Not an EDS question, but could use some help anyway

[Guest guest]

My son is 13. He is a very sensitive kid.

He just found out this weekend that 2 of his good friend's smoke pot.

He's pretty uspest about it, but won't talk to me about it. He told his sister,

which is how I found out.

So, this morning, he's complaining of stomach problems.

He hasn't complained of stomach problems since starting the prevacid for his

GERD.

I have thought for a long time that he has anxiety, which manifests itself in

him with stomach aches.

So, I know that it's not a good idea to challenge someone who is suffering

anxiety. It only makes things worse.

But, he has to go to school.

His sister and dad think he's afraid of seeing one of these guys.

His sister thinks he is extreemly frightened by drugs. More than he should be.

So, now I don't know what to do. I told him he could talk to me about it, and I

wouldn't ask who it is. Although, his sister told me who it is allready. I

wasn't surprised.

He insists it's just his stomach, and that he doesn't feel good.

But, I know better.

Any suggestions?

I don't want to upset him more. I know all too well what anxiety can do to a

person. I'm not about to tell him to " just get on with things " , but I don't

want to over do the comforting either.

It's a fine line.

Boy, being a mom to teenagers is SO much harder than when they were little. It

was more physical when they were little. Now, it's more of a phsycological

thing.

I also am dealing with my oldest daughter whose boyfriend just dumped her. It's

her first really serious boyfriend.

Remember the agony of that?

I'll not be like my mom, and say " Oh well. Deal with it " .

Maybe I try too hard.

[Guest guest]

> Maybe I try too hard.

I don't think there is such a thing when it comes to helping your

kids, !

You might try looking here: http://www.familyeducation.com/

Also, I work at Girls and Boys Town and we sell books on this type of

thing. A couple I might suggest would be " What's Right For Me? "

and " Boundaries: A Guide for Teens " . To see a description of what

the book contains and see other books, go to

http://www.girlsandboystown.org/products/btpress/index.asp

You can browse the catalog, or search by title or do a search for

teens. I hope you don't think I'm trying to push our products - I'm

not - but they are good resources.

Also, , you could search on Google for teen relationships or

something to that order. I hope this helps a little.

Love Lana

[Guest guest]

Hi , most kids need the drug talk from their parents, but some don't. I

have a feeling the talk may not be necessary with . I know he is a very

smart sensitive boy. Something's we can help them with things and something's

they just have to go through on their own. He knows you'll listen if he wants to

talk. He must be very disappointed in these friends of his. Raising boys is a

bit different. They tend to not have the need to talk about their feelings like

girls. With my 5 boys, they tend to have the need to be left alone and think it

through themselves. Your used to girls <G> They'll tell you almost anything if

they trust you. Boys at his age are in that process of trying to cut the cord

with mom. They try to be strong, but don't let it get to you, Brady is 19 and

he's still trying to cut the cord, but he needs me and he knows it. s

anxiety makes all this harder on him, but give him the space he needs and be

there for him when he's ready for a hug and an ear. Just my two cents.

Cindylouwho

Not an EDS question, but could use some help anyway

My son is 13. He is a very sensitive kid.

He just found out this weekend that 2 of his good friend's smoke pot.

He's pretty uspest about it, but won't talk to me about it. He told his

sister, which is how I found out.

So, this morning, he's complaining of stomach problems.

He hasn't complained of stomach problems since starting the prevacid for his

GERD.

I have thought for a long time that he has anxiety, which manifests itself in

him with stomach aches.

So, I know that it's not a good idea to challenge someone who is suffering

anxiety. It only makes things worse.

But, he has to go to school.

His sister and dad think he's afraid of seeing one of these guys.

His sister thinks he is extreemly frightened by drugs. More than he should

be.

So, now I don't know what to do. I told him he could talk to me about it, and

I wouldn't ask who it is. Although, his sister told me who it is allready. I

wasn't surprised.

He insists it's just his stomach, and that he doesn't feel good.

But, I know better.

Any suggestions?

I don't want to upset him more. I know all too well what anxiety can do to a

person. I'm not about to tell him to " just get on with things " , but I don't

want to over do the comforting either.

It's a fine line.

Boy, being a mom to teenagers is SO much harder than when they were little.

It was more physical when they were little. Now, it's more of a phsycological

thing.

I also am dealing with my oldest daughter whose boyfriend just dumped her.

It's her first really serious boyfriend.

Remember the agony of that?

I'll not be like my mom, and say " Oh well. Deal with it " .

Maybe I try too hard.