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Well I don't want to start any wars either... as I've said in our instance

the classroom ban worked very well and every parent was supportive of it.

We participate in the latex ban for the child at my daughters school. I'd

participate in any ban if it was a matter of someone's health, to me thats a

no brainer.

My child is at school for 1 meal a day, 5 days a week, 180 days a year,

thats not so much, we can just eat the banned products at home if we want

them. Its not a biggie for me.

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Well I don't want to start any wars either... as I've said in our instance

the classroom ban worked very well and every parent was supportive of it.

We participate in the latex ban for the child at my daughters school. I'd

participate in any ban if it was a matter of someone's health, to me thats a

no brainer.

My child is at school for 1 meal a day, 5 days a week, 180 days a year,

thats not so much, we can just eat the banned products at home if we want

them. Its not a biggie for me.

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Well I don't want to start any wars either... as I've said in our instance

the classroom ban worked very well and every parent was supportive of it.

We participate in the latex ban for the child at my daughters school. I'd

participate in any ban if it was a matter of someone's health, to me thats a

no brainer.

My child is at school for 1 meal a day, 5 days a week, 180 days a year,

thats not so much, we can just eat the banned products at home if we want

them. Its not a biggie for me.

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I think you are coming to terms with one of the more difficult burdens

of CD.

If an individual has, say, MS or is autistic or highly asthmatic

generally these symptoms are very apparent to others so we, by our

genetic programming, recognize these individuals as " different " and we

adjust. But a person with CD can otherwise look and act

completely " normal " so often the reponse from others is " what's *your*

problem? " It's a bit harder to catch some slack. It seems terribly

unfair.

Awareness is a large factor. Peanut allergies are better known than

gluten toxicity plus the fact that an individual can die on the spot

from peanut exposure adds urgency. It was only a decade or so ago that

the medical community began to accept that celiac was more than a rare

childhood disorder. We're past the " pioneering " days but it's still

rather early in the disease's timeline.

I always think, gee, if I were born a few centuries ago I'd probably be

dead by now. We spend a LOT of money in the US on health care so I

believe we expect a lot from medicine. We don't want to wait until the

day when celiacs can live like normal people.

But that day is not here and coming to terms with reality and

developing a coping strategy is something we have to pursue, even if it

is unfair and rotten. You can however always find someone else who has

a more difficult burden to bear. It's tough to see that some people

seem to have it so well but long-term angst likely will only do

yourself more harm, though of course this is easier said than done.

Sometimes we may realize we may have a spirituality crisis. I don't

want to touch that electrified rail called religion but various faith

systems often share the same foundation and its important to revisit

various truths now and then.

We are alive. We have free will. No one or no thing has any more

control over our minds and spirits than ourselves. It's time to stop

worrying about what you don't have or can't have and start living. If

we believe in a Creator maybe this is His plan, maybe these burdens of

ours have reasons beyond our comprehension. Maybe we can become

stronger people because of our challenges. We all will die, that day

will come, but here I am living in the present moment and everything is

before me. Where will my next step take me?

>

> I have watched this thread and feel compelled to put my two cents

> in. I know it'll probably result in curses and flames - but

> everyone is entitled to their opinion (at least I hope we all feel

> that way).

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I think you are coming to terms with one of the more difficult burdens

of CD.

If an individual has, say, MS or is autistic or highly asthmatic

generally these symptoms are very apparent to others so we, by our

genetic programming, recognize these individuals as " different " and we

adjust. But a person with CD can otherwise look and act

completely " normal " so often the reponse from others is " what's *your*

problem? " It's a bit harder to catch some slack. It seems terribly

unfair.

Awareness is a large factor. Peanut allergies are better known than

gluten toxicity plus the fact that an individual can die on the spot

from peanut exposure adds urgency. It was only a decade or so ago that

the medical community began to accept that celiac was more than a rare

childhood disorder. We're past the " pioneering " days but it's still

rather early in the disease's timeline.

I always think, gee, if I were born a few centuries ago I'd probably be

dead by now. We spend a LOT of money in the US on health care so I

believe we expect a lot from medicine. We don't want to wait until the

day when celiacs can live like normal people.

But that day is not here and coming to terms with reality and

developing a coping strategy is something we have to pursue, even if it

is unfair and rotten. You can however always find someone else who has

a more difficult burden to bear. It's tough to see that some people

seem to have it so well but long-term angst likely will only do

yourself more harm, though of course this is easier said than done.

Sometimes we may realize we may have a spirituality crisis. I don't

want to touch that electrified rail called religion but various faith

systems often share the same foundation and its important to revisit

various truths now and then.

We are alive. We have free will. No one or no thing has any more

control over our minds and spirits than ourselves. It's time to stop

worrying about what you don't have or can't have and start living. If

we believe in a Creator maybe this is His plan, maybe these burdens of

ours have reasons beyond our comprehension. Maybe we can become

stronger people because of our challenges. We all will die, that day

will come, but here I am living in the present moment and everything is

before me. Where will my next step take me?

>

> I have watched this thread and feel compelled to put my two cents

> in. I know it'll probably result in curses and flames - but

> everyone is entitled to their opinion (at least I hope we all feel

> that way).

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The squeaky wheel gets the grease! After having another discussion

with my daughter's first grade teacher, he put out a notice to the

parents plainly, bluntly but politely requiring them to give him

advance notice for all parties. He's a great teacher and honestly I

think it irritated him that parents would, unannounced, show up with

cupcakes. I wish I saved the letter. I chuckled when I read it b/c

the way he said it, he made the parent aware of their actions and see

how they are excluding the the children w/food allergies the pleasure

of participating in their child's birthday celebration.

> > > > > >

> > > > > > As a parent of a child with airborne peanut reactions and

> > > > > anaphylactic

> > > > > > reactions with any contact to peanuts.... no I don't

> expect

> > > the

> > > > > entire

> > > > > > classroom or the school to be " responsible " for my

> daughters

> > > > > allergy but I

> > > > > > do expect them to take reasonable steps to protect my

> child

> > > from

> > > > > dying,

> > > > > > which is what the reaction could easily be with her level

> of

> > > > > allergy. This

> > > > > > was especially true when she was in elementary school.

As

> a

> > > > young

> > > > > child she

> > > > > > didn't have the skills enough to recognize situations

> where

> > > she

> > > > was

> > > > > at risk

> > > > > > so at that age, yes I expected the school to take steps

to

> > > keep

> > > > her

> > > > > safe.

> > > > > >

> > > > > > I'm very happy to report back then the principal of her

> > school

> > > > > agreed with

> > > > > > me and asked the parents in her classroom to voluntarily

> > not

> > > > send

> > > > > their

> > > > > > kids with peanut products. Every single parent complied

> > with

> > > > this

> > > > > request,

> > > > > > every single year. The parents had my phone number and

> > would

> > > > call

> > > > > me about

> > > > > > products they had at home. It worked out wonderfully for

> > us.

> > > > Were

> > > > > mistakes

> > > > > > made (like with power/snack bars)? Maybe so but I'm not

> > aware

> > > > of

> > > > > any, every

> > > > > > single parent was so nice about it, my daughter became

> > > > everyone's

> > > > > child and

> > > > > > on field trips and such..... all the parents were

> constantly

> > > > > monitoring food

> > > > > > and snacks around her (I did go on every field trip).

> > > > > >

> > > > > > They decided not to ban peanuts in the entire school but

> > gave

> > > my

> > > > > daughter a

> > > > > > separate lounge to eat her lunch in (she could pick 5

> > friends

> > > a

> > > > day

> > > > > to eat

> > > > > > there with her). Again the precautions that everyone

took

> > for

> > > > us

> > > > > really

> > > > > > worked... she was in that school for 5 years (to 4th

> > > and

> > > > > only had 2

> > > > > > reactions. Then she went to another school where they

> > didn't

> > > > take

> > > > > the issue

> > > > > > as seriously and she would have to come home or go to the

> > > > hospital

> > > > > 3 times a

> > > > > > week, her grades suffered, her confidence suffered and

she

> > got

> > > > > behind.

> > > > > >

> > > > > > Now she is in 8th grade and she has only had a few

> reactions

> > > > this

> > > > > year, the

> > > > > > only precaution she has is a peanut free lunch table but,

> > the

> > > > > difference is

> > > > > > that she can now read labels, she is old enough and

mature

> > > > enough

> > > > > to take

> > > > > > care of her allergy. The other saving grace is that in

> > Middle

> > > > > school very

> > > > > > few kids eat PB & J its just not " cool " .

> > > > > >

> > > > > > So you know what... it really does take a village to keep

> > our

> > > > kids

> > > > > happy and

> > > > > > healthy and I guess I've convinced myself that I do

expect

> > > help

> > > > and

> > > > > > understanding from others... I'd certainly do it for

their

> > > kids

> > > > (in

> > > > > my

> > > > > > daughters school there is a child with latex allergy so

> > severe

> > > > that

> > > > > the

> > > > > > entire school does not have ANY latex in it and I'm happy

> to

> > > > abide

> > > > > by that

> > > > > > rule).

> > > > > >

> > > > > > You mentioned that your child has asthma and celiac,

those

> > are

> > > > very

> > > > > > different then an anaphylactic airborne peanut allergy, I

> > know

> > > > > about them

> > > > > > first hand too, my peanut girl has both!

> > > > > >

> > > > > >

> > > > > >

> > > > > > > Are 50 parents (one classroom) responsible for the

> safety

> > of

> > > > > someone

> > > > > > > else's child?

> > > > > > >

> > > > > > > Are 500 parents (entire school) responsible for the

> safety

> > > of

> > > > > someone

> > > > > > > else's child?

> > > > > >

> > > > > > > As the parent of a child with not only celiac but also

a

> > > > > complicated

> > > > > > > list of allergies and intolerances, I do not expect

> other

> > > > parents

> > > > > to

> > > > > > > be responsible for my child's safety. To date, he has

> not

> > > > any

> > > > > > > analphylactic reactions, but I have already been warned

> by

> > > the

> > > > > > > allergist he is at risk for them, and he does have

major

> > > asthma

> > > > > > > attacks from certain allergens. Dogs are a major

trigger

> > for

> > > > his

> > > > > > > asthma *and people can die from asthma in a very few

> > > minutes*

> > > > *,

> > > > > can I

> > > > > > > ban dogs in all public places because of one person's

> > needs?

> > > > He

> > > > > also

> > > > > > > reacts to " secondhand dog " on other people's clothes,

> can

> > I

> > > > insist

> > > > > > > every child in class live in a dog-free home? No,

> neither

> > of

> > > > > those is

> > > > > > > reasonable.

> > > > > >

> > > > >

> > > >

> > >

> >

>

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The squeaky wheel gets the grease! After having another discussion

with my daughter's first grade teacher, he put out a notice to the

parents plainly, bluntly but politely requiring them to give him

advance notice for all parties. He's a great teacher and honestly I

think it irritated him that parents would, unannounced, show up with

cupcakes. I wish I saved the letter. I chuckled when I read it b/c

the way he said it, he made the parent aware of their actions and see

how they are excluding the the children w/food allergies the pleasure

of participating in their child's birthday celebration.

> > > > > >

> > > > > > As a parent of a child with airborne peanut reactions and

> > > > > anaphylactic

> > > > > > reactions with any contact to peanuts.... no I don't

> expect

> > > the

> > > > > entire

> > > > > > classroom or the school to be " responsible " for my

> daughters

> > > > > allergy but I

> > > > > > do expect them to take reasonable steps to protect my

> child

> > > from

> > > > > dying,

> > > > > > which is what the reaction could easily be with her level

> of

> > > > > allergy. This

> > > > > > was especially true when she was in elementary school.

As

> a

> > > > young

> > > > > child she

> > > > > > didn't have the skills enough to recognize situations

> where

> > > she

> > > > was

> > > > > at risk

> > > > > > so at that age, yes I expected the school to take steps

to

> > > keep

> > > > her

> > > > > safe.

> > > > > >

> > > > > > I'm very happy to report back then the principal of her

> > school

> > > > > agreed with

> > > > > > me and asked the parents in her classroom to voluntarily

> > not

> > > > send

> > > > > their

> > > > > > kids with peanut products. Every single parent complied

> > with

> > > > this

> > > > > request,

> > > > > > every single year. The parents had my phone number and

> > would

> > > > call

> > > > > me about

> > > > > > products they had at home. It worked out wonderfully for

> > us.

> > > > Were

> > > > > mistakes

> > > > > > made (like with power/snack bars)? Maybe so but I'm not

> > aware

> > > > of

> > > > > any, every

> > > > > > single parent was so nice about it, my daughter became

> > > > everyone's

> > > > > child and

> > > > > > on field trips and such..... all the parents were

> constantly

> > > > > monitoring food

> > > > > > and snacks around her (I did go on every field trip).

> > > > > >

> > > > > > They decided not to ban peanuts in the entire school but

> > gave

> > > my

> > > > > daughter a

> > > > > > separate lounge to eat her lunch in (she could pick 5

> > friends

> > > a

> > > > day

> > > > > to eat

> > > > > > there with her). Again the precautions that everyone

took

> > for

> > > > us

> > > > > really

> > > > > > worked... she was in that school for 5 years (to 4th

> > > and

> > > > > only had 2

> > > > > > reactions. Then she went to another school where they

> > didn't

> > > > take

> > > > > the issue

> > > > > > as seriously and she would have to come home or go to the

> > > > hospital

> > > > > 3 times a

> > > > > > week, her grades suffered, her confidence suffered and

she

> > got

> > > > > behind.

> > > > > >

> > > > > > Now she is in 8th grade and she has only had a few

> reactions

> > > > this

> > > > > year, the

> > > > > > only precaution she has is a peanut free lunch table but,

> > the

> > > > > difference is

> > > > > > that she can now read labels, she is old enough and

mature

> > > > enough

> > > > > to take

> > > > > > care of her allergy. The other saving grace is that in

> > Middle

> > > > > school very

> > > > > > few kids eat PB & J its just not " cool " .

> > > > > >

> > > > > > So you know what... it really does take a village to keep

> > our

> > > > kids

> > > > > happy and

> > > > > > healthy and I guess I've convinced myself that I do

expect

> > > help

> > > > and

> > > > > > understanding from others... I'd certainly do it for

their

> > > kids

> > > > (in

> > > > > my

> > > > > > daughters school there is a child with latex allergy so

> > severe

> > > > that

> > > > > the

> > > > > > entire school does not have ANY latex in it and I'm happy

> to

> > > > abide

> > > > > by that

> > > > > > rule).

> > > > > >

> > > > > > You mentioned that your child has asthma and celiac,

those

> > are

> > > > very

> > > > > > different then an anaphylactic airborne peanut allergy, I

> > know

> > > > > about them

> > > > > > first hand too, my peanut girl has both!

> > > > > >

> > > > > >

> > > > > >

> > > > > > > Are 50 parents (one classroom) responsible for the

> safety

> > of

> > > > > someone

> > > > > > > else's child?

> > > > > > >

> > > > > > > Are 500 parents (entire school) responsible for the

> safety

> > > of

> > > > > someone

> > > > > > > else's child?

> > > > > >

> > > > > > > As the parent of a child with not only celiac but also

a

> > > > > complicated

> > > > > > > list of allergies and intolerances, I do not expect

> other

> > > > parents

> > > > > to

> > > > > > > be responsible for my child's safety. To date, he has

> not

> > > > any

> > > > > > > analphylactic reactions, but I have already been warned

> by

> > > the

> > > > > > > allergist he is at risk for them, and he does have

major

> > > asthma

> > > > > > > attacks from certain allergens. Dogs are a major

trigger

> > for

> > > > his

> > > > > > > asthma *and people can die from asthma in a very few

> > > minutes*

> > > > *,

> > > > > can I

> > > > > > > ban dogs in all public places because of one person's

> > needs?

> > > > He

> > > > > also

> > > > > > > reacts to " secondhand dog " on other people's clothes,

> can

> > I

> > > > insist

> > > > > > > every child in class live in a dog-free home? No,

> neither

> > of

> > > > > those is

> > > > > > > reasonable.

> > > > > >

> > > > >

> > > >

> > >

> >

>

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The squeaky wheel gets the grease! After having another discussion

with my daughter's first grade teacher, he put out a notice to the

parents plainly, bluntly but politely requiring them to give him

advance notice for all parties. He's a great teacher and honestly I

think it irritated him that parents would, unannounced, show up with

cupcakes. I wish I saved the letter. I chuckled when I read it b/c

the way he said it, he made the parent aware of their actions and see

how they are excluding the the children w/food allergies the pleasure

of participating in their child's birthday celebration.

> > > > > >

> > > > > > As a parent of a child with airborne peanut reactions and

> > > > > anaphylactic

> > > > > > reactions with any contact to peanuts.... no I don't

> expect

> > > the

> > > > > entire

> > > > > > classroom or the school to be " responsible " for my

> daughters

> > > > > allergy but I

> > > > > > do expect them to take reasonable steps to protect my

> child

> > > from

> > > > > dying,

> > > > > > which is what the reaction could easily be with her level

> of

> > > > > allergy. This

> > > > > > was especially true when she was in elementary school.

As

> a

> > > > young

> > > > > child she

> > > > > > didn't have the skills enough to recognize situations

> where

> > > she

> > > > was

> > > > > at risk

> > > > > > so at that age, yes I expected the school to take steps

to

> > > keep

> > > > her

> > > > > safe.

> > > > > >

> > > > > > I'm very happy to report back then the principal of her

> > school

> > > > > agreed with

> > > > > > me and asked the parents in her classroom to voluntarily

> > not

> > > > send

> > > > > their

> > > > > > kids with peanut products. Every single parent complied

> > with

> > > > this

> > > > > request,

> > > > > > every single year. The parents had my phone number and

> > would

> > > > call

> > > > > me about

> > > > > > products they had at home. It worked out wonderfully for

> > us.

> > > > Were

> > > > > mistakes

> > > > > > made (like with power/snack bars)? Maybe so but I'm not

> > aware

> > > > of

> > > > > any, every

> > > > > > single parent was so nice about it, my daughter became

> > > > everyone's

> > > > > child and

> > > > > > on field trips and such..... all the parents were

> constantly

> > > > > monitoring food

> > > > > > and snacks around her (I did go on every field trip).

> > > > > >

> > > > > > They decided not to ban peanuts in the entire school but

> > gave

> > > my

> > > > > daughter a

> > > > > > separate lounge to eat her lunch in (she could pick 5

> > friends

> > > a

> > > > day

> > > > > to eat

> > > > > > there with her). Again the precautions that everyone

took

> > for

> > > > us

> > > > > really

> > > > > > worked... she was in that school for 5 years (to 4th

> > > and

> > > > > only had 2

> > > > > > reactions. Then she went to another school where they

> > didn't

> > > > take

> > > > > the issue

> > > > > > as seriously and she would have to come home or go to the

> > > > hospital

> > > > > 3 times a

> > > > > > week, her grades suffered, her confidence suffered and

she

> > got

> > > > > behind.

> > > > > >

> > > > > > Now she is in 8th grade and she has only had a few

> reactions

> > > > this

> > > > > year, the

> > > > > > only precaution she has is a peanut free lunch table but,

> > the

> > > > > difference is

> > > > > > that she can now read labels, she is old enough and

mature

> > > > enough

> > > > > to take

> > > > > > care of her allergy. The other saving grace is that in

> > Middle

> > > > > school very

> > > > > > few kids eat PB & J its just not " cool " .

> > > > > >

> > > > > > So you know what... it really does take a village to keep

> > our

> > > > kids

> > > > > happy and

> > > > > > healthy and I guess I've convinced myself that I do

expect

> > > help

> > > > and

> > > > > > understanding from others... I'd certainly do it for

their

> > > kids

> > > > (in

> > > > > my

> > > > > > daughters school there is a child with latex allergy so

> > severe

> > > > that

> > > > > the

> > > > > > entire school does not have ANY latex in it and I'm happy

> to

> > > > abide

> > > > > by that

> > > > > > rule).

> > > > > >

> > > > > > You mentioned that your child has asthma and celiac,

those

> > are

> > > > very

> > > > > > different then an anaphylactic airborne peanut allergy, I

> > know

> > > > > about them

> > > > > > first hand too, my peanut girl has both!

> > > > > >

> > > > > >

> > > > > >

> > > > > > > Are 50 parents (one classroom) responsible for the

> safety

> > of

> > > > > someone

> > > > > > > else's child?

> > > > > > >

> > > > > > > Are 500 parents (entire school) responsible for the

> safety

> > > of

> > > > > someone

> > > > > > > else's child?

> > > > > >

> > > > > > > As the parent of a child with not only celiac but also

a

> > > > > complicated

> > > > > > > list of allergies and intolerances, I do not expect

> other

> > > > parents

> > > > > to

> > > > > > > be responsible for my child's safety. To date, he has

> not

> > > > any

> > > > > > > analphylactic reactions, but I have already been warned

> by

> > > the

> > > > > > > allergist he is at risk for them, and he does have

major

> > > asthma

> > > > > > > attacks from certain allergens. Dogs are a major

trigger

> > for

> > > > his

> > > > > > > asthma *and people can die from asthma in a very few

> > > minutes*

> > > > *,

> > > > > can I

> > > > > > > ban dogs in all public places because of one person's

> > needs?

> > > > He

> > > > > also

> > > > > > > reacts to " secondhand dog " on other people's clothes,

> can

> > I

> > > > insist

> > > > > > > every child in class live in a dog-free home? No,

> neither

> > of

> > > > > those is

> > > > > > > reasonable.

> > > > > >

> > > > >

> > > >

> > >

> >

>

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I guess today I do feel the burden of this disease even though it

doesn't affect me personally (I don't have CD). But maybe that's

part of what makes it harder - my son's life is somewhat out of my

control and it's not going to get any easier going forward. I

cringe at the thought of him wanting (or god forbid trying) beer! I

have yet to get a negative test result and I feel like I have been

doing a good job - the best job that I can do and yet I still am

failing.

At least for me now, there are so many things that make it easy on

me. He knows his restrictions and he doesn't balk the slightest at

them, probably because I make sure he has equivalents of whatever he

might want in the way of " gluten " foods. I am so thankful for that.

One thing that has made me realize that there are far worse

scenarios is being on this list - I only have CD to deal with. I

read about these people who have egg, dairy, soy, nut and who knows

what else as far as food allergies. I can't even fathom having to

figure out what to eat with all that going on too! No pity-parties

for me.

Cathy

> >

> > I have watched this thread and feel compelled to put my two

cents

> > in. I know it'll probably result in curses and flames - but

> > everyone is entitled to their opinion (at least I hope we all

feel

> > that way).

>

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I guess today I do feel the burden of this disease even though it

doesn't affect me personally (I don't have CD). But maybe that's

part of what makes it harder - my son's life is somewhat out of my

control and it's not going to get any easier going forward. I

cringe at the thought of him wanting (or god forbid trying) beer! I

have yet to get a negative test result and I feel like I have been

doing a good job - the best job that I can do and yet I still am

failing.

At least for me now, there are so many things that make it easy on

me. He knows his restrictions and he doesn't balk the slightest at

them, probably because I make sure he has equivalents of whatever he

might want in the way of " gluten " foods. I am so thankful for that.

One thing that has made me realize that there are far worse

scenarios is being on this list - I only have CD to deal with. I

read about these people who have egg, dairy, soy, nut and who knows

what else as far as food allergies. I can't even fathom having to

figure out what to eat with all that going on too! No pity-parties

for me.

Cathy

> >

> > I have watched this thread and feel compelled to put my two

cents

> > in. I know it'll probably result in curses and flames - but

> > everyone is entitled to their opinion (at least I hope we all

feel

> > that way).

>

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I guess today I do feel the burden of this disease even though it

doesn't affect me personally (I don't have CD). But maybe that's

part of what makes it harder - my son's life is somewhat out of my

control and it's not going to get any easier going forward. I

cringe at the thought of him wanting (or god forbid trying) beer! I

have yet to get a negative test result and I feel like I have been

doing a good job - the best job that I can do and yet I still am

failing.

At least for me now, there are so many things that make it easy on

me. He knows his restrictions and he doesn't balk the slightest at

them, probably because I make sure he has equivalents of whatever he

might want in the way of " gluten " foods. I am so thankful for that.

One thing that has made me realize that there are far worse

scenarios is being on this list - I only have CD to deal with. I

read about these people who have egg, dairy, soy, nut and who knows

what else as far as food allergies. I can't even fathom having to

figure out what to eat with all that going on too! No pity-parties

for me.

Cathy

> >

> > I have watched this thread and feel compelled to put my two

cents

> > in. I know it'll probably result in curses and flames - but

> > everyone is entitled to their opinion (at least I hope we all

feel

> > that way).

>

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See and that's what is frustrating me about it too. I've repeatedly

asked the teacher to notify parents and she has repeatedly put the

Arggh!

> > > > > > >

> > > > > > > As a parent of a child with airborne peanut reactions

and

> > > > > > anaphylactic

> > > > > > > reactions with any contact to peanuts.... no I don't

> > expect

> > > > the

> > > > > > entire

> > > > > > > classroom or the school to be " responsible " for my

> > daughters

> > > > > > allergy but I

> > > > > > > do expect them to take reasonable steps to protect my

> > child

> > > > from

> > > > > > dying,

> > > > > > > which is what the reaction could easily be with her

level

> > of

> > > > > > allergy. This

> > > > > > > was especially true when she was in elementary

school.

> As

> > a

> > > > > young

> > > > > > child she

> > > > > > > didn't have the skills enough to recognize situations

> > where

> > > > she

> > > > > was

> > > > > > at risk

> > > > > > > so at that age, yes I expected the school to take

steps

> to

> > > > keep

> > > > > her

> > > > > > safe.

> > > > > > >

> > > > > > > I'm very happy to report back then the principal of

her

> > > school

> > > > > > agreed with

> > > > > > > me and asked the parents in her classroom to

voluntarily

> > > not

> > > > > send

> > > > > > their

> > > > > > > kids with peanut products. Every single parent

complied

> > > with

> > > > > this

> > > > > > request,

> > > > > > > every single year. The parents had my phone number

and

> > > would

> > > > > call

> > > > > > me about

> > > > > > > products they had at home. It worked out wonderfully

for

> > > us.

> > > > > Were

> > > > > > mistakes

> > > > > > > made (like with power/snack bars)? Maybe so but I'm

not

> > > aware

> > > > > of

> > > > > > any, every

> > > > > > > single parent was so nice about it, my daughter became

> > > > > everyone's

> > > > > > child and

> > > > > > > on field trips and such..... all the parents were

> > constantly

> > > > > > monitoring food

> > > > > > > and snacks around her (I did go on every field trip).

> > > > > > >

> > > > > > > They decided not to ban peanuts in the entire school

but

> > > gave

> > > > my

> > > > > > daughter a

> > > > > > > separate lounge to eat her lunch in (she could pick 5

> > > friends

> > > > a

> > > > > day

> > > > > > to eat

> > > > > > > there with her). Again the precautions that everyone

> took

> > > for

> > > > > us

> > > > > > really

> > > > > > > worked... she was in that school for 5 years (to 4th

> > > > and

> > > > > > only had 2

> > > > > > > reactions. Then she went to another school where they

> > > didn't

> > > > > take

> > > > > > the issue

> > > > > > > as seriously and she would have to come home or go to

the

> > > > > hospital

> > > > > > 3 times a

> > > > > > > week, her grades suffered, her confidence suffered and

> she

> > > got

> > > > > > behind.

> > > > > > >

> > > > > > > Now she is in 8th grade and she has only had a few

> > reactions

> > > > > this

> > > > > > year, the

> > > > > > > only precaution she has is a peanut free lunch table

but,

> > > the

> > > > > > difference is

> > > > > > > that she can now read labels, she is old enough and

> mature

> > > > > enough

> > > > > > to take

> > > > > > > care of her allergy. The other saving grace is that

in

> > > Middle

> > > > > > school very

> > > > > > > few kids eat PB & J its just not " cool " .

> > > > > > >

> > > > > > > So you know what... it really does take a village to

keep

> > > our

> > > > > kids

> > > > > > happy and

> > > > > > > healthy and I guess I've convinced myself that I do

> expect

> > > > help

> > > > > and

> > > > > > > understanding from others... I'd certainly do it for

> their

> > > > kids

> > > > > (in

> > > > > > my

> > > > > > > daughters school there is a child with latex allergy

so

> > > severe

> > > > > that

> > > > > > the

> > > > > > > entire school does not have ANY latex in it and I'm

happy

> > to

> > > > > abide

> > > > > > by that

> > > > > > > rule).

> > > > > > >

> > > > > > > You mentioned that your child has asthma and celiac,

> those

> > > are

> > > > > very

> > > > > > > different then an anaphylactic airborne peanut

allergy, I

> > > know

> > > > > > about them

> > > > > > > first hand too, my peanut girl has both!

> > > > > > >

> > > > > > >

> > > > > > >

> > > > > > > > Are 50 parents (one classroom) responsible for the

> > safety

> > > of

> > > > > > someone

> > > > > > > > else's child?

> > > > > > > >

> > > > > > > > Are 500 parents (entire school) responsible for the

> > safety

> > > > of

> > > > > > someone

> > > > > > > > else's child?

> > > > > > >

> > > > > > > > As the parent of a child with not only celiac but

also

> a

> > > > > > complicated

> > > > > > > > list of allergies and intolerances, I do not expect

> > other

> > > > > parents

> > > > > > to

> > > > > > > > be responsible for my child's safety. To date, he

has

> > not

> > > > > any

> > > > > > > > analphylactic reactions, but I have already been

warned

> > by

> > > > the

> > > > > > > > allergist he is at risk for them, and he does have

> major

> > > > asthma

> > > > > > > > attacks from certain allergens. Dogs are a major

> trigger

> > > for

> > > > > his

> > > > > > > > asthma *and people can die from asthma in a very few

> > > > minutes*

> > > > > *,

> > > > > > can I

> > > > > > > > ban dogs in all public places because of one

person's

> > > needs?

> > > > > He

> > > > > > also

> > > > > > > > reacts to " secondhand dog " on other people's

clothes,

> > can

> > > I

> > > > > insist

> > > > > > > > every child in class live in a dog-free home? No,

> > neither

> > > of

> > > > > > those is

> > > > > > > > reasonable.

> > > > > > >

> > > > > >

> > > > >

> > > >

> > >

> >

>

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See and that's what is frustrating me about it too. I've repeatedly

asked the teacher to notify parents and she has repeatedly put the

Arggh!

> > > > > > >

> > > > > > > As a parent of a child with airborne peanut reactions

and

> > > > > > anaphylactic

> > > > > > > reactions with any contact to peanuts.... no I don't

> > expect

> > > > the

> > > > > > entire

> > > > > > > classroom or the school to be " responsible " for my

> > daughters

> > > > > > allergy but I

> > > > > > > do expect them to take reasonable steps to protect my

> > child

> > > > from

> > > > > > dying,

> > > > > > > which is what the reaction could easily be with her

level

> > of

> > > > > > allergy. This

> > > > > > > was especially true when she was in elementary

school.

> As

> > a

> > > > > young

> > > > > > child she

> > > > > > > didn't have the skills enough to recognize situations

> > where

> > > > she

> > > > > was

> > > > > > at risk

> > > > > > > so at that age, yes I expected the school to take

steps

> to

> > > > keep

> > > > > her

> > > > > > safe.

> > > > > > >

> > > > > > > I'm very happy to report back then the principal of

her

> > > school

> > > > > > agreed with

> > > > > > > me and asked the parents in her classroom to

voluntarily

> > > not

> > > > > send

> > > > > > their

> > > > > > > kids with peanut products. Every single parent

complied

> > > with

> > > > > this

> > > > > > request,

> > > > > > > every single year. The parents had my phone number

and

> > > would

> > > > > call

> > > > > > me about

> > > > > > > products they had at home. It worked out wonderfully

for

> > > us.

> > > > > Were

> > > > > > mistakes

> > > > > > > made (like with power/snack bars)? Maybe so but I'm

not

> > > aware

> > > > > of

> > > > > > any, every

> > > > > > > single parent was so nice about it, my daughter became

> > > > > everyone's

> > > > > > child and

> > > > > > > on field trips and such..... all the parents were

> > constantly

> > > > > > monitoring food

> > > > > > > and snacks around her (I did go on every field trip).

> > > > > > >

> > > > > > > They decided not to ban peanuts in the entire school

but

> > > gave

> > > > my

> > > > > > daughter a

> > > > > > > separate lounge to eat her lunch in (she could pick 5

> > > friends

> > > > a

> > > > > day

> > > > > > to eat

> > > > > > > there with her). Again the precautions that everyone

> took

> > > for

> > > > > us

> > > > > > really

> > > > > > > worked... she was in that school for 5 years (to 4th

> > > > and

> > > > > > only had 2

> > > > > > > reactions. Then she went to another school where they

> > > didn't

> > > > > take

> > > > > > the issue

> > > > > > > as seriously and she would have to come home or go to

the

> > > > > hospital

> > > > > > 3 times a

> > > > > > > week, her grades suffered, her confidence suffered and

> she

> > > got

> > > > > > behind.

> > > > > > >

> > > > > > > Now she is in 8th grade and she has only had a few

> > reactions

> > > > > this

> > > > > > year, the

> > > > > > > only precaution she has is a peanut free lunch table

but,

> > > the

> > > > > > difference is

> > > > > > > that she can now read labels, she is old enough and

> mature

> > > > > enough

> > > > > > to take

> > > > > > > care of her allergy. The other saving grace is that

in

> > > Middle

> > > > > > school very

> > > > > > > few kids eat PB & J its just not " cool " .

> > > > > > >

> > > > > > > So you know what... it really does take a village to

keep

> > > our

> > > > > kids

> > > > > > happy and

> > > > > > > healthy and I guess I've convinced myself that I do

> expect

> > > > help

> > > > > and

> > > > > > > understanding from others... I'd certainly do it for

> their

> > > > kids

> > > > > (in

> > > > > > my

> > > > > > > daughters school there is a child with latex allergy

so

> > > severe

> > > > > that

> > > > > > the

> > > > > > > entire school does not have ANY latex in it and I'm

happy

> > to

> > > > > abide

> > > > > > by that

> > > > > > > rule).

> > > > > > >

> > > > > > > You mentioned that your child has asthma and celiac,

> those

> > > are

> > > > > very

> > > > > > > different then an anaphylactic airborne peanut

allergy, I

> > > know

> > > > > > about them

> > > > > > > first hand too, my peanut girl has both!

> > > > > > >

> > > > > > >

> > > > > > >

> > > > > > > > Are 50 parents (one classroom) responsible for the

> > safety

> > > of

> > > > > > someone

> > > > > > > > else's child?

> > > > > > > >

> > > > > > > > Are 500 parents (entire school) responsible for the

> > safety

> > > > of

> > > > > > someone

> > > > > > > > else's child?

> > > > > > >

> > > > > > > > As the parent of a child with not only celiac but

also

> a

> > > > > > complicated

> > > > > > > > list of allergies and intolerances, I do not expect

> > other

> > > > > parents

> > > > > > to

> > > > > > > > be responsible for my child's safety. To date, he

has

> > not

> > > > > any

> > > > > > > > analphylactic reactions, but I have already been

warned

> > by

> > > > the

> > > > > > > > allergist he is at risk for them, and he does have

> major

> > > > asthma

> > > > > > > > attacks from certain allergens. Dogs are a major

> trigger

> > > for

> > > > > his

> > > > > > > > asthma *and people can die from asthma in a very few

> > > > minutes*

> > > > > *,

> > > > > > can I

> > > > > > > > ban dogs in all public places because of one

person's

> > > needs?

> > > > > He

> > > > > > also

> > > > > > > > reacts to " secondhand dog " on other people's

clothes,

> > can

> > > I

> > > > > insist

> > > > > > > > every child in class live in a dog-free home? No,

> > neither

> > > of

> > > > > > those is

> > > > > > > > reasonable.

> > > > > > >

> > > > > >

> > > > >

> > > >

> > >

> >

>

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See and that's what is frustrating me about it too. I've repeatedly

asked the teacher to notify parents and she has repeatedly put the

Arggh!

> > > > > > >

> > > > > > > As a parent of a child with airborne peanut reactions

and

> > > > > > anaphylactic

> > > > > > > reactions with any contact to peanuts.... no I don't

> > expect

> > > > the

> > > > > > entire

> > > > > > > classroom or the school to be " responsible " for my

> > daughters

> > > > > > allergy but I

> > > > > > > do expect them to take reasonable steps to protect my

> > child

> > > > from

> > > > > > dying,

> > > > > > > which is what the reaction could easily be with her

level

> > of

> > > > > > allergy. This

> > > > > > > was especially true when she was in elementary

school.

> As

> > a

> > > > > young

> > > > > > child she

> > > > > > > didn't have the skills enough to recognize situations

> > where

> > > > she

> > > > > was

> > > > > > at risk

> > > > > > > so at that age, yes I expected the school to take

steps

> to

> > > > keep

> > > > > her

> > > > > > safe.

> > > > > > >

> > > > > > > I'm very happy to report back then the principal of

her

> > > school

> > > > > > agreed with

> > > > > > > me and asked the parents in her classroom to

voluntarily

> > > not

> > > > > send

> > > > > > their

> > > > > > > kids with peanut products. Every single parent

complied

> > > with

> > > > > this

> > > > > > request,

> > > > > > > every single year. The parents had my phone number

and

> > > would

> > > > > call

> > > > > > me about

> > > > > > > products they had at home. It worked out wonderfully

for

> > > us.

> > > > > Were

> > > > > > mistakes

> > > > > > > made (like with power/snack bars)? Maybe so but I'm

not

> > > aware

> > > > > of

> > > > > > any, every

> > > > > > > single parent was so nice about it, my daughter became

> > > > > everyone's

> > > > > > child and

> > > > > > > on field trips and such..... all the parents were

> > constantly

> > > > > > monitoring food

> > > > > > > and snacks around her (I did go on every field trip).

> > > > > > >

> > > > > > > They decided not to ban peanuts in the entire school

but

> > > gave

> > > > my

> > > > > > daughter a

> > > > > > > separate lounge to eat her lunch in (she could pick 5

> > > friends

> > > > a

> > > > > day

> > > > > > to eat

> > > > > > > there with her). Again the precautions that everyone

> took

> > > for

> > > > > us

> > > > > > really

> > > > > > > worked... she was in that school for 5 years (to 4th

> > > > and

> > > > > > only had 2

> > > > > > > reactions. Then she went to another school where they

> > > didn't

> > > > > take

> > > > > > the issue

> > > > > > > as seriously and she would have to come home or go to

the

> > > > > hospital

> > > > > > 3 times a

> > > > > > > week, her grades suffered, her confidence suffered and

> she

> > > got

> > > > > > behind.

> > > > > > >

> > > > > > > Now she is in 8th grade and she has only had a few

> > reactions

> > > > > this

> > > > > > year, the

> > > > > > > only precaution she has is a peanut free lunch table

but,

> > > the

> > > > > > difference is

> > > > > > > that she can now read labels, she is old enough and

> mature

> > > > > enough

> > > > > > to take

> > > > > > > care of her allergy. The other saving grace is that

in

> > > Middle

> > > > > > school very

> > > > > > > few kids eat PB & J its just not " cool " .

> > > > > > >

> > > > > > > So you know what... it really does take a village to

keep

> > > our

> > > > > kids

> > > > > > happy and

> > > > > > > healthy and I guess I've convinced myself that I do

> expect

> > > > help

> > > > > and

> > > > > > > understanding from others... I'd certainly do it for

> their

> > > > kids

> > > > > (in

> > > > > > my

> > > > > > > daughters school there is a child with latex allergy

so

> > > severe

> > > > > that

> > > > > > the

> > > > > > > entire school does not have ANY latex in it and I'm

happy

> > to

> > > > > abide

> > > > > > by that

> > > > > > > rule).

> > > > > > >

> > > > > > > You mentioned that your child has asthma and celiac,

> those

> > > are

> > > > > very

> > > > > > > different then an anaphylactic airborne peanut

allergy, I

> > > know

> > > > > > about them

> > > > > > > first hand too, my peanut girl has both!

> > > > > > >

> > > > > > >

> > > > > > >

> > > > > > > > Are 50 parents (one classroom) responsible for the

> > safety

> > > of

> > > > > > someone

> > > > > > > > else's child?

> > > > > > > >

> > > > > > > > Are 500 parents (entire school) responsible for the

> > safety

> > > > of

> > > > > > someone

> > > > > > > > else's child?

> > > > > > >

> > > > > > > > As the parent of a child with not only celiac but

also

> a

> > > > > > complicated

> > > > > > > > list of allergies and intolerances, I do not expect

> > other

> > > > > parents

> > > > > > to

> > > > > > > > be responsible for my child's safety. To date, he

has

> > not

> > > > > any

> > > > > > > > analphylactic reactions, but I have already been

warned

> > by

> > > > the

> > > > > > > > allergist he is at risk for them, and he does have

> major

> > > > asthma

> > > > > > > > attacks from certain allergens. Dogs are a major

> trigger

> > > for

> > > > > his

> > > > > > > > asthma *and people can die from asthma in a very few

> > > > minutes*

> > > > > *,

> > > > > > can I

> > > > > > > > ban dogs in all public places because of one

person's

> > > needs?

> > > > > He

> > > > > > also

> > > > > > > > reacts to " secondhand dog " on other people's

clothes,

> > can

> > > I

> > > > > insist

> > > > > > > > every child in class live in a dog-free home? No,

> > neither

> > > of

> > > > > > those is

> > > > > > > > reasonable.

> > > > > > >

> > > > > >

> > > > >

> > > >

> > >

> >

>

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Man, that is frustrating! Have you thought of getting a class list

with all the kid's birthday's listed? Then you could have a general

idea when a treat would be coming and you could contact that parent

at the beginning of the week. I know that puts all the

responsibility on you, but it seems like this group of parents won't

oblige for whatever reason. This is just my suggestion since I also

keep a list of the kid's birthdays on my peg board. If I don't get

an email from the teacher about a birthday then I make the first move.

> > > > > > > >

> > > > > > > > As a parent of a child with airborne peanut reactions

> and

> > > > > > > anaphylactic

> > > > > > > > reactions with any contact to peanuts.... no I don't

> > > expect

> > > > > the

> > > > > > > entire

> > > > > > > > classroom or the school to be " responsible " for my

> > > daughters

> > > > > > > allergy but I

> > > > > > > > do expect them to take reasonable steps to protect my

> > > child

> > > > > from

> > > > > > > dying,

> > > > > > > > which is what the reaction could easily be with her

> level

> > > of

> > > > > > > allergy. This

> > > > > > > > was especially true when she was in elementary

> school.

> > As

> > > a

> > > > > > young

> > > > > > > child she

> > > > > > > > didn't have the skills enough to recognize situations

> > > where

> > > > > she

> > > > > > was

> > > > > > > at risk

> > > > > > > > so at that age, yes I expected the school to take

> steps

> > to

> > > > > keep

> > > > > > her

> > > > > > > safe.

> > > > > > > >

> > > > > > > > I'm very happy to report back then the principal of

> her

> > > > school

> > > > > > > agreed with

> > > > > > > > me and asked the parents in her classroom to

> voluntarily

> > > > not

> > > > > > send

> > > > > > > their

> > > > > > > > kids with peanut products. Every single parent

> complied

> > > > with

> > > > > > this

> > > > > > > request,

> > > > > > > > every single year. The parents had my phone number

> and

> > > > would

> > > > > > call

> > > > > > > me about

> > > > > > > > products they had at home. It worked out wonderfully

> for

> > > > us.

> > > > > > Were

> > > > > > > mistakes

> > > > > > > > made (like with power/snack bars)? Maybe so but I'm

> not

> > > > aware

> > > > > > of

> > > > > > > any, every

> > > > > > > > single parent was so nice about it, my daughter

became

> > > > > > everyone's

> > > > > > > child and

> > > > > > > > on field trips and such..... all the parents were

> > > constantly

> > > > > > > monitoring food

> > > > > > > > and snacks around her (I did go on every field trip).

> > > > > > > >

> > > > > > > > They decided not to ban peanuts in the entire school

> but

> > > > gave

> > > > > my

> > > > > > > daughter a

> > > > > > > > separate lounge to eat her lunch in (she could pick 5

> > > > friends

> > > > > a

> > > > > > day

> > > > > > > to eat

> > > > > > > > there with her). Again the precautions that everyone

> > took

> > > > for

> > > > > > us

> > > > > > > really

> > > > > > > > worked... she was in that school for 5 years (to 4th

> > > > > and

> > > > > > > only had 2

> > > > > > > > reactions. Then she went to another school where

they

> > > > didn't

> > > > > > take

> > > > > > > the issue

> > > > > > > > as seriously and she would have to come home or go to

> the

> > > > > > hospital

> > > > > > > 3 times a

> > > > > > > > week, her grades suffered, her confidence suffered

and

> > she

> > > > got

> > > > > > > behind.

> > > > > > > >

> > > > > > > > Now she is in 8th grade and she has only had a few

> > > reactions

> > > > > > this

> > > > > > > year, the

> > > > > > > > only precaution she has is a peanut free lunch table

> but,

> > > > the

> > > > > > > difference is

> > > > > > > > that she can now read labels, she is old enough and

> > mature

> > > > > > enough

> > > > > > > to take

> > > > > > > > care of her allergy. The other saving grace is that

> in

> > > > Middle

> > > > > > > school very

> > > > > > > > few kids eat PB & J its just not " cool " .

> > > > > > > >

> > > > > > > > So you know what... it really does take a village to

> keep

> > > > our

> > > > > > kids

> > > > > > > happy and

> > > > > > > > healthy and I guess I've convinced myself that I do

> > expect

> > > > > help

> > > > > > and

> > > > > > > > understanding from others... I'd certainly do it for

> > their

> > > > > kids

> > > > > > (in

> > > > > > > my

> > > > > > > > daughters school there is a child with latex allergy

> so

> > > > severe

> > > > > > that

> > > > > > > the

> > > > > > > > entire school does not have ANY latex in it and I'm

> happy

> > > to

> > > > > > abide

> > > > > > > by that

> > > > > > > > rule).

> > > > > > > >

> > > > > > > > You mentioned that your child has asthma and celiac,

> > those

> > > > are

> > > > > > very

> > > > > > > > different then an anaphylactic airborne peanut

> allergy, I

> > > > know

> > > > > > > about them

> > > > > > > > first hand too, my peanut girl has both!

> > > > > > > >

> > > > > > > >

> > > > > > > >

> > > > > > > > > Are 50 parents (one classroom) responsible for the

> > > safety

> > > > of

> > > > > > > someone

> > > > > > > > > else's child?

> > > > > > > > >

> > > > > > > > > Are 500 parents (entire school) responsible for the

> > > safety

> > > > > of

> > > > > > > someone

> > > > > > > > > else's child?

> > > > > > > >

> > > > > > > > > As the parent of a child with not only celiac but

> also

> > a

> > > > > > > complicated

> > > > > > > > > list of allergies and intolerances, I do not expect

> > > other

> > > > > > parents

> > > > > > > to

> > > > > > > > > be responsible for my child's safety. To date, he

> has

> > > not

> > > > > had

> > > > > > any

> > > > > > > > > analphylactic reactions, but I have already been

> warned

> > > by

> > > > > the

> > > > > > > > > allergist he is at risk for them, and he does have

> > major

> > > > > asthma

> > > > > > > > > attacks from certain allergens. Dogs are a major

> > trigger

> > > > for

> > > > > > his

> > > > > > > > > asthma *and people can die from asthma in a very

few

> > > > > minutes*

> > > > > > *,

> > > > > > > can I

> > > > > > > > > ban dogs in all public places because of one

> person's

> > > > needs?

> > > > > > He

> > > > > > > also

> > > > > > > > > reacts to " secondhand dog " on other people's

> clothes,

> > > can

> > > > I

> > > > > > insist

> > > > > > > > > every child in class live in a dog-free home? No,

> > > neither

> > > > of

> > > > > > > those is

> > > > > > > > > reasonable.

> > > > > > > >

> > > > > > >

> > > > > >

> > > > >

> > > >

> > >

> >

>

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Man, that is frustrating! Have you thought of getting a class list

with all the kid's birthday's listed? Then you could have a general

idea when a treat would be coming and you could contact that parent

at the beginning of the week. I know that puts all the

responsibility on you, but it seems like this group of parents won't

oblige for whatever reason. This is just my suggestion since I also

keep a list of the kid's birthdays on my peg board. If I don't get

an email from the teacher about a birthday then I make the first move.

> > > > > > > >

> > > > > > > > As a parent of a child with airborne peanut reactions

> and

> > > > > > > anaphylactic

> > > > > > > > reactions with any contact to peanuts.... no I don't

> > > expect

> > > > > the

> > > > > > > entire

> > > > > > > > classroom or the school to be " responsible " for my

> > > daughters

> > > > > > > allergy but I

> > > > > > > > do expect them to take reasonable steps to protect my

> > > child

> > > > > from

> > > > > > > dying,

> > > > > > > > which is what the reaction could easily be with her

> level

> > > of

> > > > > > > allergy. This

> > > > > > > > was especially true when she was in elementary

> school.

> > As

> > > a

> > > > > > young

> > > > > > > child she

> > > > > > > > didn't have the skills enough to recognize situations

> > > where

> > > > > she

> > > > > > was

> > > > > > > at risk

> > > > > > > > so at that age, yes I expected the school to take

> steps

> > to

> > > > > keep

> > > > > > her

> > > > > > > safe.

> > > > > > > >

> > > > > > > > I'm very happy to report back then the principal of

> her

> > > > school

> > > > > > > agreed with

> > > > > > > > me and asked the parents in her classroom to

> voluntarily

> > > > not

> > > > > > send

> > > > > > > their

> > > > > > > > kids with peanut products. Every single parent

> complied

> > > > with

> > > > > > this

> > > > > > > request,

> > > > > > > > every single year. The parents had my phone number

> and

> > > > would

> > > > > > call

> > > > > > > me about

> > > > > > > > products they had at home. It worked out wonderfully

> for

> > > > us.

> > > > > > Were

> > > > > > > mistakes

> > > > > > > > made (like with power/snack bars)? Maybe so but I'm

> not

> > > > aware

> > > > > > of

> > > > > > > any, every

> > > > > > > > single parent was so nice about it, my daughter

became

> > > > > > everyone's

> > > > > > > child and

> > > > > > > > on field trips and such..... all the parents were

> > > constantly

> > > > > > > monitoring food

> > > > > > > > and snacks around her (I did go on every field trip).

> > > > > > > >

> > > > > > > > They decided not to ban peanuts in the entire school

> but

> > > > gave

> > > > > my

> > > > > > > daughter a

> > > > > > > > separate lounge to eat her lunch in (she could pick 5

> > > > friends

> > > > > a

> > > > > > day

> > > > > > > to eat

> > > > > > > > there with her). Again the precautions that everyone

> > took

> > > > for

> > > > > > us

> > > > > > > really

> > > > > > > > worked... she was in that school for 5 years (to 4th

> > > > > and

> > > > > > > only had 2

> > > > > > > > reactions. Then she went to another school where

they

> > > > didn't

> > > > > > take

> > > > > > > the issue

> > > > > > > > as seriously and she would have to come home or go to

> the

> > > > > > hospital

> > > > > > > 3 times a

> > > > > > > > week, her grades suffered, her confidence suffered

and

> > she

> > > > got

> > > > > > > behind.

> > > > > > > >

> > > > > > > > Now she is in 8th grade and she has only had a few

> > > reactions

> > > > > > this

> > > > > > > year, the

> > > > > > > > only precaution she has is a peanut free lunch table

> but,

> > > > the

> > > > > > > difference is

> > > > > > > > that she can now read labels, she is old enough and

> > mature

> > > > > > enough

> > > > > > > to take

> > > > > > > > care of her allergy. The other saving grace is that

> in

> > > > Middle

> > > > > > > school very

> > > > > > > > few kids eat PB & J its just not " cool " .

> > > > > > > >

> > > > > > > > So you know what... it really does take a village to

> keep

> > > > our

> > > > > > kids

> > > > > > > happy and

> > > > > > > > healthy and I guess I've convinced myself that I do

> > expect

> > > > > help

> > > > > > and

> > > > > > > > understanding from others... I'd certainly do it for

> > their

> > > > > kids

> > > > > > (in

> > > > > > > my

> > > > > > > > daughters school there is a child with latex allergy

> so

> > > > severe

> > > > > > that

> > > > > > > the

> > > > > > > > entire school does not have ANY latex in it and I'm

> happy

> > > to

> > > > > > abide

> > > > > > > by that

> > > > > > > > rule).

> > > > > > > >

> > > > > > > > You mentioned that your child has asthma and celiac,

> > those

> > > > are

> > > > > > very

> > > > > > > > different then an anaphylactic airborne peanut

> allergy, I

> > > > know

> > > > > > > about them

> > > > > > > > first hand too, my peanut girl has both!

> > > > > > > >

> > > > > > > >

> > > > > > > >

> > > > > > > > > Are 50 parents (one classroom) responsible for the

> > > safety

> > > > of

> > > > > > > someone

> > > > > > > > > else's child?

> > > > > > > > >

> > > > > > > > > Are 500 parents (entire school) responsible for the

> > > safety

> > > > > of

> > > > > > > someone

> > > > > > > > > else's child?

> > > > > > > >

> > > > > > > > > As the parent of a child with not only celiac but

> also

> > a

> > > > > > > complicated

> > > > > > > > > list of allergies and intolerances, I do not expect

> > > other

> > > > > > parents

> > > > > > > to

> > > > > > > > > be responsible for my child's safety. To date, he

> has

> > > not

> > > > > had

> > > > > > any

> > > > > > > > > analphylactic reactions, but I have already been

> warned

> > > by

> > > > > the

> > > > > > > > > allergist he is at risk for them, and he does have

> > major

> > > > > asthma

> > > > > > > > > attacks from certain allergens. Dogs are a major

> > trigger

> > > > for

> > > > > > his

> > > > > > > > > asthma *and people can die from asthma in a very

few

> > > > > minutes*

> > > > > > *,

> > > > > > > can I

> > > > > > > > > ban dogs in all public places because of one

> person's

> > > > needs?

> > > > > > He

> > > > > > > also

> > > > > > > > > reacts to " secondhand dog " on other people's

> clothes,

> > > can

> > > > I

> > > > > > insist

> > > > > > > > > every child in class live in a dog-free home? No,

> > > neither

> > > > of

> > > > > > > those is

> > > > > > > > > reasonable.

> > > > > > > >

> > > > > > >

> > > > > >

> > > > >

> > > >

> > >

> >

>

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Man, that is frustrating! Have you thought of getting a class list

with all the kid's birthday's listed? Then you could have a general

idea when a treat would be coming and you could contact that parent

at the beginning of the week. I know that puts all the

responsibility on you, but it seems like this group of parents won't

oblige for whatever reason. This is just my suggestion since I also

keep a list of the kid's birthdays on my peg board. If I don't get

an email from the teacher about a birthday then I make the first move.

> > > > > > > >

> > > > > > > > As a parent of a child with airborne peanut reactions

> and

> > > > > > > anaphylactic

> > > > > > > > reactions with any contact to peanuts.... no I don't

> > > expect

> > > > > the

> > > > > > > entire

> > > > > > > > classroom or the school to be " responsible " for my

> > > daughters

> > > > > > > allergy but I

> > > > > > > > do expect them to take reasonable steps to protect my

> > > child

> > > > > from

> > > > > > > dying,

> > > > > > > > which is what the reaction could easily be with her

> level

> > > of

> > > > > > > allergy. This

> > > > > > > > was especially true when she was in elementary

> school.

> > As

> > > a

> > > > > > young

> > > > > > > child she

> > > > > > > > didn't have the skills enough to recognize situations

> > > where

> > > > > she

> > > > > > was

> > > > > > > at risk

> > > > > > > > so at that age, yes I expected the school to take

> steps

> > to

> > > > > keep

> > > > > > her

> > > > > > > safe.

> > > > > > > >

> > > > > > > > I'm very happy to report back then the principal of

> her

> > > > school

> > > > > > > agreed with

> > > > > > > > me and asked the parents in her classroom to

> voluntarily

> > > > not

> > > > > > send

> > > > > > > their

> > > > > > > > kids with peanut products. Every single parent

> complied

> > > > with

> > > > > > this

> > > > > > > request,

> > > > > > > > every single year. The parents had my phone number

> and

> > > > would

> > > > > > call

> > > > > > > me about

> > > > > > > > products they had at home. It worked out wonderfully

> for

> > > > us.

> > > > > > Were

> > > > > > > mistakes

> > > > > > > > made (like with power/snack bars)? Maybe so but I'm

> not

> > > > aware

> > > > > > of

> > > > > > > any, every

> > > > > > > > single parent was so nice about it, my daughter

became

> > > > > > everyone's

> > > > > > > child and

> > > > > > > > on field trips and such..... all the parents were

> > > constantly

> > > > > > > monitoring food

> > > > > > > > and snacks around her (I did go on every field trip).

> > > > > > > >

> > > > > > > > They decided not to ban peanuts in the entire school

> but

> > > > gave

> > > > > my

> > > > > > > daughter a

> > > > > > > > separate lounge to eat her lunch in (she could pick 5

> > > > friends

> > > > > a

> > > > > > day

> > > > > > > to eat

> > > > > > > > there with her). Again the precautions that everyone

> > took

> > > > for

> > > > > > us

> > > > > > > really

> > > > > > > > worked... she was in that school for 5 years (to 4th

> > > > > and

> > > > > > > only had 2

> > > > > > > > reactions. Then she went to another school where

they

> > > > didn't

> > > > > > take

> > > > > > > the issue

> > > > > > > > as seriously and she would have to come home or go to

> the

> > > > > > hospital

> > > > > > > 3 times a

> > > > > > > > week, her grades suffered, her confidence suffered

and

> > she

> > > > got

> > > > > > > behind.

> > > > > > > >

> > > > > > > > Now she is in 8th grade and she has only had a few

> > > reactions

> > > > > > this

> > > > > > > year, the

> > > > > > > > only precaution she has is a peanut free lunch table

> but,

> > > > the

> > > > > > > difference is

> > > > > > > > that she can now read labels, she is old enough and

> > mature

> > > > > > enough

> > > > > > > to take

> > > > > > > > care of her allergy. The other saving grace is that

> in

> > > > Middle

> > > > > > > school very

> > > > > > > > few kids eat PB & J its just not " cool " .

> > > > > > > >

> > > > > > > > So you know what... it really does take a village to

> keep

> > > > our

> > > > > > kids

> > > > > > > happy and

> > > > > > > > healthy and I guess I've convinced myself that I do

> > expect

> > > > > help

> > > > > > and

> > > > > > > > understanding from others... I'd certainly do it for

> > their

> > > > > kids

> > > > > > (in

> > > > > > > my

> > > > > > > > daughters school there is a child with latex allergy

> so

> > > > severe

> > > > > > that

> > > > > > > the

> > > > > > > > entire school does not have ANY latex in it and I'm

> happy

> > > to

> > > > > > abide

> > > > > > > by that

> > > > > > > > rule).

> > > > > > > >

> > > > > > > > You mentioned that your child has asthma and celiac,

> > those

> > > > are

> > > > > > very

> > > > > > > > different then an anaphylactic airborne peanut

> allergy, I

> > > > know

> > > > > > > about them

> > > > > > > > first hand too, my peanut girl has both!

> > > > > > > >

> > > > > > > >

> > > > > > > >

> > > > > > > > > Are 50 parents (one classroom) responsible for the

> > > safety

> > > > of

> > > > > > > someone

> > > > > > > > > else's child?

> > > > > > > > >

> > > > > > > > > Are 500 parents (entire school) responsible for the

> > > safety

> > > > > of

> > > > > > > someone

> > > > > > > > > else's child?

> > > > > > > >

> > > > > > > > > As the parent of a child with not only celiac but

> also

> > a

> > > > > > > complicated

> > > > > > > > > list of allergies and intolerances, I do not expect

> > > other

> > > > > > parents

> > > > > > > to

> > > > > > > > > be responsible for my child's safety. To date, he

> has

> > > not

> > > > > had

> > > > > > any

> > > > > > > > > analphylactic reactions, but I have already been

> warned

> > > by

> > > > > the

> > > > > > > > > allergist he is at risk for them, and he does have

> > major

> > > > > asthma

> > > > > > > > > attacks from certain allergens. Dogs are a major

> > trigger

> > > > for

> > > > > > his

> > > > > > > > > asthma *and people can die from asthma in a very

few

> > > > > minutes*

> > > > > > *,

> > > > > > > can I

> > > > > > > > > ban dogs in all public places because of one

> person's

> > > > needs?

> > > > > > He

> > > > > > > also

> > > > > > > > > reacts to " secondhand dog " on other people's

> clothes,

> > > can

> > > > I

> > > > > > insist

> > > > > > > > > every child in class live in a dog-free home? No,

> > > neither

> > > > of

> > > > > > > those is

> > > > > > > > > reasonable.

> > > > > > > >

> > > > > > >

> > > > > >

> > > > >

> > > >

> > >

> >

>

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