is able to do. Mental illness is so sad in anyone, but watching it tear this kids world apart after all that he has been through is just awful. a C Looks like you guys are having some really tough decisions to make over there. I wish you the best of luck and the strength to get through this. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 26, 2004 Report Share Posted May 26, 2004 Oh I am so sorry. Sadly, I have found quite a few people, like Mike, who know just exactly what this feels like. Thankfully they said today that the risperdol is helping him to have clearer thinking and he is getting settled in the group home. I just keep thinking about the day his adoption was final. He had lived with us for a year beforehand because of his special needs, and it was a long road to get there. Now seven years later we are the meanest people he ever met. His casemanager said today that Justen did admit last night that he had a good thing going here and that he messed up big time. This is the hard part because we have been told that even if he calls wanting to come home, he can't until he has been stable for a while and has a long term treatment plan. People keep saying that if this is hard for us, imagine if it was a birth child and I want to smack them because we love Justen just as if he WAS a birth child. He is our son wether he likes it or not, he is stuck with us! lol a C I know how it feels to have your child hate you. Adam hasn't talked to me since Christmas. Well actually I've called him a couple of time to ask him something and he will answer my questions but that is it. If I see him anywhere, he won't speak to me or even acknowledge that I'm alive. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 6, 2004 Report Share Posted June 6, 2004 Hon has he been tested for siliac spru? Just a thought. barb azToy2@... wrote: You know a I never thought about rice milk. They said that we could try to give him the soy even though he is allergic because it's not as severe as he was to the cow milk. I would not be surprised if there are several more because he has some pretty aggressive behaviors sometimes for a two year old and he is deffinately hyper. I asked the DR if he could install an off on switch while they had him under yesterday but, alas, he said no cause then every mom would want one. lol. anyway I have to say that just taking out the milk, eggs, and peanuts today by changing his breakfast and lunch he had a much calmer day. Although it is 11:30 and he is still up. I am typing one handed,lol. Anyway, thanks for the ideas I will ask about the rice on monday when he goes to his pc and then Thursday he goes back to the pulmanary DR.a C what about rice milk? I don't know if he is allergic to sugars, and corn syrup like I was. Just a thought. I finished reading and I see that he is still up for the lovely skin test, well that will provide a lot of answers. Good luck with that. Love, a"The LUPIES Store" Come check out our store...http://www.cafepress.com/thelupies"The LUPIES Web Page"http://www.itzarion.com/lupusgroup.html"The LUPIES online photo albums!" Check out what your fellow Lupies look like...http://www.picturetrail.com/lupies __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 6, 2004 Report Share Posted June 6, 2004 Hon has he been tested for siliac spru? Just a thought. barb azToy2@... wrote: You know a I never thought about rice milk. They said that we could try to give him the soy even though he is allergic because it's not as severe as he was to the cow milk. I would not be surprised if there are several more because he has some pretty aggressive behaviors sometimes for a two year old and he is deffinately hyper. I asked the DR if he could install an off on switch while they had him under yesterday but, alas, he said no cause then every mom would want one. lol. anyway I have to say that just taking out the milk, eggs, and peanuts today by changing his breakfast and lunch he had a much calmer day. Although it is 11:30 and he is still up. I am typing one handed,lol. Anyway, thanks for the ideas I will ask about the rice on monday when he goes to his pc and then Thursday he goes back to the pulmanary DR.a C what about rice milk? I don't know if he is allergic to sugars, and corn syrup like I was. Just a thought. I finished reading and I see that he is still up for the lovely skin test, well that will provide a lot of answers. Good luck with that. Love, a"The LUPIES Store" Come check out our store...http://www.cafepress.com/thelupies"The LUPIES Web Page"http://www.itzarion.com/lupusgroup.html"The LUPIES online photo albums!" Check out what your fellow Lupies look like...http://www.picturetrail.com/lupies __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 16, 2004 Report Share Posted June 16, 2004 Welcome back! Hope your feeling better! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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