RE: re:quality

[Guest guest]

First you need to take care of Jackie. You are probably feeling

overwhelmed which is perfectly normal, but it's hard to be at your

best with your child when you are feeling sad. There are lists of

things you can do from easy and inexpensive like a bubble bath and a

good book (with the door locked!) Calgon take me away!!

Once you feel better, more relaxed and centered, you'll be able to

once again take on the world. And if not the world at least those

pesky people sitting across the IEP table from you. It's like when

you are on an airplane they have you first put the oxygen mask on

(Jackie) and then put it on your child.

If you check the archives the other thing we all forget is that we

don't have to just go the pure therapy route with our children.

Don't forget the " normal " stuff that your friends take their

children to do if possible.

I'll never forget taking Tanner to a swim class and hanging out with

the other parents there where they had not a clue that Tanner had

any type of " problem " In the pool he was just a child learning to

swim like all the rest. For an hour a week I was just another mom

and could talk about stuff like Sponge Bob and which park was the

best. Cool.

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[Guest guest]

I know what you mean. The other day we were listening to music, he just

woke up from a nap, and sat with me (which he barely lets me hold him,

lket alone sits with me) ANde I just started thinking, and I didn't

realize it until now. He has someone at the house 4 times a week,

that's 4 times that we could be outside, instead of making sure the

hosue is clean because someone is coming over. That would be 4 sessions

he would miss if we wanted to go on vacation.

I am sorry hun. *hugs*

>

> I am in the process of doing everything I can to help my child which

> is great but sometimes I feel that I am so busy trying to get her on

> track that I don't enjoy her. It makes me sad.

> jackie

>

[Guest guest]

Jackie-

It's hard to balance things, isn't it? I have struggled with balance

for a few months now. I realized that every spare minute I has was

spent obsessing, reading, researching, practicing with and it

was really starting to get to me. Somehow, I knew that I needed a

little time where I didn't think about this stuff. I needed

perspective. I have been working on balance and finally, I think I am

starting to achieve it. Don't get me wrong, we still work really hard

to do everything we can for her, but I allow myself some time each week

to get my mind off of it too. has had various (speech/OT/SEIT)

for 8 months now and we are now starting to see the fruits of her (and

our!) hard work. I know that, for now, she has everything she needs to

succeed and she is succeeding! This makes it much easier to relax, just

a little bit.

Just remember, helping her is important, but enjoying her childhood is

equally important. Kids are only little once. I don't know where you

are right now with treatment and with progress, but I know that as your

child starts improving, you become more confident that your program is

the right one and that you are doing the right thing. has a

ways to go, but she is putting 3 words together! She can expressively

count to thirteen! She knows her letters! She is saying new words

every day! You will get to that point, too.

Anyway, I hope that helps. Balance is the key to sanity.

Warm regards,

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(Rochester, NY)

Mom to , 2.9 years, Developmental Verbal Dyspraxia

& , 7 months

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jacquelinevfernandez

Sent: Friday, March 31, 2006 2:08 PM

Subject: [ ] re:quality

I am in the process of doing everything I can to help my child which

is great but sometimes I feel that I am so busy trying to get her on

track that I don't enjoy her. It makes me sad.

jackie