DONNA, REPLY TO WHAT WROTE OF FAMILYl

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HELLO DONNA, WAS FINALLY ACTUALLY READING YOUR EMAIL AND AM SO SAD FOR YOU

AS KNOW WHEN SPOKE TO YOU BEFORE THIS WAS HOW THINGS WERE ALSO. SO WITH

KNOWING THEY HAVE NOT IMPROVED IS VERY SAD TO HEAR AND SO WISH I HAD THIS

WAND THAT PROVIDES IN EACH PERSON A HEART OF EMPATHY SO BADLY NEEDED BY EACH

OF US AT MANY TIMES IN OUR LIVES.

CAN YOU SIT ALL OF THEM DOWN AND JUST GIVE THEM A LIST OF THINGS MUST DO

IF WANT TO HAVE OR DO SOMETHING FUN? IT MIGHT WORK TO GIVE THEM THIS TYPE

OF HELP LIST AND CALL IT THAT, INSTEAD OF CHORES ETC. IF CALLED WAYS OF

HELPING OUR FAMILY AND THEN WRITE EACH PERSONS NAME DOWN AND UNDER NAME A

LIST OF DO'S WITH A STATEMENT THAT SINCE WE ARE A FAMILY AND ALL LIVE IN

SAME HOME WE MUST EACH HAVE THINGS TO TAKE CARE OF AS HAVE TO MAKE SURE WE

NEVER FORCE OTHERS TO TAKE CARE OF THINGS NEEDED DONE BY OTHERS.

MAYBE THAT IS TO SILLY SOUNDING BUT AT LEAST IF HAD SOME LIST WITH MUST

DO'S OR ELSE CANNOT DO, THEN GIVES LARGER MOTIVE TO HELP OUT.

JOANN

KELLYS MOMMA

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> Lyn

> Thank you...Its frustrating to me when I watch others in my house who

> cant function because of pain, but its fleeting pain, yet my pain

> seems to go by oblivious to everyone...I still maintain my home, cook

> meals, fold laundry and rise every morning at 6 to get my daughter

> off to school. Im not asking for people to see me as a saint just

> take over every so often or at least acknowledge that I too am in

> pain and have been since day one. There are days when I simply cannot

> do it and want to sleep the day away, its not in me to do it just yet

> though.

> I am happy to be returning to work part time but my pain dr has

> limited my restrictions greatly so that if they want to accept them

> as they are written then I wont be doing much more at work than I am

> at home. I have hrs as tolerated and a 5 pound max lifting

> restrictions. The restriction has no time listed on it and probably

> wont for quite awhile. They have to accept that I have OT and PT

> appts, neurological appts and pain clinic appts and that I will

> schedule my work around them not the other way around.

> Seeing people outside of home will be nice but I know its going to be

> a strain on my system which is already miserable because of the

> weather, the change in burning and the fac that Im weaning off of

> Ultram and switching to percocet.

> As far as people ever understanding this, haha..even my sister in law

> with fibromyalgia doesnt understand and asked me the other day when I

> was going back to work! I almost said the same day as you...UGH!!

> Anyway, if anyone ever figures out the magic potion to getting their

> family and friends to be more compassionate, please let the rest of

> us know!

> Hugs

> Donna

> > take care and just remember I and the rest of the group will always

> be here

> > for you.

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[Guest guest]

Donna - I think that they way that JoAnn framed the "chore" list as a "help list is terrific. After speaking with everyone in the house, to put out their responsibilities as family members this way might offer a gentle reminder to them that they aren't just doing a j.o.b. they are helping. Nice. BarbaraJoAnn & Russ Ford wrote:

CAN YOU SIT ALL OF THEM DOWN AND JUST GIVE THEM A LIST OF THINGS MUST DOIF WANT TO HAVE OR DO SOMETHING FUN? IT MIGHT WORK TO GIVE THEM THIS TYPEOF HELP LIST AND CALL IT THAT, INSTEAD OF CHORES ETC. IF CALLED WAYS OFHELPING OUR FAMILY AND THEN WRITE EACH PERSONS NAME DOWN AND UNDER NAME ALIST OF DO'S WITH A STATEMENT THAT SINCE WE ARE A FAMILY AND ALL LIVE INSAME HOME WE MUST EACH HAVE THINGS TO TAKE CARE OF AS HAVE TO MAKE SURE WENEVER FORCE OTHERS TO TAKE CARE OF THINGS NEEDED DONE BY OTHERS. JOANN

[Guest guest]

Donna - I think that they way that JoAnn framed the "chore" list as a "help list is terrific. After speaking with everyone in the house, to put out their responsibilities as family members this way might offer a gentle reminder to them that they aren't just doing a j.o.b. they are helping. Nice. BarbaraJoAnn & Russ Ford wrote:

CAN YOU SIT ALL OF THEM DOWN AND JUST GIVE THEM A LIST OF THINGS MUST DOIF WANT TO HAVE OR DO SOMETHING FUN? IT MIGHT WORK TO GIVE THEM THIS TYPEOF HELP LIST AND CALL IT THAT, INSTEAD OF CHORES ETC. IF CALLED WAYS OFHELPING OUR FAMILY AND THEN WRITE EACH PERSONS NAME DOWN AND UNDER NAME ALIST OF DO'S WITH A STATEMENT THAT SINCE WE ARE A FAMILY AND ALL LIVE INSAME HOME WE MUST EACH HAVE THINGS TO TAKE CARE OF AS HAVE TO MAKE SURE WENEVER FORCE OTHERS TO TAKE CARE OF THINGS NEEDED DONE BY OTHERS. JOANN

[Guest guest]

Donna - I think that they way that JoAnn framed the "chore" list as a "help list is terrific. After speaking with everyone in the house, to put out their responsibilities as family members this way might offer a gentle reminder to them that they aren't just doing a j.o.b. they are helping. Nice. BarbaraJoAnn & Russ Ford wrote:

CAN YOU SIT ALL OF THEM DOWN AND JUST GIVE THEM A LIST OF THINGS MUST DOIF WANT TO HAVE OR DO SOMETHING FUN? IT MIGHT WORK TO GIVE THEM THIS TYPEOF HELP LIST AND CALL IT THAT, INSTEAD OF CHORES ETC. IF CALLED WAYS OFHELPING OUR FAMILY AND THEN WRITE EACH PERSONS NAME DOWN AND UNDER NAME ALIST OF DO'S WITH A STATEMENT THAT SINCE WE ARE A FAMILY AND ALL LIVE INSAME HOME WE MUST EACH HAVE THINGS TO TAKE CARE OF AS HAVE TO MAKE SURE WENEVER FORCE OTHERS TO TAKE CARE OF THINGS NEEDED DONE BY OTHERS. JOANN