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Thanks for all your supportive statements this am. That's so nice of

you...I personally love getting " you can do it " and " good for you " messages.

It's nice you take the time to " pep " us up!! Fay

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Hi Stef,

Thanks for emailing me. She had it at Fairfax with Dr. Ad. She is okay, she

just isn't sure how unique her problems are. She had an existing hiatal hernia

and the doctors think that the Amiodorone was just too much for her digestive

system to take. So she's sore from the coughing and the nausea.

Elise

Quarter Acre Orchids wrote:

Hi Elise - I'm in andria... where did your mom have the procedure

(Fairfax) and hows she doing?

Stef

elisekenney wrote:

Hello,

Two weeks ago my mother underwent the MAZE procedure and is had some

other complications. She is really looking to find someone who she

can talk to for morale and advice. We are in the northern virginia

area, she is currently in the hospital, but will hopefully be back

home soon.

Thank you!

Elise

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[Guest guest]

Hi Stef,

Thanks for emailing me. She had it at Fairfax with Dr. Ad. She is okay, she

just isn't sure how unique her problems are. She had an existing hiatal hernia

and the doctors think that the Amiodorone was just too much for her digestive

system to take. So she's sore from the coughing and the nausea.

Elise

Quarter Acre Orchids wrote:

Hi Elise - I'm in andria... where did your mom have the procedure

(Fairfax) and hows she doing?

Stef

elisekenney wrote:

Hello,

Two weeks ago my mother underwent the MAZE procedure and is had some

other complications. She is really looking to find someone who she

can talk to for morale and advice. We are in the northern virginia

area, she is currently in the hospital, but will hopefully be back

home soon.

Thank you!

Elise

Web Page - http://www.afibsupport.com

List owner: AFIBsupport-owner

For help on how to use the group, including how to drive it via email,

send a blank email to AFIBsupport-help

Nothing in this message should be considered as medical advice, or should be

acted upon without consultation with one's physician.

[Guest guest]

Hello ,

I will encourage you to open up to your friends and tell your boyfriend how

you feel. Even though his wife died of B/C he will understand and be there for

you. I didn't want tell my family and some of my friends before the surgery, but

I told them after, most of my friends are there for me, even my male friend

who doesn't even call me his girlfriend been there for me and he takes me to

every appointment. Yesterday when I went to my Dr's office to sign my short

term disability papers, he was not with me and 2 nurses asked where is your

husband? I told them he is not my husband, he is my friend and they said that he

acts like one.

Please involve your friends and family in your care and be able to call them

anytime you need someone to talk to. You are in my prayers, God bless.

Chantal

nens_in2006 wrote: Dear all,

Having tried coping on my own since being diagnosed at the end of May

I am now discovering that this is not a one-man-job. I have always

been the strong type. But I'm afraid I am now slowly falling apart.

That's why I join this group.

I am 37 and have always been very independent. I have been in a

relationship for about 18 months but we have kept our own homes

meeting in weekends and sometimes a few times on weekdays. I work as

a secretary but am currently unable to work and fortunately my boss

and colleagues let me decide for myself what I can and cannot handle,

which is about nothing at the moment.

Since my diagnosis I have sort of moved in with my boyfriend. Well, I

just stayed there. Not having to go to work anymore and being so torn

it seemed the logic thing to just stay with him.

Then I had the operation, which was 'peanuts'. I went to the

supermarket within 20 hours after surgery. High on adrenalin I guess.

And then radiotherapy. I had the last session of 33 yesterday. Went

to the hospital on my own every day except Fridays when my boyfriend

could come along. And all the while I acted 'tough'.

And now I am facing chemotherapy and I'm so scared and feel terribly

lonely. I don't think my boyfriend has any idea how terrified I am

and worried about the practicalities of things. I live with him, but

don't feel 'at home' because his 25 and 22 year-old sons live there

too. I feel so vulnerable en nothing like the independent strong

woman I used to be.

When I try to tell people how I feel I do not seem to be able to get

the message across how lonely I am in this terrible situation. People

only want to hear positive things.

So, I am reaching out to you. I hope you can maybe give me advise on

how to get the message across to my boyfriend and friends that I need

them. I know it is me who needs to open up somehow, but the

vulnerability and fear is taking al my strength and dignity.

The horror of things is that my boyfriend's late wife died of

breastcancer 2,5 years ago. I feel that I cannot burden him while I

need him so badly to be there for me.

I would be very grateful if you could in any way advise me on letting

the toughness go.

And thanks a million for being there.

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