Re: Infertility reason for adopting...

[Guest guest]

, Well, not exactly. See, I always wanted children, but didn't want my life cluttered up with

a husband. I know, not the usual thing for a young woman, as I was when I was making life decisions,

but I had lost two fiances to Viet Nam, had tried living with a couple of different men over the years,

but it was like raising an adult child. I just couldn't stand having a grown up in the house who had to

be cajoled along like a small child. So, I decided to just have babies by A.S. However, I couldn't get

pregnant, ended up with a hysterectomy at 35, and had been rejected by every adoption agency

I contacted because I was single, working, not rich, and didn't own my own house...and/or wasn't

the right age, religion, race, etc. I had actually given up when my then boss came back from a noon

meeting and threw a brochure on my desk. She said that these people wouldn't reject me since they

set up adoptions for singles, odd couples, disabled adults, etc. It was the importance of building

families for "unadoptable" kids that was their focus. Well, I went the next day, and within two years

I had my first child, a three year old boy, and four years later another boy, then a girl, and then

another boy. My original goal was twelve (No, I am not insane, just came from a very large Catholic

family.), but Lupus and other things took over my body, and snatched away my energy. So, I had to

stop at four. Don't regret a minute of it, although some days have been real emotional roller coasters with these special kids. I think they are all BEEYOOTEEFUL.

Hope you do consider it seriously. It can be the most rewarding experience in your lives. Hugs, MM

[Guest guest]

Deb, No, it was a local private non-profit started by adoptive parents who had been put through way

too much red tape in order to adopt their special kids. It took them years and years to get their kids

cleared from the foster system, even though there was nobody for those kids anywhere, but them.

In California the system bends over backwards to return these kids to birth families, even flying in the

face of birth parents who have obviously no intention of taking responsibility for their babies. So,

they languish in foster care for years without a hope of adoption.

There are probably such non-profits in your area, too. If you look online at private non-profit agency

adoptions, you will probably find some in your neck of the woods. There is always the Human Services Department of your local county or city government, too. They have children and family

services divisions who handle adoptions without fees. These usually take longer, and must be done

as fost-adopts, but they are affordable, and do happen. In my case, it was such a lengthy process

that I went privately instead. Check out your local human services department and go from there.

Good luck, and let me know how you do. Loving hugs, MM

[Guest guest]

Don't regret a minute of it, although some days have been real emotional roller coasters with these special kids. I think they are all BEEYOOTEEFUL.

Hope you do consider it seriously. It can be the most rewarding experience in your lives. Hugs, MM

Yep, what Mike said.

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