Changes

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owie owie, why does the monster change so drastically from one day to the next. I don't like it. If you can guess I can't even transfer today without fear of falling. This disease can be such a mystery to me at times. It's so unpredictable with me. Just when I wanted to do so much today. Guess it's the higher power telling me to take it easy.

Tonia how are you doing girl. Are you experiencing all this gloomy weather. Have you gotten all the crops in?

I think I will color my hair today. SSHH.lol with help.

Welcome to all the new members. You have come to a safe place to land.

Luv laurie

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Roepkelaurie@a... wrote:

owie owie, why does the monster change so drastically from one day

to the next. I don't like it...

Luv laurie

Hello Laurie,

This one characteristic drives me crazy. It seems to be one of the

reasons people just don't get what we are experiencing. They

watch us and then say out loud or with their eyes, " How can you be

hurting so much? I just saw you walking earlier today now you are

limping and twist your face in pain. You must be making it up and

looking for sympathy! "

It makes me want to scream! They just can't understand how crazy

the symptoms are. That there is no obvious cause and effect. It

does JUST happen on it's own.

I can have strength in my foot to curl my toes and then not be able

to move them an hour later. Or when I try to point my toes my foot

vibrates (clonic spasm) and then later it is gone. It is such a

mystery. And as for the pain levels they are all over the scale up

and down my leg and more all at the same time. It is layer upon

layer of symptoms each one doing it's own dance keeping its own

time. If I were a scientist I would be thoroughly engrossed in

charting this strange disorder.

However I do remember a time when it was changeless. Every symptom

was turned on full force. There was no relief. It was a living

hell. So I can accept this crazy making a little easier when I

remember that earlier time. Thanks for giving something for me to

reflect on. My rambling has lead me to -This is better than THAT-

for me.

Here's to change for the better, Lyn

[Guest guest]

Roepkelaurie@a... wrote:

owie owie, why does the monster change so drastically from one day

to the next. I don't like it...

Luv laurie

Hello Laurie,

This one characteristic drives me crazy. It seems to be one of the

reasons people just don't get what we are experiencing. They

watch us and then say out loud or with their eyes, " How can you be

hurting so much? I just saw you walking earlier today now you are

limping and twist your face in pain. You must be making it up and

looking for sympathy! "

It makes me want to scream! They just can't understand how crazy

the symptoms are. That there is no obvious cause and effect. It

does JUST happen on it's own.

I can have strength in my foot to curl my toes and then not be able

to move them an hour later. Or when I try to point my toes my foot

vibrates (clonic spasm) and then later it is gone. It is such a

mystery. And as for the pain levels they are all over the scale up

and down my leg and more all at the same time. It is layer upon

layer of symptoms each one doing it's own dance keeping its own

time. If I were a scientist I would be thoroughly engrossed in

charting this strange disorder.

However I do remember a time when it was changeless. Every symptom

was turned on full force. There was no relief. It was a living

hell. So I can accept this crazy making a little easier when I

remember that earlier time. Thanks for giving something for me to

reflect on. My rambling has lead me to -This is better than THAT-

for me.

Here's to change for the better, Lyn

[Guest guest]

Roepkelaurie@a... wrote:

owie owie, why does the monster change so drastically from one day

to the next. I don't like it...

Luv laurie

Hello Laurie,

This one characteristic drives me crazy. It seems to be one of the

reasons people just don't get what we are experiencing. They

watch us and then say out loud or with their eyes, " How can you be

hurting so much? I just saw you walking earlier today now you are

limping and twist your face in pain. You must be making it up and

looking for sympathy! "

It makes me want to scream! They just can't understand how crazy

the symptoms are. That there is no obvious cause and effect. It

does JUST happen on it's own.

I can have strength in my foot to curl my toes and then not be able

to move them an hour later. Or when I try to point my toes my foot

vibrates (clonic spasm) and then later it is gone. It is such a

mystery. And as for the pain levels they are all over the scale up

and down my leg and more all at the same time. It is layer upon

layer of symptoms each one doing it's own dance keeping its own

time. If I were a scientist I would be thoroughly engrossed in

charting this strange disorder.

However I do remember a time when it was changeless. Every symptom

was turned on full force. There was no relief. It was a living

hell. So I can accept this crazy making a little easier when I

remember that earlier time. Thanks for giving something for me to

reflect on. My rambling has lead me to -This is better than THAT-

for me.

Here's to change for the better, Lyn

[Guest guest]

Okay now that I have read more responses and realize that it is your ex. I will continue to pray for you and your daughter. Please let the police know and file for a restraining order. We are all here for you. How is your husband handling all this?

Lin

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As others have said, I don't think that the laws require your current husband to pay child support. Heck, your daughter isn't even living with her father. Your attorney can advise you on this, but please don't let this guy get to you. If he's stalking you, file a restraining order. Keep careful notes of any contact you have from him and the dates/times that you see him following you. Im'sorry you're having to go through all of this. BarbaraPamela Fredette wrote:

Lyn , well this is a long story.but I will give you the condensed version.well for the third time my ex is taking me to court to get child support for my 17 year old daughter that dosent live with him she is living with her 26 year old brother. but he is doing this in hopes to push me over the edge and i'm close. even though I am not able to work he expects my new husband to pay the child support. even though we have no ins. and he takes care of all my medical which to this point is well over 7,000 . He has always hurt me and now he would like to see me dead. we have had to have lawyers for the past year and a half because of him. I took care of my daughter all her life until he lured her away and then kicked her out a month ago. all I want to be is left alone by him. H has tried turning my kids against me because they are so afraid of him. every day I fight with this monster rsd and I dont know if I can fight another ! battle with him. I know this is probely not the right frame of mind to be in. but after all the years I just want to be left alone by him,it isnt bad enough that because of his abuse to me I now have rsd....I have to find a little strength to do this it is so hard. also I cant be in the same room with him because I get so scard. also He was following me the other day. well enough of my ramblings I'm sorry for the book take care soft hugs to you....pam

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Okay now that I have read more responses and realize that it is your ex. I will continue to pray for you and your daughter. Please let the police know and file for a restraining order. We are all here for you. How is your husband handling all this?

Lin

-- Re: Re: Changes

As others have said, I don't think that the laws require your current husband to pay child support. Heck, your daughter isn't even living with her father. Your attorney can advise you on this, but please don't let this guy get to you. If he's stalking you, file a restraining order. Keep careful notes of any contact you have from him and the dates/times that you see him following you. Im'sorry you're having to go through all of this. BarbaraPamela Fredette wrote:

Lyn , well this is a long story.but I will give you the condensed version.well for the third time my ex is taking me to court to get child support for my 17 year old daughter that dosent live with him she is living with her 26 year old brother. but he is doing this in hopes to push me over the edge and i'm close. even though I am not able to work he expects my new husband to pay the child support. even though we have no ins. and he takes care of all my medical which to this point is well over 7,000 . He has always hurt me and now he would like to see me dead. we have had to have lawyers for the past year and a half because of him. I took care of my daughter all her life until he lured her away and then kicked her out a month ago. all I want to be is left alone by him. H has tried turning my kids against me because they are so afraid of him. every day I fight with this monster rsd and I dont know if I can fight another ! battle with him. I know this is probely not the right frame of mind to be in. but after all the years I just want to be left alone by him,it isnt bad enough that because of his abuse to me I now have rsd....I have to find a little strength to do this it is so hard. also I cant be in the same room with him because I get so scard. also He was following me the other day. well enough of my ramblings I'm sorry for the book take care soft hugs to you....pam

[Guest guest]

Dear Pam,

I appreciate that you are able to write about the weighty problems

you and your husband face. I read that you do have a counselor, I

am glad. With such important decisions to make and to form some

strategy for handling the nearly impossible situation you describe

it would make sense to have an advisor/counselor help you through

this bleak situation. Just having someone who has a level head

about this and can show you your options in choices can give back to

you the personal power that seems to be lost.

However bleak the situation there are choices to make and when a

person is in pain we all know very well that even the most simple

question can prove to be overwhelming. Have you spoken with Crisis

Intervention yet as suggested by your counselor?

Being terrorized by your ex is not a small matter. The emotional

abuse still lives on in his attacks on you through your daughter. A

restraining order is necessary. I strongly suggest that you file a

report with the police and continue to file one every single time

your ex does anything suspicious. Don't be discouraged by the

possible lack of interest by the police. They must accept your

report and these will matter as time goes on to substantiate your

case against him.

Obviously you know that you can't control him. So the only way I

know to stop this abuse is through building your own line of defense

and creating a team of supporters

(counselor/therapist/advisor/police) to surround you and lift you

up.

Don't give up, Pam, you have resources to develop.

With love and caring, Lyn

Pamela Fredette <patches13033@y...> wrote:

> Lyn , well this is a long story.but I will give you the condensed

version....well for the third time my ex is taking me to court to

get child support for my 17 year old daughter that dosent live with

him.... he would like to see me dead.

> ...He was following me the other day. ....pam

>

> lynlorraine wrote:

> Dear Pam,

> Please, if you will tell me what is happening right now.

> Hope to hear from you in

> detail. I care deeply my dear,.......Lyn