RE: Sharon and the value of our posts

[Guest guest]

Hi Sharon,

Did I say something to upset you...if you are upset? I'm new here, so

maybe I said something I shouldn't have.

But since my friend is leaving WW and my husband and all my kids are

skinny, I don't have anyone to share my victories or my struggles with.

That's why I'm here.

I do think you have a point about the discussions about our

struggles...those discussions are valuable too. I haven't been here long

enough to see if there are those kind of discussions.

A healthy list (and healthy list moderators) probably strive for a good

balance of victory-sharing and struggle-sharing.

My story about the buffet last night was probably a waste of time for

some people to read. For others, they know just what I'm talking about

and can relate. For others, they can say, " Good job! " and give me an

email high-five. For others, they might say, " Hey, if that girl who just

ate five breadsticks the other night can stay on program at a buffet,

maybe I can too! "

My point is that every post may not be your cup of tea...but they have

value whether or not *you* or *I* think they do.

My bet is that there are a lot of lurkers on this list...who knows,

maybe one of those waste of time posts will have something of value to

them and help them keep going when they feel like quitting.

Anyhoo, I'm sorry if I said something wrong. I think the little

victories need to be shared though.

in CO

Re: My friend is quitting WW

I find everytime someone gets on here raving about their running

statistics or 5K's or how many pounds they have lost, etc. very

competitive. We are not all runners, wo do not all lose at the same

rate, etc. and I get tired of opening posts that says 'I lost a pound',

open another post that says 'That's great', yada, yada, yada.

This is all wasted time to me and I am very seriously thinking about

dropping the group as there doesn't seem to be anyone talking about the

problems a person with a weight problem has or how to overcome it, etc.

Don't mean this negative; just stating some posts I get real tired of.

If we lose, that is great, but can't we share it with our family or

close friends.

Sharon

My friend is quitting WW

Hello everyone!

I started Weight Watchers with a friend of mine. She is probably going

to quit - and I guess I knew from the beginning that she probably

would.

I thought it was a great idea to join with her. We could go to

meetings

together, we could support eachother...etc..etc...I guess I had this

notion of the way we would do this together...but the reality wasn't

so

great.

She had a breast reduction a couple months ago (cancer related) and

had

8 pounds of breast tissue removed. Of course, when she weighed in, she

made a big deal out of losing 9 lbs that week. She would make a point

to

tell me every week how much more she had lost than I did and how she

was

" beating " me....I never said anything to her about it, but every time

she'd celebrate a success after that, I'd be thinking, " Well, yeah,

you

lost 15 lbs so far, but 8 of it was your boobs. "

(now you know what kind of thoughts run through my head...hope that

isn't totally shocking)

Anyway...every week felt like a competition and it never felt

supportive

in any way.

So anyway...we'd both been on a plateau for about 4 weeks and about

two

weeks ago, I decided, " that's it! I'm going for this. I'm getting

serious! " and I'm losing again. (and SO glad I found this list!) She

is

still on a plateau (even gained a bit) and she gets really negative if

I

lose and she doesn't.

I really think she's going to quit (everything is pointing to it) and

I

have mixed emotions about it. On the one hand, I'll almost be

relieved.

To have that competitive feeling be gone each time I weigh in...having

her ask me how much I lost....but then on the other hand, can I do

this

alone?

I'm worried that I can't. Or won't. But ultimately I think I have to.

Even with meetings and a supportive email group like you gals (and

guys

if there are any out there!) ultimately, don't we all have to make

these

daily eating and exercising decisions alone?

in CO