Re: Difference of opinions about Band

April 28, 2006

Hi Bobbi

My husband was a bit the same way. He did not think we 'needed' to

do it. But, he knew it was important to me, so it was fine to do.

Now that we are starting to see changes, we are both very surprised

and glad we did it. Sophie was a bit older (10 months) so I can

only imagine hers would never have gotten better on its own.

Neither of us were thrilled with dragging her around town with the

helmet on. BUt it really isn't that big of a deal now that we have

done it for a few weeks. Actually, my husband is the one who is a

stickler about having it on. He says that since we paid for it, we

had better use it as much as possible and get our money's worth!!!

He is a great dad and really wants the best for our family.

I think your husband will come around in time and both of you will

be glad for the changes. At least he is not totally against it and

angry with you for pursuing it. Your husband is allowed his

opinions, too, and that is okay. You can agree to disagree. This

is why you are married and working as a team. You see things

differently and it is good for other perspectives. Sometimes your

DH's way will be the right way to go. On this issue, the helmet

treatment certainly doesn't hurt your son, so why not?! As long as

you are both 'okay' with it. Your son is at a great age for

treatment. I wouldn't wait. I wish we had Sophie's done sooner.

Good luck. I know it would be nice to be of like-mind.

Sophie - 11 months - STARhelmet 3/15/06

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> Tomorrow we are supposed to go get casted at CT. My DH has been

> somewhat resistant all along but seemed like he was mostly ok with

> it. Now that the day is almost here he says he just doesn think

it

> is necessary. I have tried different arguements. IE: We don't

> want him to be teased, we don't want the tort. to make things

worse

> (assym and jawline), if we can help him in this way then why not.

> Etc....

> He just thinks we live in a society that puts too much attention

and

> importance on looks and we shouldn't subscribe to that attitude.

He

> is on the high side of mild (10 mm CVA). But his cephalic index

is

> 98%. He says I am going to do what I want so I should just do

it.

> Of course I want to agree together on it . But then he always

ends

> up saying just go ahead if you think it is that important even

> though I can tell he would not do it if it were up to him. What

> should I do? I guess I could wait longer. We have been

discussing

> it for a month already and I just want to go ahead and get going.

I

> hate to do it and have him be difficult for the next 3 months. It

> is like he doesn't have the desire to argue with me and he says he

> will never agree 100% so I should just go ahead. His only

arguement

> is that it isn't NECESSARY and he will be just fine without it.

> HELP. I guess I don't need you all to answer our problem just

maybe

> offer support from anyone who went throough something similiar.

>

> Bobbi

> 5.5 mos. tort/plagio/brachy

>

April 28, 2006

Bobbi,

Have you showed your husband information about plagio and tort?? If

you have then he should know that it is about more than just looks.

If your son's tort goes unresolved ( I just learned this last

night ) he could get scoliosis ( sp ). If plagio goes untreated it

could lead to problems with his jaw, tmj, migranes, ear infections,

etc. I do agree that it sucks that society puts so much emphasis on

looks but it is how it is and kids can be cruel in school. You are

obviously going to do what you choose to do and I understand that

you would like to be in agreement with your husband so if you

haven't already told him about the medical effects of untreated

plagio and tort you should do that now and maybe you guys can come

to an agreement.

Isabelle 8mos STARband 1/31/06

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