update

[Guest guest]

Hi all

Well you will probably recall my concerns with the principal and his *strange*

need to treat Adam " like every other kid " (ie. " we don't make allowances here,

ALL kids are to be the same " ). Today he even went so far as to say " the current

trend is to have total integration for ALL kids " --same time we had a study by

our government completed today that thinks $ 25 million (do I have that right

Gail P.?) MORE is needed in Special Education.........but I digress).

Well he managed to suspend Adam on Thursday. And let me tell you that just added

fuel to the fire with Adam's father as well!!

So what did Adam do? He was up in the far north field of the yard, which has

another school beside it. And, as Adam tells it, he had to go " pee " . He said he

knew he wouldn't make it back to the school in time, so he whipped out his

" apparatus " and peed against the other school wall. (later I found out his

father had gotten quite angry at him for, while peeing against a TREE, Adam had

splash back and wet his pants. Dad says " no boys EVER wet their pants or they

are BABIES, and he goes on and on " .)

Well I allowed the suspension hoping that the principal would be pleased he

finally " got " it. Alas, he tells me he wants a " re entry meeting " to find out

(with the social worker) why Adam did it (HELLO? he had to go!!!).

Anyway........I got mad, accused him of being 'out to get me', and then asked

why the child who kicked a teacher to the point she was off for a few days, then

pulled his pants down so the grade 2 class could " see my penis " and then told

the odd teacher to F-off; and he's either not suspended, or suspended for a day

WITH NO re entry meeting ( the kid is off on suspension today for 4

days.....AGAIN......apparently he got into the library and ripped a bunch of

books to shreds....he's in grade 3......no re entry meeting for him).

I was nuts. What worked in my favour was X husband called principal behind my

back and went so crazy (he needs and MUST scrub the wall to learn his lesson and

on and on,,,,,,then I mentioned to principal I am returning to court to stop X

husband harassment......and well......he's shaking now)

OK I hope you are still reading. Because this is the second news. Went to see

the plastic surgeon and speech therapist yesterday for Adam and the

hypernasality etc. etc. Here's what I found out:

1. He has a terrible cold (well I KNEW that =) but he was put on a computer that

measures the amount of air that comes out of his nose and mouth on each sound.

He scored in the normal range (yeh he has a cold.......but they worked hard to

convince me that was not an issue).

2. His speech is difficult to understand because he talks to fast. End of that.

Then speech therapist shows me a pretty wall hanging that says " wait your turn " ;

" speak slowly " ; " speak clearly " and all such niceties and says 'Adam should do

that' (like I haven't tried a million times!!)

3. OK on to see plastic surgeon (to make the day EVEN BETTER; me with my partial

foot paralysis from the sciatic problems....walking from one end of Sick Kids to

the other and back again--Adam couldn't believe it...I was trailing HIM,

normally I wail through that place so fast, he's sprinting to keep up with me).

EVEN BETTER THAN THAT!!!! I get the wonderful surprise (oh joy!!) of Adam's

father unexpectedly showing up (to deny any surgery) and we had to sit, the 3 of

us, in a little room for an hour and a half to wait!!!!!! (ugh, he documented

everything I said and did with Adam the whole time).

4. OK doctor comes in. Looks at palate, notes the cold, the nasal is within

normal range.....and says he's fine.

5. What about high pitch voice? Well yes it is, I have a colleague who is

experimenting with voice therapy I'll mention Adam to him. (OK so that's that)>

6. What about the palate? (oh from my flash light it looks fine).

Now here's the interesting thing. He told me " under NO circumstances do I ever

let anyone convince me to have Adam's annoids (sp?) removed "

Why? Well there is *some* hypernasality (yeh even with the cold!!!) and if

anyone was ever to remove the annoids, then it would be major air flow through

there.

Second.......he wants to see Adam in a year as the annoids shrink as one gets

older and that may make the whole thing worth a surgery then.

Adam's dad walks out of the office with a good bye to Adam and his message to me

" what a waste of time " . (yeh OK.....I just thought it **might** be a good idea

to have that checked all out).

So there you have it. Some good info in there for you all to file away somewhere

for future reference.

Now, January is the endo. check up and March is the sleep study!!!!!

Debby