Guest guest Posted February 20, 2003 Report Share Posted February 20, 2003 and i feel like I'm going to crack! I've just about had it with everything. I have 4 kids. My oldest Is 13, and autistic. I won't even get Into what i have to deal with as far as the younger kids are concerned. Up until now, well about a year ago, i haven't had any problems with my autistic child. Now he seems to have become the problem child king. The school is my biggest problem! I can't beleive some of the notes i receive from his teacher. I'm beginning to wonder If she has any experience with these kind of kids. He has started masturbating, touching strangers mainly females when we're out, looking at womens panty crotches in the store, screaming, bitting his arms, hitting the table, and the wierd part about It Is most of this seems to come out of the blue. Most of his behavior seems to be happening at school though. I'm so lost. Deep down I think he may be becoming sexually frustrated. I can't help him there though. I can't communicate with him. It's not like i can just ask and he will tell me what's going on. The school is always writing me like I have all the answers. I'm just as confused as they are. Does anyone else have these kinds of problems?? Please.....I need to hear someone elses problems, Carol Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 20, 2003 Report Share Posted February 20, 2003 Hi Carol! Please feel free to vent whenever you want. While I haven't had this experience...my oldest is just turning 13, I would definitely say puberty has a lot to do with what you're seeing. What is your son's functioning level? What type of school program is he in? Some of the thoughts I have right now is that with puberty he's getting bombarded with feelings and sensations he's not familiar with. His sensory system is probably on overload most of the time. I have read that it's a very hard time on our kids, although of course all of our kids experience every thing differently. If your son doesn't have a psychologist or a psychiatrist (or isn't on medication right now), now may be the time to look into it. I'm sorry if what I'm saying sounds elementary to you, but without knowing more, I don't know what you've done in the past with him. Sue in MI Mom to: 12 1/2, HFA 9, AS/ADD IM smgaska1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 20, 2003 Report Share Posted February 20, 2003 this sounds tough carol! is there a psychologist or child development specialist you could talk to? it makes sense that these new behaviours would be puberty related. something i am years away from dealing with - sorry - i can't help ( M.G.mum to Sebastian, 11 kinda quirky(NT) Rowan, 6 extra quirky (ASD) married to and living in Northern Ontario New to group......... and i feel like I'm going to crack! I've just about had it with everything. I have 4 kids. My oldest Is 13, and autistic. I won't even get Into what i have to deal with as far as the younger kids are concerned. Up until now, well about a year ago, i haven't had any problems with my autistic child. Now he seems to have become the problem child king. The school is my biggest problem! I can't beleive some of the notes i receive from his teacher. I'm beginning to wonder If she has any experience with these kind of kids. He has started masturbating, touching strangers mainly females when we're out, looking at womens panty crotches in the store, screaming, bitting his arms, hitting the table, and the wierd part about It Is most of this seems to come out of the blue. Most of his behavior seems to be happening at school though. I'm so lost. Deep down I think he may be becoming sexually frustrated. I can't help him there though. I can't communicate with him. It's not like i can just ask and he will tell me what's going on. The school is always writing me like I have all the answers. I'm just as confused as they are. Does anyone else have these kinds of problems?? Please.....I need to hear someone elses problems, Carol Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 20, 2003 Report Share Posted February 20, 2003 Hi Carol! You have good advice here. I am sorry I can’t help my daughter is still so young. Welcome to the list I hope you find some solutions soon, Cecilia, from Peru (mom to Dessiree 3½ yo) Lovely husband -----Mensaje original----- De: Enviado el: Jueves, 20 de Febrero de 2003 07:03 p.m. Para: parenting_autism Asunto: Re: New to group......... Hi Carol! Please feel free to vent whenever you want. While I haven't had this experience...my oldest is just turning 13, I would definitely say puberty has a lot to do with what you're seeing. What is your son's functioning level? What type of school program is he in? Some of the thoughts I have right now is that with puberty he's getting bombarded with feelings and sensations he's not familiar with. His sensory system is probably on overload most of the time. I have read that it's a very hard time on our kids, although of course all of our kids experience every thing differently. If your son doesn't have a psychologist or a psychiatrist (or isn't on medication right now), now may be the time to look into it. I'm sorry if what I'm saying sounds elementary to you, but without knowing more, I don't know what you've done in the past with him. Sue in MI Mom to: 12 1/2, HFA 9, AS/ADD IM smgaska1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 20, 2003 Report Share Posted February 20, 2003 Hi Carol. Welcome to PA (Parenting Autism). We unofficially have a few of us in the 'I hate adolescence' also. Autism and hormones are NOT a good mix. If you have been reading for a bit I am one of those moms of hundreds Jacquie was referring too, and I sent in a post for Cecilia with what would be my signature (sig line) if I posted such a thing, which I don't because there are five kids with too many issues to write about. At least all at one time. The reason I bring this up is that this is a fantastic place to vent, share, whatever about things with your other kids too and family in general because these are really great folks here and often someone has a great idea or at least really understands. My best suggestion is to find maybe a therapist and/or OT that might help with sensory organization and appropriate expression of frustration. You didn't mention what your son's functioning level is, or if he is verbal, etc. Those things make a difference too in how you approach this. My teenagers are girls so that is a bit different, but my five year old probably asperger's son is the one that is most like this. At this point we try to have him keep his hands out of his pants and crotch when he is in public parts of the house, or out of the house. We are working hard on personal space bubble concepts and trying to get him to observe others' personal space, and frankly, we don't take him out very often when we do errands etc. Most of the time (my hubby) and I take turns running errands and taking naps, and often sleeping at night because it's easier than trying to take the boys out and about. So all in all I guess I do not have any fantastic advice for you at the moment, but I do understand somewhat. Now...where are you from, tell us about the kids, and all, and more about you. :-) (southern oregon coast) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 20, 2003 Report Share Posted February 20, 2003 Welcome Carol! I'm sorry I don't have much advice that hasn't already been suggested. I have a girl who is five and already we have problems with her touching herself a lot. I worry about what will happen as she gets older. But your not alone, there are several moms on this list with older kids. I hope you get some good suggestions that you can use. Take care, Tamara > and i feel like I'm going to crack! I've just about had it with > everything. I have 4 kids. My oldest Is 13, and autistic. I won't > even get Into what i have to deal with as far as the younger kids are > concerned. Up until now, well about a year ago, i haven't had any > problems with my autistic child. Now he seems to have become the > problem child king. The school is my biggest problem! I can't beleive > some of the notes i receive from his teacher. I'm beginning to wonder > If she has any experience with these kind of kids. He has started > masturbating, touching strangers mainly females when we're out, > looking at womens panty crotches in the store, screaming, bitting his > arms, hitting the table, and the wierd part about It Is most of this > seems to come out of the blue. Most of his behavior seems to be > happening at school though. I'm so lost. Deep down I think he may be > becoming sexually frustrated. I can't help him there though. I can't > communicate with him. It's not like i can just ask and he will tell > me what's going on. The school is always writing me like I have all > the answers. I'm just as confused as they are. Does anyone else have > these kinds of problems?? Please.....I need to hear someone elses > problems, Carol Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 21, 2003 Report Share Posted February 21, 2003 is just 3 so we are far from dealing with these kinds of issues. But it does not sound like fun at all. I hope some of the 'older' moms can give you some advice!! All I can offer is a shoulder... Welcome to the list! -Sara. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 21, 2003 Report Share Posted February 21, 2003 -Sara. Wife to Matt SAHM to (3 1/2, autism), Gabe (21 mos, speech delay), and 'Punkin' due late May. Sorry, I keep forgetting! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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