Re: Depressed--for Athena

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Well hey there, Miss Athena! Isn't life wonderful when we are forced

to make decisions about things where there really isn't a right or

wrong answer? Yet, no matter what you do people will be sure to

stick their two cents in & tell you if THEY think it's right or if

THEY think it's wrong. First, I want to say how happy I am for you

that you've found an amazing, wonderful partner in Kasandra. When

you have someone you can depend on it makes everything much more

bearable. I'm so jealous of those that DO have that because my ex-

husband was not the best at coping. Hmmm....maybe that's why he's my

ex? lol

You said you were newly dx? So you are still dealing with being

newly dx and all the unknowns that come with that. Are you worried

about Kasandra having to take on all the responsibility of the baby

if you become too sick or tired? I would hold off just a little bit

before really making ANY major life decisions, not just about having

a baby together. You need time to get acquainted, so to speak, with

your lupus and see how your body, your mind and your spirit react to

it. How Kasandra reacts to it. I think after adjusting for a time

and knowing a bit more what to expect, it will help make your

decision easier. I wish I could tell you to just do this or don't do

that but this is a decision that only you, with input from Kasandra,

can make. Would Kasandra be the one to carry the baby? How did you

do when you had your daughter? I know you weren't diagnosed yet but

was just wondering if you had any problems. And in case you hadn't

noticed, I'm just a little nosy!

If you want to email me, Athena, please do. My email is

taataa970@.... I know this is scary but I get the impression

that you are a much stronger woman than you give yourself credit

for. Even though you are now living a life with lupus, there's still

an awful lot of life to live and it can still be a pretty darn good

one. )

Tricia

Hi Tricia,

>

> In regards to what you wrote to (lupiesgirl)

> wow can I relate to her at this point just being newly DX and the

> fears this all gave me, I have so many goals and dreams and now I'm

> afraid to go ahead with them, One being for my partner and I do

have

> a baby she has a son 8 I have a grown daughter 20 but she wants to

> have a baby and we have our doner but then we were hit with this.

> This is a big factor I dont want my partner left with so much more

> she has been more supportive in this then anyone (Kasandra)

> I know how inp this is to her so what should I do?

>

> Athena