Re: Looking for an understanding person ...

[Guest guest]

Yes , I agree 100% with what has said - actually

couldn't have said it any better myself. But ALSO REMEMBER this

NO 2 LUPUS PATIENTS ARE ALIKE!!!!! I may be very sick and have a list

of problems and symptoms but that does NOT mean you will get as sick

as I let alone have the same problems I have.

So you may get depressed hearing how sick and I usually always

are - DO NOT let our problems make you feel the same is going to

happen to you. EVERYONE is different.

Welcome to the group and please feel free to ask any and all

questions. No question is a stupid question ok.

Take care

Deanna

Founder & Owner

> First of all .. welcome to the group!

> Second .. quit blaming yourself for this disease!!!

>

> No one asks to be " blessed " with this cruddy disease.. it just

happens .. it is one of life's crazy little quirks.

>

> Your life is NOT over.. Lupus is NOT the death sentence some of the

older doctors and literature will tell you. People are surviving with

> Lupus for years and years and years!!

>

> Yes .. your lifestyle will change .. but it is not over! Not by a

long shot!

> and being treated by a psychiatrist is no biggie either!

>

> Anyone who has a chronic illness that causes pain and disrupts a

life the way Lupus does is foolish if they DONT have either a

> psychiatrist or a rheumotologist who is aware of how to treat

depressino.

>

> Your best bet for a doctor is a rheumotologist who deals with Lupus

patients. When you call to make an appointment .. ask how

> many Lupus patients the doctor treats .. ask what kind of schooling

the doctor has had .. does he deal mostly with arthritis? or does

> he deal with fibro and lupus patients?

>

> You have a right to know what kind of doctor you are going to go

to .. so dont feel shy in asking!

>

> " Rion "

[Guest guest]

, In the first place, stop blaming yourself, honey. You didn't run out in the road and ask a

higher power to bless you with this disease, did you? Of course not. None of us did. We are all ages,

all races, all walks of life, and not one of us asked to be chronically ill with a disease that makes our

bodies attack US. But, then, we weren't given coupons for fairness with our birth certificates, either.

So, what are you taking for depression and how is it working for you? Did you try more than one

antidepressant? Did you know that at your age, your dosage should be rechecked every six months

to make sure you are getting enough of the medication? As for losing your life...don't even think

that way. Sure, you have to CHANGE your plans, learn to live in the moment, like some actors (You

know THE METHOD actors in New York.) and learn to be spontaneous for those moments when your

body DOES feel better. They will happen, eventually. I get low, just as everyone does in this group,

but we are here for each other 24/7, are willing to listen, advise, joke, whine (We even offer cheese

with that.), and just be here for you.

Feel free to join any conversation going on the board, ask questions, vent, etc. It helps to share with

people who have been there, done that, as they say. Again, welcome. Hugs, MM aka: Mike,

on of the moderators

[Guest guest]

, In the first place, stop blaming yourself, honey. You didn't run out in the road and ask a

higher power to bless you with this disease, did you? Of course not. None of us did. We are all ages,

all races, all walks of life, and not one of us asked to be chronically ill with a disease that makes our

bodies attack US. But, then, we weren't given coupons for fairness with our birth certificates, either.

So, what are you taking for depression and how is it working for you? Did you try more than one

antidepressant? Did you know that at your age, your dosage should be rechecked every six months

to make sure you are getting enough of the medication? As for losing your life...don't even think

that way. Sure, you have to CHANGE your plans, learn to live in the moment, like some actors (You

know THE METHOD actors in New York.) and learn to be spontaneous for those moments when your

body DOES feel better. They will happen, eventually. I get low, just as everyone does in this group,

but we are here for each other 24/7, are willing to listen, advise, joke, whine (We even offer cheese

with that.), and just be here for you.

Feel free to join any conversation going on the board, ask questions, vent, etc. It helps to share with

people who have been there, done that, as they say. Again, welcome. Hugs, MM aka: Mike,

on of the moderators