Re: My friend is quitting WW

[Guest guest]

Hi ,

First of all, you are NOT alone in this journey!!!! There are thousands of

people all over the world doing the exact same thing, this is the WW family.

Technically, yes, we are all alone since no one is sitting with us 24/7/365 and

monitoring what we eat, drink, and our exercise.

I understand wanting a buddy to go to meetings, etc but I am not sure that this

was a good relationship from the beginning. A WW friend should not make it a

competition! Everyone loses at their own pace and that is the way it is

supposed to be. They should be there to support no matter what the scale says!!

You and you alone can and will decide that you are going to make the lifestyle

changes necessary to lose the weight and get healthy. We are here to support,

encourage, and offer any advice we can, but we can not do it for you. Have

faith in the program and know that when we work it, it really does work and we

can make goal!

YOU CAN DO IT!!

Maureen

My friend is quitting WW

Hello everyone!

I started Weight Watchers with a friend of mine. She is probably going

to quit - and I guess I knew from the beginning that she probably would.

I thought it was a great idea to join with her. We could go to meetings

together, we could support eachother...etc..etc...I guess I had this

notion of the way we would do this together...but the reality wasn't so

great.

She had a breast reduction a couple months ago (cancer related) and had

8 pounds of breast tissue removed. Of course, when she weighed in, she

made a big deal out of losing 9 lbs that week. She would make a point to

tell me every week how much more she had lost than I did and how she was

" beating " me....I never said anything to her about it, but every time

she'd celebrate a success after that, I'd be thinking, " Well, yeah, you

lost 15 lbs so far, but 8 of it was your boobs. "

(now you know what kind of thoughts run through my head...hope that

isn't totally shocking)

Anyway...every week felt like a competition and it never felt supportive

in any way.

So anyway...we'd both been on a plateau for about 4 weeks and about two

weeks ago, I decided, " that's it! I'm going for this. I'm getting

serious! " and I'm losing again. (and SO glad I found this list!) She is

still on a plateau (even gained a bit) and she gets really negative if I

lose and she doesn't.

I really think she's going to quit (everything is pointing to it) and I

have mixed emotions about it. On the one hand, I'll almost be relieved.

To have that competitive feeling be gone each time I weigh in...having

her ask me how much I lost....but then on the other hand, can I do this

alone?

I'm worried that I can't. Or won't. But ultimately I think I have to.

Even with meetings and a supportive email group like you gals (and guys

if there are any out there!) ultimately, don't we all have to make these

daily eating and exercising decisions alone?

in CO

[Guest guest]

" This is all wasted time " ??

Wow. ly I'm stunned that on a Weight Watchers support group someone

would be bothered by people sharing their 1-lb. losses....or our gains or our

maintains or our 50-lb losses or whatever we're experiencing as we work through

this weight-loss program. For some people, a 1-lb loss is a huge

accomplishment following weeks of struggling with a plateau. For some of us

that 1 pound

is the last portion of our journey to cross the goal line. For some of us 1

pound represents weeks of effort for whatever reason.

I for one am grateful to the list owner and moderators that here we are free

to share our 1-lb losses (or whatevers)... and that here we receive hugs and

cheers and words of love and encouragement along with the exhortation and

nudges to get back on program when we occasionally stray.

Yay SWW!!

Bette in CA

278/187/175 (and proud of every single 1-lb loss!)

[Guest guest]

I would like to suggest then that everyone stop posting everytime they lose a

pound or so.

Sharon

My friend is quitting WW

Hello everyone!

I started Weight Watchers with a friend of mine. She is probably going

to quit - and I guess I knew from the beginning that she probably would.

I thought it was a great idea to join with her. We could go to meetings

together, we could support eachother...etc..etc...I guess I had this

notion of the way we would do this together...but the reality wasn't so

great.

She had a breast reduction a couple months ago (cancer related) and had

8 pounds of breast tissue removed. Of course, when she weighed in, she

made a big deal out of losing 9 lbs that week. She would make a point to

tell me every week how much more she had lost than I did and how she was

" beating " me....I never said anything to her about it, but every time

she'd celebrate a success after that, I'd be thinking, " Well, yeah, you

lost 15 lbs so far, but 8 of it was your boobs. "

(now you know what kind of thoughts run through my head...hope that

isn't totally shocking)

Anyway...every week felt like a competition and it never felt supportive

in any way.

So anyway...we'd both been on a plateau for about 4 weeks and about two

weeks ago, I decided, " that's it! I'm going for this. I'm getting

serious! " and I'm losing again. (and SO glad I found this list!) She is

still on a plateau (even gained a bit) and she gets really negative if I

lose and she doesn't.

I really think she's going to quit (everything is pointing to it) and I

have mixed emotions about it. On the one hand, I'll almost be relieved.

To have that competitive feeling be gone each time I weigh in...having

her ask me how much I lost....but then on the other hand, can I do this

alone?

I'm worried that I can't. Or won't. But ultimately I think I have to.

Even with meetings and a supportive email group like you gals (and guys

if there are any out there!) ultimately, don't we all have to make these

daily eating and exercising decisions alone?

in CO

[Guest guest]

I find everytime someone gets on here raving about their running statistics or

5K's or how many pounds they have lost, etc. very competitive. We are not all

runners, wo do not all lose at the same rate, etc. and I get tired of opening

posts that says 'I lost a pound', open another post that says 'That's great',

yada, yada, yada.

This is all wasted time to me and I am very seriously thinking about dropping

the group as there doesn't seem to be anyone talking about the problems a person

with a weight problem has or how to overcome it, etc. Don't mean this negative;

just stating some posts I get real tired of. If we lose, that is great, but

can't we share it with our family or close friends.

Sharon

My friend is quitting WW

Hello everyone!

I started Weight Watchers with a friend of mine. She is probably going

to quit - and I guess I knew from the beginning that she probably would.

I thought it was a great idea to join with her. We could go to meetings

together, we could support eachother...etc..etc...I guess I had this

notion of the way we would do this together...but the reality wasn't so

great.

She had a breast reduction a couple months ago (cancer related) and had

8 pounds of breast tissue removed. Of course, when she weighed in, she

made a big deal out of losing 9 lbs that week. She would make a point to

tell me every week how much more she had lost than I did and how she was

" beating " me....I never said anything to her about it, but every time

she'd celebrate a success after that, I'd be thinking, " Well, yeah, you

lost 15 lbs so far, but 8 of it was your boobs. "

(now you know what kind of thoughts run through my head...hope that

isn't totally shocking)

Anyway...every week felt like a competition and it never felt supportive

in any way.

So anyway...we'd both been on a plateau for about 4 weeks and about two

weeks ago, I decided, " that's it! I'm going for this. I'm getting

serious! " and I'm losing again. (and SO glad I found this list!) She is

still on a plateau (even gained a bit) and she gets really negative if I

lose and she doesn't.

I really think she's going to quit (everything is pointing to it) and I

have mixed emotions about it. On the one hand, I'll almost be relieved.

To have that competitive feeling be gone each time I weigh in...having

her ask me how much I lost....but then on the other hand, can I do this

alone?

I'm worried that I can't. Or won't. But ultimately I think I have to.

Even with meetings and a supportive email group like you gals (and guys

if there are any out there!) ultimately, don't we all have to make these

daily eating and exercising decisions alone?

in CO

[Guest guest]

The last time I checked, this group was for support and friendship.

Whether you lost one pound, 100 pounds, ran the Boston Marathon or

can't walk 2 feet without having to stop and catch your breath (and I

don't mean that as a put down to anyone who might have that issue).

Some people don't have the support of family and friends. I'm on

several lists, so I don't know which one it was on. But someone had

posted that they had gone to a family reunion and lost like 20 pounds

(they still had a lot to go). When they shared their loss, they were

treated like they were " rubbing it in " and didn't receive any

support, encouragement or kudos. There was another time that someone

had posted that everytime they would lose and share, they were

offered food (cakes, pies), instead of being encouraged in their

loss. So they stopped sharing with their family.

There are 1190 people listed as members on this list. As a very rough

guesstimate, I would say maybe 20-30 of us post pretty regularly.

With a lurker or two coming out every so often. All 30 of us are at

various stages of our loss/maintenace. Some of us didn't have health

problems, some of us did.

I didn't have health issues when I first started, even though I was

241 pounds. I know folks who weighed the same, a bit more or a bit

less who had a ton of health problems.

Perhaps the reason it's not discussed, is because they're not

experiencing it or perhaps are too embarrased to share. It also could

be that it has nothing to do with their weight.

If you're experiencing these issues, start posting about them. Then

we can support you or give you ideas. I know there have been times

(not necessarily here but on other lists) that folks have posted, but

no one responded, because no one had that issue.

For the most part, folks put in their subject line, if it's about a

weigh in or what have ya. Sometimes they get to talking about

something else and then at the end they might add their weigh in

results. More often than not, a subject line will take a totally

different turn and it never gets changed (i.e. someone posts about

their weigh in and bring up another subject) and then folks start

commenting on that other subject and it never gets changed to the new

subject or even if it does, folks sometimes still comment on the new

subject under the old thread name.

But I do know that all the posts aren't about how much we lost on a

weekly basis or the 5K we ran this week or our training. There have

been posts on NSVs, how certain foods can help other health areas,

questions on food choices, etc.

If you don't want to read about something, then delete it. I do it

all the time. If I see a subject that I don't particularly have

interest in, I delete it.

I've been on a lot of lists over the years and not one has all talk

all the time about health issues related to weight. 99% of it is

about losses, gains, total losses, NSVs, plans, things we want to try

out, etc. Very rarely did particular health issues related to weight

come up and when they did, perhaps only one or two people responded.

Most of the time, it was to say " not having that issue/never did,

can't help " . Once in a blue moon someone would respond saying they

experienced it or knew someone who did.

If there's something you'd like to see discussed, bring it up and see

what happens. If anyone can help, I'm sure they will.

This is all wasted time to me and I am very seriously thinking about

dropping the group as there doesn't seem to be anyone talking about

the problems a person with a weight problem has or how to overcome

it, etc. Don't mean this negative; just stating some posts I get

real tired of. If we lose, that is great, but can't we share it with

our family or close friends.

Sharon

[Guest guest]

Thanks Becca. I was hoping that I wasn't coming off as rude or

inconsiderate, just wanted to add my two cents. You had great points

as well.

> I think that was very well said Gymmie. I would like to add a few

thoughts.

[Guest guest]

I can understand being competitive about some things, but weight loss is way too

individual. I'm sorry your friend isn't doing too well w/ WW, but I'm glad

you're doing even better now. =)

175/157.8/130

My friend is quitting WW

> Hello everyone!

>

> I started Weight Watchers with a friend of mine. She is probably going

> to quit - and I guess I knew from the beginning that she probably

> would.

> I thought it was a great idea to join with her. We could go to

> meetingstogether, we could support eachother...etc..etc...I guess

> I had this

> notion of the way we would do this together...but the reality

> wasn't so

> great.

>

> She had a breast reduction a couple months ago (cancer related)

> and had

> 8 pounds of breast tissue removed. Of course, when she weighed in, she

> made a big deal out of losing 9 lbs that week. She would make a

> point to

> tell me every week how much more she had lost than I did and how

> she was

> " beating " me....I never said anything to her about it, but every time

> she'd celebrate a success after that, I'd be thinking, " Well,

> yeah, you

> lost 15 lbs so far, but 8 of it was your boobs. "

>

> (now you know what kind of thoughts run through my head...hope that

> isn't totally shocking)

>

> Anyway...every week felt like a competition and it never felt

> supportivein any way.

>

> So anyway...we'd both been on a plateau for about 4 weeks and

> about two

> weeks ago, I decided, " that's it! I'm going for this. I'm getting

> serious! " and I'm losing again. (and SO glad I found this list!)

> She is

> still on a plateau (even gained a bit) and she gets really

> negative if I

> lose and she doesn't.

>

> I really think she's going to quit (everything is pointing to it)

> and I

> have mixed emotions about it. On the one hand, I'll almost be

> relieved.To have that competitive feeling be gone each time I

> weigh in...having

> her ask me how much I lost....but then on the other hand, can I do

> thisalone?

>

> I'm worried that I can't. Or won't. But ultimately I think I have to.

> Even with meetings and a supportive email group like you gals (and

> guysif there are any out there!) ultimately, don't we all have to

> make these

> daily eating and exercising decisions alone?

>

> in CO

>

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

I can understand being competitive about some things, but weight loss is way too

individual. I'm sorry your friend isn't doing too well w/ WW, but I'm glad

you're doing even better now. =)

175/157.8/130

My friend is quitting WW

> Hello everyone!

>

> I started Weight Watchers with a friend of mine. She is probably going

> to quit - and I guess I knew from the beginning that she probably

> would.

> I thought it was a great idea to join with her. We could go to

> meetingstogether, we could support eachother...etc..etc...I guess

> I had this

> notion of the way we would do this together...but the reality

> wasn't so

> great.

>

> She had a breast reduction a couple months ago (cancer related)

> and had

> 8 pounds of breast tissue removed. Of course, when she weighed in, she

> made a big deal out of losing 9 lbs that week. She would make a

> point to

> tell me every week how much more she had lost than I did and how

> she was

> " beating " me....I never said anything to her about it, but every time

> she'd celebrate a success after that, I'd be thinking, " Well,

> yeah, you

> lost 15 lbs so far, but 8 of it was your boobs. "

>

> (now you know what kind of thoughts run through my head...hope that

> isn't totally shocking)

>

> Anyway...every week felt like a competition and it never felt

> supportivein any way.

>

> So anyway...we'd both been on a plateau for about 4 weeks and

> about two

> weeks ago, I decided, " that's it! I'm going for this. I'm getting

> serious! " and I'm losing again. (and SO glad I found this list!)

> She is

> still on a plateau (even gained a bit) and she gets really

> negative if I

> lose and she doesn't.

>

> I really think she's going to quit (everything is pointing to it)

> and I

> have mixed emotions about it. On the one hand, I'll almost be

> relieved.To have that competitive feeling be gone each time I

> weigh in...having

> her ask me how much I lost....but then on the other hand, can I do

> thisalone?

>

> I'm worried that I can't. Or won't. But ultimately I think I have to.

> Even with meetings and a supportive email group like you gals (and

> guysif there are any out there!) ultimately, don't we all have to

> make these

> daily eating and exercising decisions alone?

>

> in CO

>

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

I can understand being competitive about some things, but weight loss is way too

individual. I'm sorry your friend isn't doing too well w/ WW, but I'm glad

you're doing even better now. =)

175/157.8/130

My friend is quitting WW

> Hello everyone!

>

> I started Weight Watchers with a friend of mine. She is probably going

> to quit - and I guess I knew from the beginning that she probably

> would.

> I thought it was a great idea to join with her. We could go to

> meetingstogether, we could support eachother...etc..etc...I guess

> I had this

> notion of the way we would do this together...but the reality

> wasn't so

> great.

>

> She had a breast reduction a couple months ago (cancer related)

> and had

> 8 pounds of breast tissue removed. Of course, when she weighed in, she

> made a big deal out of losing 9 lbs that week. She would make a

> point to

> tell me every week how much more she had lost than I did and how

> she was

> " beating " me....I never said anything to her about it, but every time

> she'd celebrate a success after that, I'd be thinking, " Well,

> yeah, you

> lost 15 lbs so far, but 8 of it was your boobs. "

>

> (now you know what kind of thoughts run through my head...hope that

> isn't totally shocking)

>

> Anyway...every week felt like a competition and it never felt

> supportivein any way.

>

> So anyway...we'd both been on a plateau for about 4 weeks and

> about two

> weeks ago, I decided, " that's it! I'm going for this. I'm getting

> serious! " and I'm losing again. (and SO glad I found this list!)

> She is

> still on a plateau (even gained a bit) and she gets really

> negative if I

> lose and she doesn't.

>

> I really think she's going to quit (everything is pointing to it)

> and I

> have mixed emotions about it. On the one hand, I'll almost be

> relieved.To have that competitive feeling be gone each time I

> weigh in...having

> her ask me how much I lost....but then on the other hand, can I do

> thisalone?

>

> I'm worried that I can't. Or won't. But ultimately I think I have to.

> Even with meetings and a supportive email group like you gals (and

> guysif there are any out there!) ultimately, don't we all have to

> make these

> daily eating and exercising decisions alone?

>

> in CO

>

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

When you go to Weight Watchers meetings, you have a " celebration " time at the

beginning where anyone can say how much they've lost that week or if they had a

NSV. This is a really important part of the meeting and a lot of people get

excited about telling everyone what they've done and how they've done it.

If you don't like reading other member's celebrations, please just delete these

messages.

175/157.8/130

My friend is quitting WW

>

>

> Hello everyone!

>

> I started Weight Watchers with a friend of mine. She is probably

> going to quit - and I guess I knew from the beginning that she

> probably would.

>

> I thought it was a great idea to join with her. We could go to

> meetings together, we could support eachother...etc..etc...I

> guess I had this

> notion of the way we would do this together...but the reality

> wasn't so

> great.

>

> She had a breast reduction a couple months ago (cancer related)

> and had

> 8 pounds of breast tissue removed. Of course, when she weighed

> in, she

> made a big deal out of losing 9 lbs that week. She would make a

> point to

> tell me every week how much more she had lost than I did and how

> she was

> " beating " me....I never said anything to her about it, but every

> time she'd celebrate a success after that, I'd be thinking,

> " Well, yeah, you

> lost 15 lbs so far, but 8 of it was your boobs. "

>

> (now you know what kind of thoughts run through my head...hope that

> isn't totally shocking)

>

> Anyway...every week felt like a competition and it never felt

> supportive in any way.

>

> So anyway...we'd both been on a plateau for about 4 weeks and

> about two

> weeks ago, I decided, " that's it! I'm going for this. I'm getting

> serious! " and I'm losing again. (and SO glad I found this list!)

> She is

> still on a plateau (even gained a bit) and she gets really

> negative if I

> lose and she doesn't.

>

> I really think she's going to quit (everything is pointing to

> it) and I

> have mixed emotions about it. On the one hand, I'll almost be

> relieved. To have that competitive feeling be gone each time I

> weigh in...having

> her ask me how much I lost....but then on the other hand, can I

> do this

> alone?

>

> I'm worried that I can't. Or won't. But ultimately I think I

> have to.

> Even with meetings and a supportive email group like you gals

> (and guys

> if there are any out there!) ultimately, don't we all have to

> make these

> daily eating and exercising decisions alone?

>

> in CO

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

When you go to Weight Watchers meetings, you have a " celebration " time at the

beginning where anyone can say how much they've lost that week or if they had a

NSV. This is a really important part of the meeting and a lot of people get

excited about telling everyone what they've done and how they've done it.

If you don't like reading other member's celebrations, please just delete these

messages.

175/157.8/130

My friend is quitting WW

>

>

> Hello everyone!

>

> I started Weight Watchers with a friend of mine. She is probably

> going to quit - and I guess I knew from the beginning that she

> probably would.

>

> I thought it was a great idea to join with her. We could go to

> meetings together, we could support eachother...etc..etc...I

> guess I had this

> notion of the way we would do this together...but the reality

> wasn't so

> great.

>

> She had a breast reduction a couple months ago (cancer related)

> and had

> 8 pounds of breast tissue removed. Of course, when she weighed

> in, she

> made a big deal out of losing 9 lbs that week. She would make a

> point to

> tell me every week how much more she had lost than I did and how

> she was

> " beating " me....I never said anything to her about it, but every

> time she'd celebrate a success after that, I'd be thinking,

> " Well, yeah, you

> lost 15 lbs so far, but 8 of it was your boobs. "

>

> (now you know what kind of thoughts run through my head...hope that

> isn't totally shocking)

>

> Anyway...every week felt like a competition and it never felt

> supportive in any way.

>

> So anyway...we'd both been on a plateau for about 4 weeks and

> about two

> weeks ago, I decided, " that's it! I'm going for this. I'm getting

> serious! " and I'm losing again. (and SO glad I found this list!)

> She is

> still on a plateau (even gained a bit) and she gets really

> negative if I

> lose and she doesn't.

>

> I really think she's going to quit (everything is pointing to

> it) and I

> have mixed emotions about it. On the one hand, I'll almost be

> relieved. To have that competitive feeling be gone each time I

> weigh in...having

> her ask me how much I lost....but then on the other hand, can I

> do this

> alone?

>

> I'm worried that I can't. Or won't. But ultimately I think I

> have to.

> Even with meetings and a supportive email group like you gals

> (and guys

> if there are any out there!) ultimately, don't we all have to

> make these

> daily eating and exercising decisions alone?

>

> in CO

>

>

>

>