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Hi ,

These babies do go through alot...we do too! I sometimes think it's

harder on us to see them going through it than it is on them...they

are so resiliant! So sorry to hear about your little one's cracks

behind his knees! I am keeping polysporin on Grace's cracks are you

using anything on Christian?

My daughter had soft casts, the one's that they moisten then they

harden after they are wraped into place, our Dr. also said that this

way he can manipulate the foot more precicely. I guess a lot of kids

are put into hard casts from what I have been reading, I wonder why?

I hope his little leg heals fast!! Grace's leg looks so much better

and it has only been 2 days!

, Gilles and Grace (8/21/04)

Marilouise, Thank-you for the tip on using Aquaphor, I hadn't even

heard of this product. I was sorry to hear that your little one has

had to go through so many casts and procedures! Tell me, is your

doctor using the Ponseti method? I am finding out that my little

Grace hasn't really had it that bad in comparison...she was put into

her first cast on July 25th - 5 days after she was born. Using the

Ponseti method, she didn't have to have the tenotomy (hopefully that

does not change with the week out of casts) and wore 5 casts to get

her into proper alignment.

I am very glad to hear that 's heart is doing well! It is a

real challenge to have a club foot on top of another complication, we

found it a bit overwhelming for the first few weeks, my husband has

been the one to keep upbeat and keeps reminding me that this is

a " fixable " problem. As far as we know, Grace's kidney seems fine, we

have an appointment with a specialist but it is not until the 9th of

November - you know how hard it is to get in to see a specialist,

especially when they have to coordinate tests with the appointment.

Keep me posted on 's progress, I hope she dosen't need anymore

casting!

, Gilles & Grace (8/21/04)

T

> > Hello,

> >

> > Our daughter Grace was born on July 21st 04 with one kidney and a

> > club foot...with all the attention in utero paid to the kidney

> > situation, her club foot was not diagnosed thus was quite a shock

> to

> > her dad and me.

> >

> > I had never really heard anything about club foot before, I think

> we

> > were really lucky to have had our daughter at the Royal Columbian

> > Hospital in New Westminister BC as there is a Ponseti certified

> > Orthopist practising there - Dr. Pirani.

> >

> > He was away temporarly at the time of her birth and as I didn't

> know

> > if it would be OK to wait a few days, we brought her to

Children's

> > Hospital to get her first cast on. It was in retrospect an

> upsetting

> > experience - I cried the whole time.She was placed naked on a

> > hospital bed for the cast to be done so of course, screamed

> > throughout the whole thing and the cast was done without the

> > supervision of the attending Doctor. They used a thick batting

> under

> > the cast, not the cotton sleve used by Dr. Pirani, thus the first

> > cast was not accurate.

> >

> > We are so glad that we decided to go and see Dr. Pirani, Grace is

> > casted while sitting on my knee, I have even nursed her while

> being

> > casted.

> >

> > We have had a bit of a problem with the last cast (the 3 week

> cast).

> > She had been extra fussy and then a few days ago began to lift

her

> > little leg and really cry. Her dad noticed that her toes were

> really

> > squished...we didn't want to remove the cast before tuesday

> afternoon

> > as we didn't want to impeed her progress. Yesterday (tuesday)

> morning

> > I finally decided that we needed to remove it as I could not get

> her

> > to stop crying. Her whole calf was purple and she had three

> creases,

> > the largest being on the top of her foot where it joins the leg,

> this

> > one was leaking fluid. We immediatly took her to her doctor who

> said

> > we could use polysporyn on her creases and to keep her leg moist

> with

> > lotion. He said that the creases would most likely not get

> infected

> > as she is on a mild anitbiotic for her kidney. We saw Dr. Pirani

> that

> > afternoon, (he came in on his vacation to see Grace), he said

that

> > she strained in her cast and had a bit of a growth spurt. We

> decided

> > to wait until next Tuesday to put her into the boots and bars as

> her

> > little leg needs time to heal. I hope we don't need to cast her

> > again!!! Dr. Pirani showed us an excersize (holding her knee

North

> > and holding her foot East for 10 min.) that we will do twice a

day

> > with her.

> >

> > Before she had the 3 week cast put on, Dr. Pirani said that she

> would

> > probably not need to have her tendon cut as the casting was going

> so

> > well. We will find out next Tuesday if she needs to go into

> another

> > cast...has anyone else had a similar experience with the 3 week

> cast?

> > And if so, how long did the creases take to heal? I really don't

> want

> > the big crease on the top of her foot to heal improperly and tear

> > when she moves her foot, it looks so painful!

> >

> > Any advise would be appreciated.

> >

> > Thank-you

> >

> > , Gilles and Grace

>

>

>

>

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You have a very good point about it being harder on us to see them going

through this than it is on them (assuming they're receiving the proper

treatment!)...

Dr. Nom Bor from Israel who trained under Dr. Herzenberg was at the

symposium last Saturday with his wife, Naomi, who is a psychologist. She

gave a presentation about the psychological impacts of clubfoot. I had

thought it would be from a child's perspective, but when she spoke she spoke

about her study which involved interviewing lots of families with children

who had clubfoot.

She mostly spoke about and quoted what the moms and dads in Israel had to

say. Basically, she said some parents will handle everything OK, but some

parents may need counseling to handle their feelings of loss, sadness,

anger, etc. Doctors should be aware of this because the way the parents

respond to the child will impact the child's perceptions of herself and what

having a clubfoot means to the child. If the parent is so distraught or

depressed about the situation, it could impact the attachment between the

parent and child. She interviewed families where the husband said the reason

he left the family was due to the child being born with clubfoot. The

parents' feelings could also impact the compliance with the use of the

brace... There have been nights when Zoe was sick and miserable that I have

felt so bad for her I have removed the brace so she could sleep better.

Some of the mother's comments were heartwrenching. I think Dr. Bor will be

continuing with her research on this topic...

Best, Joanne

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Date: Thu, 09 Sep 2004 03:56:35 -0000

Subject: Re: to cynthia and marilouise

Hi ,

These babies do go through alot...we do too! I sometimes think it's

harder on us to see them going through it than it is on them...they

are so resiliant! So sorry to hear about your little one's cracks

behind his knees! I am keeping polysporin on Grace's cracks are you

using anything on Christian?

My daughter had soft casts, the one's that they moisten then they

harden after they are wraped into place, our Dr. also said that this

way he can manipulate the foot more precicely. I guess a lot of kids

are put into hard casts from what I have been reading, I wonder why?

I hope his little leg heals fast!! Grace's leg looks so much better

and it has only been 2 days!

, Gilles and Grace (8/21/04)

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,

You have a very good point about it being harder on us to see them going

through this than it is on them (assuming they're receiving the proper

treatment!)...

Dr. Nom Bor from Israel who trained under Dr. Herzenberg was at the

symposium last Saturday with his wife, Naomi, who is a psychologist. She

gave a presentation about the psychological impacts of clubfoot. I had

thought it would be from a child's perspective, but when she spoke she spoke

about her study which involved interviewing lots of families with children

who had clubfoot.

She mostly spoke about and quoted what the moms and dads in Israel had to

say. Basically, she said some parents will handle everything OK, but some

parents may need counseling to handle their feelings of loss, sadness,

anger, etc. Doctors should be aware of this because the way the parents

respond to the child will impact the child's perceptions of herself and what

having a clubfoot means to the child. If the parent is so distraught or

depressed about the situation, it could impact the attachment between the

parent and child. She interviewed families where the husband said the reason

he left the family was due to the child being born with clubfoot. The

parents' feelings could also impact the compliance with the use of the

brace... There have been nights when Zoe was sick and miserable that I have

felt so bad for her I have removed the brace so she could sleep better.

Some of the mother's comments were heartwrenching. I think Dr. Bor will be

continuing with her research on this topic...

Best, Joanne

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Date: Thu, 09 Sep 2004 03:56:35 -0000

Subject: Re: to cynthia and marilouise

Hi ,

These babies do go through alot...we do too! I sometimes think it's

harder on us to see them going through it than it is on them...they

are so resiliant! So sorry to hear about your little one's cracks

behind his knees! I am keeping polysporin on Grace's cracks are you

using anything on Christian?

My daughter had soft casts, the one's that they moisten then they

harden after they are wraped into place, our Dr. also said that this

way he can manipulate the foot more precicely. I guess a lot of kids

are put into hard casts from what I have been reading, I wonder why?

I hope his little leg heals fast!! Grace's leg looks so much better

and it has only been 2 days!

, Gilles and Grace (8/21/04)

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,

You have a very good point about it being harder on us to see them going

through this than it is on them (assuming they're receiving the proper

treatment!)...

Dr. Nom Bor from Israel who trained under Dr. Herzenberg was at the

symposium last Saturday with his wife, Naomi, who is a psychologist. She

gave a presentation about the psychological impacts of clubfoot. I had

thought it would be from a child's perspective, but when she spoke she spoke

about her study which involved interviewing lots of families with children

who had clubfoot.

She mostly spoke about and quoted what the moms and dads in Israel had to

say. Basically, she said some parents will handle everything OK, but some

parents may need counseling to handle their feelings of loss, sadness,

anger, etc. Doctors should be aware of this because the way the parents

respond to the child will impact the child's perceptions of herself and what

having a clubfoot means to the child. If the parent is so distraught or

depressed about the situation, it could impact the attachment between the

parent and child. She interviewed families where the husband said the reason

he left the family was due to the child being born with clubfoot. The

parents' feelings could also impact the compliance with the use of the

brace... There have been nights when Zoe was sick and miserable that I have

felt so bad for her I have removed the brace so she could sleep better.

Some of the mother's comments were heartwrenching. I think Dr. Bor will be

continuing with her research on this topic...

Best, Joanne

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Date: Thu, 09 Sep 2004 03:56:35 -0000

Subject: Re: to cynthia and marilouise

Hi ,

These babies do go through alot...we do too! I sometimes think it's

harder on us to see them going through it than it is on them...they

are so resiliant! So sorry to hear about your little one's cracks

behind his knees! I am keeping polysporin on Grace's cracks are you

using anything on Christian?

My daughter had soft casts, the one's that they moisten then they

harden after they are wraped into place, our Dr. also said that this

way he can manipulate the foot more precicely. I guess a lot of kids

are put into hard casts from what I have been reading, I wonder why?

I hope his little leg heals fast!! Grace's leg looks so much better

and it has only been 2 days!

, Gilles and Grace (8/21/04)

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You know Joanne I started reading this thinking how nuts for a parent to be

distraught about something so minor as a club foot - but I had to stop. You

mentioned the bonding .... My ex-husband (my 6 yr old's dad) had (has?) a very

difficult time with being clubfooted. He kept asking doctor's if there

wasn't another name for it, he wanted some medical terminology perhaps, some

mysterious latin word that would make it sound less like club foot. I later

discovered that one of his mother's favorite insults as he grew up was to call

someone a " stupid club footed jerk. " My ex really had an issue with our son

being club footed; he had very little to do with the baby, wouldn't participate

in the care or physical therapy or doctor appointments, etc., he wouldn't take

the baby out to Mc's for a Happy Meal. They never had a relationship at

all until the court ordered visitation. Pretty sad.

I never understood it myself, but that's just me, and I know there are parents

who do struggle with accepting their child has clubfeet.

Thanks for sharing all that with us.

s.

Re: to cynthia and marilouise

Hi ,

These babies do go through alot...we do too! I sometimes think it's

harder on us to see them going through it than it is on them...they

are so resiliant! So sorry to hear about your little one's cracks

behind his knees! I am keeping polysporin on Grace's cracks are you

using anything on Christian?

My daughter had soft casts, the one's that they moisten then they

harden after they are wraped into place, our Dr. also said that this

way he can manipulate the foot more precicely. I guess a lot of kids

are put into hard casts from what I have been reading, I wonder why?

I hope his little leg heals fast!! Grace's leg looks so much better

and it has only been 2 days!

, Gilles and Grace (8/21/04)

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You know Joanne I started reading this thinking how nuts for a parent to be

distraught about something so minor as a club foot - but I had to stop. You

mentioned the bonding .... My ex-husband (my 6 yr old's dad) had (has?) a very

difficult time with being clubfooted. He kept asking doctor's if there

wasn't another name for it, he wanted some medical terminology perhaps, some

mysterious latin word that would make it sound less like club foot. I later

discovered that one of his mother's favorite insults as he grew up was to call

someone a " stupid club footed jerk. " My ex really had an issue with our son

being club footed; he had very little to do with the baby, wouldn't participate

in the care or physical therapy or doctor appointments, etc., he wouldn't take

the baby out to Mc's for a Happy Meal. They never had a relationship at

all until the court ordered visitation. Pretty sad.

I never understood it myself, but that's just me, and I know there are parents

who do struggle with accepting their child has clubfeet.

Thanks for sharing all that with us.

s.

Re: to cynthia and marilouise

Hi ,

These babies do go through alot...we do too! I sometimes think it's

harder on us to see them going through it than it is on them...they

are so resiliant! So sorry to hear about your little one's cracks

behind his knees! I am keeping polysporin on Grace's cracks are you

using anything on Christian?

My daughter had soft casts, the one's that they moisten then they

harden after they are wraped into place, our Dr. also said that this

way he can manipulate the foot more precicely. I guess a lot of kids

are put into hard casts from what I have been reading, I wonder why?

I hope his little leg heals fast!! Grace's leg looks so much better

and it has only been 2 days!

, Gilles and Grace (8/21/04)

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Personally, I had a bit of a time when I first heard the news that

Elijah had clubfoot. We had a level 2 ultrasound at 20 wks but it

wasnt detected. It wasnt something that prevented us from bonding,

if anything it allowed us a better chance to bond considering he was

such a good, peaceful baby prior to the casting. Being the 4th kid,

he wouldve just taken a backseat to all the others until it was time

to eat or be changed. Once he was born and diagnosed, Ive read

everything I can get my hands on. I can see where those that either

cant access information on it or choose not to would have a harder

time dealing with the issue.

Lori

and Elijah 3.26.04 RCF (plantaris) serial casting, 2nd tenotomy today

and in 'the 3 wk cast'.

> You know Joanne I started reading this thinking how nuts for a

parent to be distraught about something so minor as a club foot - but

I had to stop. You mentioned the bonding .... My ex-husband (my 6

yr old's dad) had (has?) a very difficult time with being

clubfooted. He kept asking doctor's if there wasn't another name for

it, he wanted some medical terminology perhaps, some mysterious latin

word that would make it sound less like club foot. I later

discovered that one of his mother's favorite insults as he grew up

was to call someone a " stupid club footed jerk. " My ex really had

an issue with our son being club footed; he had very little to do

with the baby, wouldn't participate in the care or physical therapy

or doctor appointments, etc., he wouldn't take the baby out to

Mc's for a Happy Meal. They never had a relationship at all

until the court ordered visitation. Pretty sad.

>

> I never understood it myself, but that's just me, and I know there

are parents who do struggle with accepting their child has clubfeet.

>

> Thanks for sharing all that with us.

> s.

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Wow, it is difficult to imagine someone having trouble bonding with their

baby because of clubfoot. I don't even see the clubfoot when I look at Kaitlin.

It is just a part of her. True, I wish that she could have had 2 perfect

feet, but clubfoot is just a small part of who she is. Like some people are

short or have big noses or poor eyesight...you know what I mean? I guess

everyone

has a different way of coping and some people see it differently than others.

All based on individual life experiences, I guess.

Freeman

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Hi ,

's first doctor was doing the Ponseti method theoretically,

but not by the book. Her deviations resulted in 's foot not

being fully corrected. Now sees Dr. Herzenberg at Sinai

Hospital in Baltimore, land. He has the reputation as the

*BEST* clubfoot doc on the east coast! We switched to him on July

9th and that is when the 2nd series of casting began.

Glad to hear Grace had an easy go with her treatment (except for the

wounds).

Marilouise

9/9/03, LCF, 3 week cast after 2nd tenotomy (4 days left!!)

Owen and 3/20/99

> > > Hello,

> > >

> > > Our daughter Grace was born on July 21st 04 with one kidney

and a

> > > club foot...with all the attention in utero paid to the kidney

> > > situation, her club foot was not diagnosed thus was quite a

shock

> > to

> > > her dad and me.

> > >

> > > I had never really heard anything about club foot before, I

think

> > we

> > > were really lucky to have had our daughter at the Royal

Columbian

> > > Hospital in New Westminister BC as there is a Ponseti

certified

> > > Orthopist practising there - Dr. Pirani.

> > >

> > > He was away temporarly at the time of her birth and as I

didn't

> > know

> > > if it would be OK to wait a few days, we brought her to

> Children's

> > > Hospital to get her first cast on. It was in retrospect an

> > upsetting

> > > experience - I cried the whole time.She was placed naked on a

> > > hospital bed for the cast to be done so of course, screamed

> > > throughout the whole thing and the cast was done without the

> > > supervision of the attending Doctor. They used a thick batting

> > under

> > > the cast, not the cotton sleve used by Dr. Pirani, thus the

first

> > > cast was not accurate.

> > >

> > > We are so glad that we decided to go and see Dr. Pirani, Grace

is

> > > casted while sitting on my knee, I have even nursed her while

> > being

> > > casted.

> > >

> > > We have had a bit of a problem with the last cast (the 3 week

> > cast).

> > > She had been extra fussy and then a few days ago began to lift

> her

> > > little leg and really cry. Her dad noticed that her toes were

> > really

> > > squished...we didn't want to remove the cast before tuesday

> > afternoon

> > > as we didn't want to impeed her progress. Yesterday (tuesday)

> > morning

> > > I finally decided that we needed to remove it as I could not

get

> > her

> > > to stop crying. Her whole calf was purple and she had three

> > creases,

> > > the largest being on the top of her foot where it joins the

leg,

> > this

> > > one was leaking fluid. We immediatly took her to her doctor

who

> > said

> > > we could use polysporyn on her creases and to keep her leg

moist

> > with

> > > lotion. He said that the creases would most likely not get

> > infected

> > > as she is on a mild anitbiotic for her kidney. We saw Dr.

Pirani

> > that

> > > afternoon, (he came in on his vacation to see Grace), he said

> that

> > > she strained in her cast and had a bit of a growth spurt. We

> > decided

> > > to wait until next Tuesday to put her into the boots and bars

as

> > her

> > > little leg needs time to heal. I hope we don't need to cast

her

> > > again!!! Dr. Pirani showed us an excersize (holding her knee

> North

> > > and holding her foot East for 10 min.) that we will do twice a

> day

> > > with her.

> > >

> > > Before she had the 3 week cast put on, Dr. Pirani said that

she

> > would

> > > probably not need to have her tendon cut as the casting was

going

> > so

> > > well. We will find out next Tuesday if she needs to go into

> > another

> > > cast...has anyone else had a similar experience with the 3

week

> > cast?

> > > And if so, how long did the creases take to heal? I really

don't

> > want

> > > the big crease on the top of her foot to heal improperly and

tear

> > > when she moves her foot, it looks so painful!

> > >

> > > Any advise would be appreciated.

> > >

> > > Thank-you

> > >

> > > , Gilles and Grace

> >

> >

> >

> >

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Hi ,

's first doctor was doing the Ponseti method theoretically,

but not by the book. Her deviations resulted in 's foot not

being fully corrected. Now sees Dr. Herzenberg at Sinai

Hospital in Baltimore, land. He has the reputation as the

*BEST* clubfoot doc on the east coast! We switched to him on July

9th and that is when the 2nd series of casting began.

Glad to hear Grace had an easy go with her treatment (except for the

wounds).

Marilouise

9/9/03, LCF, 3 week cast after 2nd tenotomy (4 days left!!)

Owen and 3/20/99

> > > Hello,

> > >

> > > Our daughter Grace was born on July 21st 04 with one kidney

and a

> > > club foot...with all the attention in utero paid to the kidney

> > > situation, her club foot was not diagnosed thus was quite a

shock

> > to

> > > her dad and me.

> > >

> > > I had never really heard anything about club foot before, I

think

> > we

> > > were really lucky to have had our daughter at the Royal

Columbian

> > > Hospital in New Westminister BC as there is a Ponseti

certified

> > > Orthopist practising there - Dr. Pirani.

> > >

> > > He was away temporarly at the time of her birth and as I

didn't

> > know

> > > if it would be OK to wait a few days, we brought her to

> Children's

> > > Hospital to get her first cast on. It was in retrospect an

> > upsetting

> > > experience - I cried the whole time.She was placed naked on a

> > > hospital bed for the cast to be done so of course, screamed

> > > throughout the whole thing and the cast was done without the

> > > supervision of the attending Doctor. They used a thick batting

> > under

> > > the cast, not the cotton sleve used by Dr. Pirani, thus the

first

> > > cast was not accurate.

> > >

> > > We are so glad that we decided to go and see Dr. Pirani, Grace

is

> > > casted while sitting on my knee, I have even nursed her while

> > being

> > > casted.

> > >

> > > We have had a bit of a problem with the last cast (the 3 week

> > cast).

> > > She had been extra fussy and then a few days ago began to lift

> her

> > > little leg and really cry. Her dad noticed that her toes were

> > really

> > > squished...we didn't want to remove the cast before tuesday

> > afternoon

> > > as we didn't want to impeed her progress. Yesterday (tuesday)

> > morning

> > > I finally decided that we needed to remove it as I could not

get

> > her

> > > to stop crying. Her whole calf was purple and she had three

> > creases,

> > > the largest being on the top of her foot where it joins the

leg,

> > this

> > > one was leaking fluid. We immediatly took her to her doctor

who

> > said

> > > we could use polysporyn on her creases and to keep her leg

moist

> > with

> > > lotion. He said that the creases would most likely not get

> > infected

> > > as she is on a mild anitbiotic for her kidney. We saw Dr.

Pirani

> > that

> > > afternoon, (he came in on his vacation to see Grace), he said

> that

> > > she strained in her cast and had a bit of a growth spurt. We

> > decided

> > > to wait until next Tuesday to put her into the boots and bars

as

> > her

> > > little leg needs time to heal. I hope we don't need to cast

her

> > > again!!! Dr. Pirani showed us an excersize (holding her knee

> North

> > > and holding her foot East for 10 min.) that we will do twice a

> day

> > > with her.

> > >

> > > Before she had the 3 week cast put on, Dr. Pirani said that

she

> > would

> > > probably not need to have her tendon cut as the casting was

going

> > so

> > > well. We will find out next Tuesday if she needs to go into

> > another

> > > cast...has anyone else had a similar experience with the 3

week

> > cast?

> > > And if so, how long did the creases take to heal? I really

don't

> > want

> > > the big crease on the top of her foot to heal improperly and

tear

> > > when she moves her foot, it looks so painful!

> > >

> > > Any advise would be appreciated.

> > >

> > > Thank-you

> > >

> > > , Gilles and Grace

> >

> >

> >

> >

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Hi Joanne,

I hope she does continue the research...I know for my husband and me,

finding out about her club foot was a suprise at birth on top of

another medical condition she had. For myself, I went into a kind of

denial, we got her casted right away but knew that we would be seeing

another Dr. (Dr. Pirani BC Canada) for her treatment so I didn't

really ask too many questions. I told myself her foot would

be " fixed " in a couple of months. When I did find out the time she

will have to spend in her brace, I was devistated...my husband has

been the one to stay really upbeat about everything and has brought

me around a bit. I think I went through a bit of a greiving process,

silly as that sounds. We haven't even got to the point of being in

the brace yet (next week hopefully) so it is really nice to have this

site to chat with other mothers!! I did not know a thing about club

foot before Grace was born - honestly I thought it was something that

didn't happen anymore. It's kind of embarrasing to admit that but I

think most people have no idea! And it is not that uncommon of an

occurance! I think we will all be " informed experts " by the end our

our childrens treatment!

Yours,

, Gilles & Grace (8/21/04)

> ,

>

> You have a very good point about it being harder on us to see them

going

> through this than it is on them (assuming they're receiving the

proper

> treatment!)...

>

> Dr. Nom Bor from Israel who trained under Dr. Herzenberg was at the

> symposium last Saturday with his wife, Naomi, who is a

psychologist. She

> gave a presentation about the psychological impacts of clubfoot. I

had

> thought it would be from a child's perspective, but when she spoke

she spoke

> about her study which involved interviewing lots of families with

children

> who had clubfoot.

>

> She mostly spoke about and quoted what the moms and dads in Israel

had to

> say. Basically, she said some parents will handle everything OK,

but some

> parents may need counseling to handle their feelings of loss,

sadness,

> anger, etc. Doctors should be aware of this because the way the

parents

> respond to the child will impact the child's perceptions of herself

and what

> having a clubfoot means to the child. If the parent is so

distraught or

> depressed about the situation, it could impact the attachment

between the

> parent and child. She interviewed families where the husband said

the reason

> he left the family was due to the child being born with clubfoot.

The

> parents' feelings could also impact the compliance with the use of

the

> brace... There have been nights when Zoe was sick and miserable

that I have

> felt so bad for her I have removed the brace so she could sleep

better.

>

> Some of the mother's comments were heartwrenching. I think Dr. Bor

will be

> continuing with her research on this topic...

>

> Best, Joanne

>

>

>

> Message: 4

> Date: Thu, 09 Sep 2004 03:56:35 -0000

> From: " mj_remington "

> Subject: Re: to cynthia and marilouise

>

> Hi ,

>

> These babies do go through alot...we do too! I sometimes think it's

> harder on us to see them going through it than it is on them...they

> are so resiliant! So sorry to hear about your little one's cracks

> behind his knees! I am keeping polysporin on Grace's cracks are you

> using anything on Christian?

>

> My daughter had soft casts, the one's that they moisten then they

> harden after they are wraped into place, our Dr. also said that this

> way he can manipulate the foot more precicely. I guess a lot of kids

> are put into hard casts from what I have been reading, I wonder why?

> I hope his little leg heals fast!! Grace's leg looks so much better

> and it has only been 2 days!

>

> , Gilles and Grace (8/21/04)

>

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I did not have any problem bonding either. I was very upset and

cried a lot the first couple days. I saw his feet, but I don't think

I REALLY saw them until he was about 6 months old. We had many

pictures that we took before he was casted plus he was photographed

by a profesional before he was casted. He wasn't casted for the

first time until he was 2 1/2 weeks old. When he was about 6 months

old I was looking back at his newborn pictures. He was finished with

casting at this point and also was finished with his 23/7 DBB time.

So I was used to seeing his straight feet. It had been quite some

time since I had looked at these pictures. When I looked at them

that day my mouth dropped. I was so shocked I felt like I was seeing

what his feet looked like for the very first time. They had never

looked that twisted to me before. It's amazing what your mind does

sometimes to help you along (of course sometimes that works in the

opposite--as I'm sure it did when ee's ex could only hear him

mother saying that over and over again). That was a neat idea the

one who wrote a letter to their child about treatment along the way.

I wish I had done that. Maybe I'll go back and pull some of my

posts. You think you'll always remember every detail. I wish I had

been a journal person throughtout my life.

Pam and (8-12-01)

> Wow, it is difficult to imagine someone having trouble bonding with

their

> baby because of clubfoot. I don't even see the clubfoot when I

look at Kaitlin.

> It is just a part of her. True, I wish that she could have had 2

perfect

> feet, but clubfoot is just a small part of who she is. Like some

people are

> short or have big noses or poor eyesight...you know what I mean? I

guess everyone

> has a different way of coping and some people see it differently

than others.

> All based on individual life experiences, I guess.

>

> Freeman

>

>

>

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I did not have any problem bonding either. I was very upset and

cried a lot the first couple days. I saw his feet, but I don't think

I REALLY saw them until he was about 6 months old. We had many

pictures that we took before he was casted plus he was photographed

by a profesional before he was casted. He wasn't casted for the

first time until he was 2 1/2 weeks old. When he was about 6 months

old I was looking back at his newborn pictures. He was finished with

casting at this point and also was finished with his 23/7 DBB time.

So I was used to seeing his straight feet. It had been quite some

time since I had looked at these pictures. When I looked at them

that day my mouth dropped. I was so shocked I felt like I was seeing

what his feet looked like for the very first time. They had never

looked that twisted to me before. It's amazing what your mind does

sometimes to help you along (of course sometimes that works in the

opposite--as I'm sure it did when ee's ex could only hear him

mother saying that over and over again). That was a neat idea the

one who wrote a letter to their child about treatment along the way.

I wish I had done that. Maybe I'll go back and pull some of my

posts. You think you'll always remember every detail. I wish I had

been a journal person throughtout my life.

Pam and (8-12-01)

> Wow, it is difficult to imagine someone having trouble bonding with

their

> baby because of clubfoot. I don't even see the clubfoot when I

look at Kaitlin.

> It is just a part of her. True, I wish that she could have had 2

perfect

> feet, but clubfoot is just a small part of who she is. Like some

people are

> short or have big noses or poor eyesight...you know what I mean? I

guess everyone

> has a different way of coping and some people see it differently

than others.

> All based on individual life experiences, I guess.

>

> Freeman

>

>

>

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