Help!!!!

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Terra

I don't want to sound negative, because I mean this in a very positive

way. YOu don't need a WW buddy. You don't even need an at work

program. What you need is a personal dedication to healthy living,

resources (like this mailing list, Weight Watchers online, and other

websites), and a resolve that this is the way you live now. Period.

I find that depending on someone else to support me is an exercise in

futility. it isn't that they don't want to be supportive, but they

have their own issues. IT's way too easy to say, " Oh, she's not doing

it so I won't go... " and before you know it you've let someone else

run your life for you. My husband and I have been on WWErs together

since Feb 2002. He has never completely fallen off the wagon, but he

does hop off from time to time and has never been very consistent with

the program. There are many reasons for this, but the bottom line is

he hasn't finished losing. That's okay. I'm not judging him. He's

doing it his way, I did it (and am continuing to do it) my way. In the

past when we'd " diet " together that always caused me to stop the

program. Not this time. I realized that this is all about me. Yes, I

appreciate his support. He is awesome that way and only eats off

program when we go out, or on his own. But I don't depend on his

actions to dictate my actions. I do it, regardless, because it's

important to me. When it is as important to him then he will do it

regardless. In the meantime he's still lost a great deal of weight

(back to 80 pounds gone), is exercising daily, and feels amazing.

So I say, here's what you do. You just do it. You simply do it because

it's a healthy way to eat. No meeting? Join Weight Watchers online or

do the at home program. No friend to go with? Share your successes and

ask your questions here. Make it simply a part of who you are. Not

Weight Watchers, per se, but make healthy eating and exercise a part

of who you are. Redefine Terra as " A strong woman who is active and

healthy and in control of her life. " You don't " need " someone else to

get this accomplished. All you need is within you.

[Guest guest]

You have posed a very thoughtful question. For me I just know that slow

and steady is the best. I have friends that have done those fast weight

losses and are miserable right now because they now have to go back and

redo all the weight they have gained over the summer. I have a long way

to go before goal and I get tired too, but I remind myself that it will

all be worth it. I hope you find an answer real soon.

Tammy

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> How do I overcome the pressures of all the other diets out there? 

> How can I get over losing 2 lbs a week and not think I am a failure? 

> Help!!!

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