Re: (VENT) ARGH!!! Please someone just step on me and drill a hole in my head/ IN-Law Rant Long

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Well, I'm at my wits end and wondering what I can run into or jump off of to put me in a vegetative state until Monday... Drill in the forehead not such a bad idea.

I've been having a hard time lately (same crap we all have)... especially King Kumai Migraines that are lasting for DAYS... I'm not joking ... Pain goes from 6-7 constant to 9-10 for a day or two. Just went to my doctor, and we are trying Mexalt. It helps with the 9-10 level Migraines, but doesn't do so well for the 6-7 headaches. My head feels like it is going to explode (BP and all are fine.) We are watching because my mom has CNS involvement with her Lupus, and she has had several seizures ... My extremities get numb, light/noise sensitivity, blah, blah. My body is hurting all over Joints and Muscle.....plus I have this great flush (hint: Butterfly) to my cheeks... ( har har... that's what a make up lady told me once!)..Burns like fire. My body feels like a rubber that has been ready to pop. My husband has been gone out of town in Kansas City for the last four days. We really needed this weekend to recouped .

Also our kitchen is in shambles from trying to remodeling - the doors are off and have been stripped, huge mess, splatters, bare wood, half stripped woodwork, paint splatters everywhere, all the tools and plastic sheets around. I can only do a little at a time, and my husband works 10-12 hour days for us, and I appreciate him so much I can't expect him to do more. OF course, the rest of the house is messy. You know how hard it is to even get sink full of dishes done. Cat hair, my hair.. hah!.. All over the place. Dirty clothes. I haven't been to the store because I haven't physically been able to.

OH, we don't have another BED!!! That means of course, they take our bed and we sleep on the floor!!!

Yeah, wow.. we all know what happens when a Lupie or RA or Fibro person or anyone with these damn diseases is when they are on the floor!

After not talking to us for a couple of months, my husband makes the mistake of calling them and they say, "Oh, we are coming to down there (their term for the entire south and Ok and TX. ) in about (yeah, about .....) 3-4 days, and we were going to call you when we got to your brother's in TX..." Gee, how general. Long Pause ...So that was the last we heard from them ... UNTIL......... (see below) Dramatic Pause for Insight.....

Insight:

Well, my in laws live in Maine --- long way from Oklahoma.... and I LIKE IT! They normally ignore us because we have produced no offspring. His family members all said at one time or another how selfish childless people are blah, blah, blah.... I think that's really nice of them to say that - especially when I had to have a hysterectomy when I was 25.

They are very passive aggressive.....very, very,.. very. My husband has a lot of resentment from growing up, and I have a lot of resentment because he has a lot of resentment.

He was on his way back from his five hour drive - plus a full day of work, when his mom calls and wants to know when they can come over, and that she was sorry she forgot to call three days ago, but they decided to stay longer..I told her I was having a really hard time with my migraines and wasn't doing to hot this last week, and that Ethan had been gone all this week and was returning home tonight. (Long Dramatic Pause).. Then she comes up with this, "Oh, well, I didn't want to call you guys from Ethan's brother's because it would seem rude to call you while we were staying there." What??!!! What the hell... these are your grown kids (and we all ask ourselves why they do these weird things). You aren't staying with the Queen of England. They have a cell, a calling card.. no reason .. they just like to be a pain in the ass! Everything is a big show on how pious they are...Seriously, they will purposely take the cheap route ( and tell everyone about it) to show how frugal they are. No, they are Moochers. It makes me want to leave a giant dildo and porn on the living room table. ( Or look in our dresser...) They don't even

I tried to give him Ethan's cell phone or call him right then, but no... no.... not that... that would be too easy! So she calls last night and they are talking and I hear Ethan say that I've not been well and he has been gone, and the kitchen is a mess.... (dramatic long pause). Apparently they are STUPID or just don't care. Short in short: Hubby tells them to come today (Friday ). Did I mention we have no second bed or bedroom - office, master bed, gym.. no place for second bed. Ethan goes to Wal Mart and gets an air mattress -- Wish me luck! (side note: I had been asking him to get a second bed for a long time, but he never would go look with me and wanted me to stop bugging him about it.)

So, of course we argue and fight about it. He started complaining about them taking advantage of people and that they can't take a hint. I said they can take a hint, but they don't care. He said, " don't be mad at me. It isn't my fault. I had no alternative. " I told him exactly what he was telling me: they didn't give us any notice; they didn't even let us know where they were or when they were coming and they don't seem to give a damn about how we feel. We are just a cheap hotel. I'm really disappointed in him. I've tried really hard during our 9 year marriage to separate myself from my parents. He is my first priority and I stand up to my parents. At first they didn't like it, but you have to be firm and protect each other.

Of course they don't know when today they are coming. She said she would call me sometime today!.. How convenient.He leaves this morning, and it is very tense at the coffee pot.... He doesn't even mention them coming, them calling... me going to the store... the messy house... NOTHING!!.. I wanted to smack him one.

Now, I need to go to the store, clean this disaster. I don't know how I'm going to do it... I can't .. I guess they expect me to stand around all day until they call me and let me know when they are going to be here, but if I can't.

I've been up since 3am, but couldn't sleep at all last night. I feel like hammered crap!

I'm sorry this is so long, but I'm so mad and my tongue has permanent holes in it from my biting it.

Thank you for letting me vent.

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Kelley/Okidoll

kuselton@...

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hon vent away... count to 10... I feel for you I really do...

My in laws are well there aren't really any words to associate them

with but, I do have to admit they are better than yours... Now if ya

wanna compare my brother-in-law and his um I will be nice wife well

then I think I got ya beat with them but if I even discuss them my

stress level will rise and well I really don't want another stroke

just because of them...

I will pray for you that they are only there for a few short hours,

that they see you really are not up to company and for once be

compassionate enough to say goodbye...

Keep us informed, and good luck hon.

Hugs

Deanna

> Well, I'm at my wits end and wondering what I can run into or jump

off of to put me in a vegetative state until Monday... Drill in the

forehead not such a bad idea.

>

> I've been having a hard time lately (same crap we all have)...

especially King Kumai Migraines that are lasting for DAYS... I'm not

joking ... Pain goes from 6-7 constant to 9-10 for a day or two. Just

went to my doctor, and we are trying Mexalt. It helps with the 9-10

level Migraines, but doesn't do so well for the 6-7 headaches. My

head feels like it is going to explode (BP and all are fine.) We are

watching because my mom has CNS involvement with her Lupus, and she

has had several seizures ... My extremities get numb, light/noise

sensitivity, blah, blah. My body is hurting all over Joints and

Muscle.....plus I have this great flush (hint: Butterfly) to my

cheeks... ( har har... that's what a make up lady told me

once!)..Burns like fire. My body feels like a rubber that has been

ready to pop. My husband has been gone out of town in Kansas City for

the last four days. We really needed this weekend to recouped .

>

> Also our kitchen is in shambles from trying to remodeling - the

doors are off and have been stripped, huge mess, splatters, bare

wood, half stripped woodwork, paint splatters everywhere, all the

tools and plastic sheets around. I can only do a little at a time,

and my husband works 10-12 hour days for us, and I appreciate him

so much I can't expect him to do more. OF course, the rest of the

house is messy. You know how hard it is to even get sink full of

dishes done. Cat hair, my hair.. hah!.. All over the place. Dirty

clothes. I haven't been to the store because I haven't physically

been able to.

>

> OH, we don't have another BED!!! That means of course, they take

our bed and we sleep on the floor!!!

> Yeah, wow.. we all know what happens when a Lupie or RA or Fibro

person or anyone with these damn diseases is when they are on the

floor!

>

> After not talking to us for a couple of months, my husband makes

the mistake of calling them and they say, " Oh, we are coming to down

there (their term for the entire south and Ok and TX. ) in about

(yeah, about .....) 3-4 days, and we were going to call you when we

got to your brother's in TX... " Gee, how general. Long Pause ...So

that was the last we heard from them ... UNTIL......... (see below)

Dramatic Pause for Insight.....

>

> Insight:

> Well, my in laws live in Maine --- long way from Oklahoma.... and

I LIKE IT! They normally ignore us because we have produced no

offspring. His family members all said at one time or another how

selfish childless people are blah, blah, blah.... I think that's

really nice of them to say that - especially when I had to have a

hysterectomy when I was 25.

>

> They are very passive aggressive.....very, very,.. very. My

husband has a lot of resentment from growing up, and I have a lot of

resentment because he has a lot of resentment.

>

> He was on his way back from his five hour drive - plus a full day

of work, when his mom calls and wants to know when they can come

over, and that she was sorry she forgot to call three days ago, but

they decided to stay longer..I told her I was having a really hard

time with my migraines and wasn't doing to hot this last week, and

that Ethan had been gone all this week and was returning home

tonight. (Long Dramatic Pause).. Then she comes up with this, " Oh,

well, I didn't want to call you guys from Ethan's brother's because

it would seem rude to call you while we were staying there. "

What??!!! What the hell... these are your grown kids (and we all ask

ourselves why they do these weird things). You aren't staying with

the Queen of England. They have a cell, a calling card.. no reason ..

they just like to be a pain in the ass! Everything is a big show on

how pious they are...Seriously, they will purposely take the cheap

route ( and tell everyone about it) to show how frugal they are. No,

they are Moochers. It makes me want to leave a giant dildo and porn

on the living room table. ( Or look in our dresser...) They don't

even

>

> I tried to give him Ethan's cell phone or call him right then,

but no... no.... not that... that would be too easy! So she calls

last night and they are talking and I hear Ethan say that I've not

been well and he has been gone, and the kitchen is a mess....

(dramatic long pause). Apparently they are STUPID or just don't

care. Short in short: Hubby tells them to come today (Friday ).

Did I mention we have no second bed or bedroom - office, master bed,

gym.. no place for second bed. Ethan goes to Wal Mart and gets an air

mattress -- Wish me luck! (side note: I had been asking him to get

a second bed for a long time, but he never would go look with me and

wanted me to stop bugging him about it.)

>

> So, of course we argue and fight about it. He started complaining

about them taking advantage of people and that they can't take a

hint. I said they can take a hint, but they don't care. He said, "

don't be mad at me. It isn't my fault. I had no alternative. " I told

him exactly what he was telling me: they didn't give us any notice;

they didn't even let us know where they were or when they were coming

and they don't seem to give a damn about how we feel. We are just a

cheap hotel. I'm really disappointed in him. I've tried really hard

during our 9 year marriage to separate myself from my parents. He is

my first priority and I stand up to my parents. At first they didn't

like it, but you have to be firm and protect each other.

>

> Of course they don't know when today they are coming. She said

she would call me sometime today!.. How convenient.He leaves this

morning, and it is very tense at the coffee pot.... He doesn't even

mention them coming, them calling... me going to the store... the

messy house... NOTHING!!.. I wanted to smack him one.

>

> Now, I need to go to the store, clean this disaster. I don't

know how I'm going to do it... I can't .. I guess they expect me to

stand around all day until they call me and let me know when they are

going to be here, but if I can't.

>

> I've been up since 3am, but couldn't sleep at all last night. I

feel like hammered crap!

> I'm sorry this is so long, but I'm so mad and my tongue has

permanent holes in it from my biting it.

>

>

> Thank you for letting me vent.

>

> More Poopy Talk!

>

> Kelley/Okidoll

> kuselton@s...