Re: I need some Feedback.....

October 22, 2006

God, I am so glad to know that I am not the only one who things about those

things! I haven't had surgery yet and I can't imagine not thinking about

whether I'll fit in a chair. Or whether I'll fit through what will look like

to

me a small space at work or in a store. It's weird. It's one of those

NSV's that I'm waiting for but it's also something that scares the hell out of

me. I'm afraid that once I start losing weight, I won't be able to see it on

myself. Right now, I guess I shouldn't obsess. I need to get a date before I

can even begin to worry about this.

Tonya

457/437/?/199

October 22, 2006

God, I am so glad to know that I am not the only one who things about those

things! I haven't had surgery yet and I can't imagine not thinking about

whether I'll fit in a chair. Or whether I'll fit through what will look like

to

me a small space at work or in a store. It's weird. It's one of those

NSV's that I'm waiting for but it's also something that scares the hell out of

me. I'm afraid that once I start losing weight, I won't be able to see it on

myself. Right now, I guess I shouldn't obsess. I need to get a date before I

can even begin to worry about this.

Tonya

457/437/?/199

October 22, 2006

Nope that's the entry way to my house. I think you can see the bike

tire in the lower right. It's handy because I can just grab a case,

drop it in the van and bring it into work if I need it or bust it

open and dump it into the cardboard box I've put in the center of the

van (removed the center of three seats). I keep about 40+ bottles of

Grape, Raspberry, Tea and plain water in there. The kids and people I

drive around can drink it that way. Everyone seems to appreciate it.

Tea is on sale this week and I do love that stuff so I may have to

put some in the basement. Although I do have a large back room I

might use instead. All that is in the backroom is my freezer full of

shrimp and Healthy Choice meals.

Mike in GR

> >> >>

> >> >> I am six months out from surgery and I have not been this

thin in

> >> > like

> >> >> ten years.....

> >> >>

> >> >> My problem is that my mind and my view of myself is all jacked

> > up.

> >> > I

> >> >> have times when I all the sudden just start to feel like Im

huge!

> >> > Like

> >> >> I havent lost a pound......Its hard to explain, I hope some of

> > you

> >> >> know what Im talking about, but I sometimes look in the mirror

> > and

> >> > I

> >> >> dont see the person that has lost way over 100 pounds.......I

see

> >> > the

> >> >> same person that was standing there a year ago! Does this go

away

> >> > or

> >> >> what? I want to feel good about all this......

> >> >>

> >> >> Mike T

> >> >>

> >> >

> >> > We are a very active support group.

> >> > If the email becomes overwhelming,

> >> > please change your setting to NO EMAIL!

> >> > Please contact Group Creator

> >> > Robyn@

> >> >

October 22, 2006

I know you are and you know what??? You are just doing an amazing

job, I'm so proud of you!!!!!!!!!

Hugs!!!!!!!!!

> >>

> >> I am six months out from surgery and I have not been this thin

in

> > like

> >> ten years.....

> >>

> >> My problem is that my mind and my view of myself is all jacked

up. I

> >> have times when I all the sudden just start to feel like Im

huge!

> > Like

> >> I havent lost a pound......Its hard to explain, I hope some of

you

> >> know what Im talking about, but I sometimes look in the mirror

and I

> >> dont see the person that has lost way over 100 pounds.......I

see

> > the

> >> same person that was standing there a year ago! Does this go

away or

> >> what? I want to feel good about all this......

> >>

> >> Mike T

> >>

> >

> > We are a very active support group.

> > If the email becomes overwhelming,

> > please change your setting to NO EMAIL!

> > Please contact Group Creator

> > Robyn@...

> >

October 23, 2006

Hi Mike,

Congradulations first of all on your surgery and weight loss thus

far. I know exactly how you feel though. I have lost literally half

of myself and still have days where I feel like I still need to loose

50 more pounds. I think its just from being heavy all my life I will

never see myself as anything but fat no matter what anyone else says.

I know it's possible to change this, after all it is just a frame of

mind right? It just seems impossible sometimes. Although then I have

my really good days where I look at old pictures and can't believe

that was really me only 2 years ago. Just keep the faith and never

forget how far you've come!

Open RNY 1/12/05

310/150/120

October 23, 2006

OMG did I have a moment like this today over my belly.. GOOD GRIEF! I was like,

I know I had surgery and I know I have lost lots of weight and my pands are much

smaller and my shirts even smaller, so did it grow over night? The truth is, I

still seen my belly the same too. Wierd. I really cannot wait to have a

permanant change of mind and even that is not going to happen until a tummy tuck

or something...Man I really need to work on this. You are SOOO not alone!!!

Also, it will not be a waste of money when it comes to changing your mental

state Mike, you should buy you atleast one pair. I wish I was out there, I would

SO take you shopping hahahaha!!

Mike Tune wrote:

Everything you all are saying is true......I was in size 50 jeans

before, I

bought some 40's a few weeks ago......and I really could probly get into

some 38's now but I feel like I am wasting money if Im going to have to buy

more in a couple of months.........

All this being said, I still have those moments when I look down at my belly

and feel like its the same it was last year! Its really strange and I know I

am allot smaller.........That's why I had to ask, because it feels so weird.

To know I have dropped allot of weight but still have these bad days. Before

surgery I felt like if I could just get the surgery then EVERYTHING would

just be better in a flash! Well for those still pre-op it don't work like

that and you have to deal with allot of demons!

Thanks for all the feedback, I love this group.

Mike T

Re: I need some Feedback.....

> Mike T,

>

> Do you have any of your old pants? Why don't you hang them up on the

> wall along with a pair you are currently in? Maybe that would be a

> good visual to help strike it home for you.

>

> I recently bought a pair of jeans in my goal size. As soon as I have a

> surgery date, they are going up on the wall. Since I'm still dealing

> with insurance and everything, I'm too chicken to put them up yet. I'm

> afraid I'll jinx it.

>

> Right now looking at them, I laugh and have to say I don't think there

> is ANY way I'll ever get in them, they look SOOOO small. But I'm sure

> going to try!!

>

> in MI

>

>> >

>> > I am six months out from surgery and I have not been this thin in

>> like

>> > ten years.....

>> >

>> > My problem is that my mind and my view of myself is all jacked up. I

>> > have times when I all the sudden just start to feel like Im huge!

>> Like

>> > I havent lost a pound......Its hard to explain, I hope some of you

>> > know what Im talking about, but I sometimes look in the mirror and I

>> > dont see the person that has lost way over 100 pounds.......I see the

>> > same person that was standing there a year ago! Does this go away or

>> > what? I want to feel good about all this......

>> >

>> > Mike T

>> >

>>

>

> We are a very active support group.

> If the email becomes overwhelming,

> please change your setting to NO EMAIL!

> Please contact Group Creator

> Robyn@...

>

October 23, 2006

I wish I could drink that much. I do good to get my 64 in most days!!!

I'm gonna have to switch to hot decaf tea now that it's getting cold.

All this cold water is freezing me!

W

380/284/160

Mike wrote:

> I drink four or so of those a day and refill a couple with tap water

> and drink those. I also drink a 32oz of sugar free flavored tap water

> on the drive into work and usually a couple more at home in the

> afternoon/evening. I figure I'm doing about 175-230oz a day. Pretty

> crazy.

>

> Mike in GR (excuse me, where's the restroom?)

>

October 23, 2006

I wish I could drink that much. I do good to get my 64 in most days!!!

I'm gonna have to switch to hot decaf tea now that it's getting cold.

All this cold water is freezing me!

W

380/284/160

Mike wrote:

> I drink four or so of those a day and refill a couple with tap water

> and drink those. I also drink a 32oz of sugar free flavored tap water

> on the drive into work and usually a couple more at home in the

> afternoon/evening. I figure I'm doing about 175-230oz a day. Pretty

> crazy.

>

> Mike in GR (excuse me, where's the restroom?)

>

October 23, 2006

Thanks Shauna!! Another thing I do to fight this is when i am feeling

fat, stupid, ugly. I tell myself so you have a great husband, great

kids and family and friends. There are many people who don't have

that. Just thinking of something I'm greatful for helps. It helps me

crawl out of the pitty party (for one) I having at the time. This is

the hardest thing for me. It is hard to fight these old messages.

Hugs!!!

> >

> > I still struggle (after 20 years) with still feeling fat and

> disgusting.

> > When I walk past a mirror and glance at myself it stops me dead

in

> my tracks

> > because I see a 210 pound woman and not the underweight Lady I am

> today. I

> > wish I knew the " magical " answer to fixing it. Even after years

of

> therapy

> > and countless Eating Disorder Clinic stays, there are still many

> days I feel

> > and actually see myself as a fat, disgusting blob. I hear people

> whispering

> > about some fat person and I just know in my mind that they are

> talking about

> > me. Also when I hear people talk about how bones are beautiful I

> want to

> > lose even more weight. My thinking/thought process has gotten so

> screwed up

> > since I had WLS, I never obsessed about my weight before surgery.

> I am very

> > interested in hearing how other people have gotten the fat person

> out of

> > their mind.

> >

> > Lacy

> >

> > -- I need some Feedback.....

> >

> > I am six months out from surgery and I have not been this thin in

> like

> > ten years.....

> >

> > My problem is that my mind and my view of myself is all jacked

up. I

> > have times when I all the sudden just start to feel like Im huge!

> Like

> > I havent lost a pound......Its hard to explain, I hope some of you

> > know what Im talking about, but I sometimes look in the mirror

and I

> > dont see the person that has lost way over 100 pounds.......I see

> the

> > same person that was standing there a year ago! Does this go away

or

> > what? I want to feel good about all this......

> >

> > Mike T

> >

> > We are a very active support group.

> > If the email becomes overwhelming,

> > please change your setting to NO EMAIL!

> > Please contact Group Creator

> > Robyn@

> >

October 23, 2006

Thanks Shauna!! Another thing I do to fight this is when i am feeling

fat, stupid, ugly. I tell myself so you have a great husband, great

kids and family and friends. There are many people who don't have

that. Just thinking of something I'm greatful for helps. It helps me

crawl out of the pitty party (for one) I having at the time. This is

the hardest thing for me. It is hard to fight these old messages.

Hugs!!!

> >

> > I still struggle (after 20 years) with still feeling fat and

> disgusting.

> > When I walk past a mirror and glance at myself it stops me dead

in

> my tracks

> > because I see a 210 pound woman and not the underweight Lady I am

> today. I

> > wish I knew the " magical " answer to fixing it. Even after years

of

> therapy

> > and countless Eating Disorder Clinic stays, there are still many

> days I feel

> > and actually see myself as a fat, disgusting blob. I hear people

> whispering

> > about some fat person and I just know in my mind that they are

> talking about

> > me. Also when I hear people talk about how bones are beautiful I

> want to

> > lose even more weight. My thinking/thought process has gotten so

> screwed up

> > since I had WLS, I never obsessed about my weight before surgery.

> I am very

> > interested in hearing how other people have gotten the fat person

> out of

> > their mind.

> >

> > Lacy

> >

> > -- I need some Feedback.....

> >

> > I am six months out from surgery and I have not been this thin in

> like

> > ten years.....

> >

> > My problem is that my mind and my view of myself is all jacked

up. I

> > have times when I all the sudden just start to feel like Im huge!

> Like

> > I havent lost a pound......Its hard to explain, I hope some of you

> > know what Im talking about, but I sometimes look in the mirror

and I

> > dont see the person that has lost way over 100 pounds.......I see

> the

> > same person that was standing there a year ago! Does this go away

or

> > what? I want to feel good about all this......

> >

> > Mike T

> >

> > We are a very active support group.

> > If the email becomes overwhelming,

> > please change your setting to NO EMAIL!

> > Please contact Group Creator

> > Robyn@

> >

October 24, 2006

Very Well Put , I am SOOOO Excited about Christmas this year.

" O. " wrote:

Mikey,

Your head is playing games with you. I still have this problem; it

isn't as bad as it used to be but I have days were I feel big again!!

Or days when a size 8 feels big (don't slap me!!) I know a size 8

isn't big in my head. This is when you need to get out the shirt you

saved, or the pants you saved or the before pictures and compare them

to now. I take out and old pair of size 24 shorts, that were so tight

on me they hurt, they would dig into my skin. I should have been in a

size 26.. I can fit both legs in to one leg hole. I lay my size 8

shorts on top of them and see the difference. I go to the park and RUN

with my kids, I can run now. I think of wow moments like last

Christmas when I was up at 5am and didn't go to bed until 1am the next

morning. I could have never done these things pre op. Think of the

cool thinks you can do now or go try something that you have been

holding back on.

I so understand where you are coming from!!!!! Hang in there!!!

>

> I am six months out from surgery and I have not been this thin in

like

> ten years.....

>

> My problem is that my mind and my view of myself is all jacked up. I

> have times when I all the sudden just start to feel like Im huge!

Like

> I havent lost a pound......Its hard to explain, I hope some of you

> know what Im talking about, but I sometimes look in the mirror and I

> dont see the person that has lost way over 100 pounds.......I see

the

> same person that was standing there a year ago! Does this go away or

> what? I want to feel good about all this......

>

> Mike T

>

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October 24, 2006

Or you could get a little more urban with things like " You're not FAT

you're PHAT " , " Damn woman you're FUINE! " , " Wow you're smokin'! " , etc.

You could also express concern in the forum and the Mikes (and other

men) could reassure you. That reminds me it's time for my daily

review of your photo album .

Mike in GR (obsessed? Me?)

> > >

> > > I still struggle (after 20 years) with still feeling fat and

> > disgusting.

> > > When I walk past a mirror and glance at myself it stops me dead

> in

> > my tracks

> > > because I see a 210 pound woman and not the underweight Lady I

am

> > today. I

> > > wish I knew the " magical " answer to fixing it. Even after years

> of

> > therapy

> > > and countless Eating Disorder Clinic stays, there are still

many

> > days I feel

> > > and actually see myself as a fat, disgusting blob. I hear

people

> > whispering

> > > about some fat person and I just know in my mind that they are

> > talking about

> > > me. Also when I hear people talk about how bones are beautiful

I

> > want to

> > > lose even more weight. My thinking/thought process has gotten

so

> > screwed up

> > > since I had WLS, I never obsessed about my weight before

surgery.

> > I am very

> > > interested in hearing how other people have gotten the fat

person

> > out of

> > > their mind.

> > >

> > > Lacy

> > >

> > > -- I need some Feedback.....

> > >

> > > I am six months out from surgery and I have not been this thin

in

> > like

> > > ten years.....

> > >

> > > My problem is that my mind and my view of myself is all jacked

> up. I

> > > have times when I all the sudden just start to feel like Im

huge!

> > Like

> > > I havent lost a pound......Its hard to explain, I hope some of

you

> > > know what Im talking about, but I sometimes look in the mirror

> and I

> > > dont see the person that has lost way over 100 pounds.......I

see

> > the

> > > same person that was standing there a year ago! Does this go

away

> or

> > > what? I want to feel good about all this......

> > >

> > > Mike T

> > >

> > > We are a very active support group.

> > > If the email becomes overwhelming,

> > > please change your setting to NO EMAIL!

> > > Please contact Group Creator

> > > Robyn@

> > >

October 24, 2006

Or you could get a little more urban with things like " You're not FAT

you're PHAT " , " Damn woman you're FUINE! " , " Wow you're smokin'! " , etc.

You could also express concern in the forum and the Mikes (and other

men) could reassure you. That reminds me it's time for my daily

review of your photo album .

Mike in GR (obsessed? Me?)

> > >

> > > I still struggle (after 20 years) with still feeling fat and

> > disgusting.

> > > When I walk past a mirror and glance at myself it stops me dead

> in

> > my tracks

> > > because I see a 210 pound woman and not the underweight Lady I

am

> > today. I

> > > wish I knew the " magical " answer to fixing it. Even after years

> of

> > therapy

> > > and countless Eating Disorder Clinic stays, there are still

many

> > days I feel

> > > and actually see myself as a fat, disgusting blob. I hear

people

> > whispering

> > > about some fat person and I just know in my mind that they are

> > talking about

> > > me. Also when I hear people talk about how bones are beautiful

I

> > want to

> > > lose even more weight. My thinking/thought process has gotten

so

> > screwed up

> > > since I had WLS, I never obsessed about my weight before

surgery.

> > I am very

> > > interested in hearing how other people have gotten the fat

person

> > out of

> > > their mind.

> > >

> > > Lacy

> > >

> > > -- I need some Feedback.....

> > >

> > > I am six months out from surgery and I have not been this thin

in

> > like

> > > ten years.....

> > >

> > > My problem is that my mind and my view of myself is all jacked

> up. I

> > > have times when I all the sudden just start to feel like Im

huge!

> > Like

> > > I havent lost a pound......Its hard to explain, I hope some of

you

> > > know what Im talking about, but I sometimes look in the mirror

> and I

> > > dont see the person that has lost way over 100 pounds.......I

see

> > the

> > > same person that was standing there a year ago! Does this go

away

> or

> > > what? I want to feel good about all this......

> > >

> > > Mike T

> > >

> > > We are a very active support group.

> > > If the email becomes overwhelming,

> > > please change your setting to NO EMAIL!

> > > Please contact Group Creator

> > > Robyn@

> > >

October 24, 2006

I have been having the same issue. I think that because I am fat

that I am ugly and unloveable. I am breaking this thought everyday I

proclaim that " I am Beautiful " because God made me beautiful. " I am

loveable " because God loves me.

Last weekend I started wearing make-up so that I would feel

beautiful. I can say that about 75% of the time now I can say that I

am loveable and beautiful and beleive it.

Barb

> > >

> > > I still struggle (after 20 years) with still feeling fat and

> > disgusting.

> > > When I walk past a mirror and glance at myself it stops me dead

> in

> > my tracks

> > > because I see a 210 pound woman and not the underweight Lady I

am

> > today. I

> > > wish I knew the " magical " answer to fixing it. Even after years

> of

> > therapy

> > > and countless Eating Disorder Clinic stays, there are still

many

> > days I feel

> > > and actually see myself as a fat, disgusting blob. I hear

people

> > whispering

> > > about some fat person and I just know in my mind that they are

> > talking about

> > > me. Also when I hear people talk about how bones are beautiful

I

> > want to

> > > lose even more weight. My thinking/thought process has gotten

so

> > screwed up

> > > since I had WLS, I never obsessed about my weight before

surgery.

> > I am very

> > > interested in hearing how other people have gotten the fat

person

> > out of

> > > their mind.

> > >

> > > Lacy

> > >

> > > -- I need some Feedback.....

> > >

> > > I am six months out from surgery and I have not been this thin

in

> > like

> > > ten years.....

> > >

> > > My problem is that my mind and my view of myself is all jacked

> up. I

> > > have times when I all the sudden just start to feel like Im

huge!

> > Like

> > > I havent lost a pound......Its hard to explain, I hope some of

you

> > > know what Im talking about, but I sometimes look in the mirror

> and I

> > > dont see the person that has lost way over 100 pounds.......I

see

> > the

> > > same person that was standing there a year ago! Does this go

away

> or

> > > what? I want to feel good about all this......

> > >

> > > Mike T

> > >

> > > We are a very active support group.

> > > If the email becomes overwhelming,

> > > please change your setting to NO EMAIL!

> > > Please contact Group Creator

> > > Robyn@

> > >

October 24, 2006

Those are some good points Barb, positive thoughts......I should try

that....

Mike T

I need some Feedback.....

> > >

> > > I am six months out from surgery and I have not been this thin

in

> > like

> > > ten years.....

> > >

> > > My problem is that my mind and my view of myself is all jacked

> up. I

> > > have times when I all the sudden just start to feel like Im

huge!

> > Like

> > > I havent lost a pound......Its hard to explain, I hope some of

you

> > > know what Im talking about, but I sometimes look in the mirror

> and I

> > > dont see the person that has lost way over 100 pounds.......I

see

> > the

> > > same person that was standing there a year ago! Does this go

away

> or

> > > what? I want to feel good about all this......

> > >

> > > Mike T

> > >

> > > We are a very active support group.

> > > If the email becomes overwhelming,

> > > please change your setting to NO EMAIL!

> > > Please contact Group Creator

> > > Robyn@

> > >

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