Guest guest Posted January 5, 2007 Report Share Posted January 5, 2007 I knew it was going to be this way when I decided to do a double, and at the last minute, as the surgeon was discussing the procedure with me over the phone and getting my verbal consent on what would be going on, I nearly said, just do the one you need to right now . . . but I knew . . . If I kept the healthy breast, I would always wonder about recurrence and another surgery needed, and possible spreading. If I had kept it, I would probably have wondered when that decision was going to come back to haunt me. A friend with breast cancer told me there is a 50 percent chance of a mirror image tumor appearing in the healthy breast at a later date, so that swayed me somewhat . . ..she had more than one surgery, because she hadn't done it the first time. My mother and aunt both had recurrence, so it made sense for me. On the other hand, I also knew that if I did both at the same time, I would also regret that somewhat, am feeling it a little more than I'd wished but I knew . . ..I wasn't going to be happy either way. My main loss is the ability to nurse another child should the Lord see fit to bless us with one . . . it was such a rewarding part of my life. But I was misdiagnosed because I was lactating, and that lost precious time . . .my tumor grew quite large, and I just wanted TO LIVE. That was enough. I don't think it is EVER a wrong decision to go with the most aggressive, least harmful treatment option you can get, and I'd take surgery over radiation and chemotherapy any day . . .I'm still exactly the same person I was when I went into surgery . . .for the most part. The part that bothers me is the chemical treatment - it goes so against my thoughts on taking care of my body and doing things naturally . . . but everything seems to be moving in the chemical direction, and FAST . . . I'm not sure what to expect if I do chemo . . .any thoughts? I'm also curious, nne, if you want to share, why do you wish you'd done it that way? You've been disease free for so long . . .since that is my primary objective, I'd be glad to have kept the clean breast if I thought I could do it .. . .there just wasn't a lot of statistics, or anything I'd read, that supported me in it. e Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 6, 2007 Report Share Posted January 6, 2007 Hi e, I had a single mastectomy. I think the decision for a double mastectomy is based on your comfort level and statistics for recurrence for your type of tumor and background, and what treatment you do. For me, (er/pr-, her2+, stage1, took Adriamycin/Cytoxan, and Herceptin), the chance of recurrence in my other breast is only a couple of percentage points. I also am pretty small, so don't feel that lop-sided :-) Are you positive for the brac1 gene? I wonder where that 50% chance of recurrence comes from. I decided to do chemo, because that significantly decreased my chance of overall recurrence. Are you her2 positive? The ultimate decision is yours and a difficult one to make. My doctor recommended my chemo based on the existing trial data. New data just came out (the other article I posted that you read), that indicates Taxol, Carbiplatin, and Herceptin) might be a better treatment. take care, Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 6, 2007 Report Share Posted January 6, 2007 I am rather large breasted and if I go without a bra for any length of time it bothers my neck and back. But the main reason is that I wouldn't have to worry about the cancer coming back in this other breast. I never forget that it can come back, even though its been over 16 yrs for me. We just had someone join who mother's(?) cancer came back after 20 or 23 years. I don't remember if she has posted or not. I have chemo brain something terrible. It affects my short term memory. I had absolutely no problems with my chemo. I had Methotrexate and 5fu the first two Tues of the month, took Cytoxan pills the third week and rested the fourth week. I did this for six month. I will keep you in my prayers. Hugs nne Breast Cancer Patients Soul Mates for Life http://www.geocities.com/chucky5741/breastcancerpatients.html BreastCancerStories.com http://www.breastcancerstories.com/content/view/433/161/ Angel Feather Loomer www.angelfeatherloomer.blogspot.com Check out my other ornaments at www.geocities.com/chucky5741/bcornament.html Lots of info and gifts at: www.cancerclub.com removing healthy breast as well as diseased AND what to expect from chemo? I knew it was going to be this way when I decided to do a double, and at the last minute, as the surgeon was discussing the procedure with me over the phone and getting my verbal consent on what would be going on, I nearly said, just do the one you need to right now . . . but I knew . . . If I kept the healthy breast, I would always wonder about recurrence and another surgery needed, and possible spreading. If I had kept it, I would probably have wondered when that decision was going to come back to haunt me. A friend with breast cancer told me there is a 50 percent chance of a mirror image tumor appearing in the healthy breast at a later date, so that swayed me somewhat . . ..she had more than one surgery, because she hadn't done it the first time. My mother and aunt both had recurrence, so it made sense for me. On the other hand, I also knew that if I did both at the same time, I would also regret that somewhat, am feeling it a little more than I'd wished but I knew . . .I wasn't going to be happy either way. My main loss is the ability to nurse another child should the Lord see fit to bless us with one . . . it was such a rewarding part of my life. But I was misdiagnosed because I was lactating, and that lost precious time . . .my tumor grew quite large, and I just wanted TO LIVE. That was enough. I don't think it is EVER a wrong decision to go with the most aggressive, least harmful treatment option you can get, and I'd take surgery over radiation and chemotherapy any day . . .I'm still exactly the same person I was when I went into surgery . . .for the most part. The part that bothers me is the chemical treatment - it goes so against my thoughts on taking care of my body and doing things naturally . . . but everything seems to be moving in the chemical direction, and FAST . . . I'm not sure what to expect if I do chemo . . .any thoughts? I'm also curious, nne, if you want to share, why do you wish you'd done it that way? You've been disease free for so long . . .since that is my primary objective, I'd be glad to have kept the clean breast if I thought I could do it .. . .there just wasn't a lot of statistics, or anything I'd read, that supported me in it. e Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 6, 2007 Report Share Posted January 6, 2007 , I'm triple negative, and the genetics test is *in the works*. Based on my family history, it is HIGHLY likely that the gene test will be positive, although it would be great if it was just a fluke because then I wouldn't have the same concerns for my own children that I've had for myself all of these years after losing my mom at age 7. The reason it *might* be a fluke has to do with the fact that I was hospitalized last January 4th for a threatened premature birth, and didn't get out until I had our baby on February 12 (she was due April 27th). They pumped me full of lots of things to keep her *in there* and healthy. She was in the NICU for 60 days. Then she didn' t learn to nurse so I pumped milk for 10 months until my cancer diagnosis - lots of stress there as I have a houseful of other children who need me, too. The Lord was willing that she should live and be healthy after the specialists gave her no hope when we she was just 15 weeks in utero, they told me her lungs would NEVER fully develop and her condition would be incompatible with life . . ..she was a true miracle! We nearly named her . . . What kept me going in the hospital was that I knew her life was truly in God's hands, as is mine with a diagnosis that makes the thought of chemotherapy repulsive to me based on the fact that the data do not support any therapies being good for triple negative patients, and presently I have what they call a *surgical cure* . . . they are just trying to mop up any renegade cancer cells that might spawn potential tumors elsewhere . . . When I was in the hospital, I also spent some time remembering a friend who was hospitalized for a bad cancer and never became healthy, and though it was selfish of me, I comforted myself with the thought that, even though I didn't know if my baby would live or die, even though I suffered being separated from my home and family for months, at least I was doing the right thing for my little baby and the thought did cross my mind that at least I didn't have cancer .. . . The irony . . . I could have had the cancer then and no one was looking for it, least of all me. Doing well here, making some major decisions this week about treatment, planning on driving to Chicago to work with a Dr. Block who takes a wholistic approach and actually treated my sister-in-law's (Jean's) sister . . . and we really like him! Even though it is twelve hours with the baby - we can bring her and another child for some one on one time, we have friends to stay with, and after this last year of not really taking care of myself, under his care I should be feeling better AFTER treatment than before. Jean's sister was rollerblading during her chemotherapy treatment for colon cancer . . .she did great with him, and she knew him as a general doctor until he moved into this. Thanks for reading - this place has to share thoughts has a home in my heart . . .. e Re: removing healthy breast as well as diseased AND what to expect from chemo? Hi e, I had a single mastectomy. I think the decision for a double mastectomy is based on your comfort level and statistics for recurrence for your type of tumor and background, and what treatment you do. For me, (er/pr-, her2+, stage1, took Adriamycin/Cytoxan, and Herceptin), the chance of recurrence in my other breast is only a couple of percentage points. I also am pretty small, so don't feel that lop-sided :-) Are you positive for the brac1 gene? I wonder where that 50% chance of recurrence comes from. I decided to do chemo, because that significantly decreased my chance of overall recurrence. Are you her2 positive? The ultimate decision is yours and a difficult one to make. My doctor recommended my chemo based on the existing trial data. New data just came out (the other article I posted that you read), that indicates Taxol, Carbiplatin, and Herceptin) might be a better treatment. take care, Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 6, 2007 Report Share Posted January 6, 2007 I just joined, and my mom's came back after 15 years...... She goes for a masectomy on Monday morning. I'm going to spend tomarrow night with her.... She is rather large, and with her history and her sisters', a double would make sense. I don't think her dr even mentioned it..... Maybe because she has medicaid, not another insurance? BTW, thanks for being here, I hope things go well for all of us, y'all, my mom, and maybe me someday....... > > I am rather large breasted and if I go without a bra for any length of time it bothers my neck and back. But the main reason is that I wouldn't have to worry about the cancer coming back in this other breast. I never forget that it can come back, even though its been over 16 yrs for me. We just had someone join who mother's(?) cancer came back after 20 or 23 years. I don't remember if she has posted or not. I have chemo brain something terrible. It affects my short term memory. > > I had absolutely no problems with my chemo. I had Methotrexate and 5fu the first two Tues of the month, took Cytoxan pills the third week and rested the fourth week. I did this for six month. > > I will keep you in my prayers. > Hugs > nne > Breast Cancer Patients Soul Mates for Life > http://www.geocities.com/chucky5741/breastcancerpatients.html > BreastCancerStories.com > http://www.breastcancerstories.com/content/view/433/161/ > Angel Feather Loomer > www.angelfeatherloomer.blogspot.com > Check out my other ornaments at > www.geocities.com/chucky5741/bcornament.html > Lots of info and gifts at: > www.cancerclub.com > removing healthy breast as well as diseased AND what to expect from chemo? > > > I knew it was going to be this way when I decided to do a double, and at the last minute, as the surgeon was discussing the procedure with me over the phone and getting my verbal consent on what would be going on, I nearly said, just do the one you need to right now . . . but I knew . . . > > If I kept the healthy breast, I would always wonder about recurrence and another surgery needed, and possible spreading. If I had kept it, I would probably > have wondered when that decision was going to come back to haunt me. A friend with breast cancer told me there is a 50 percent chance of a mirror image tumor appearing in the healthy breast at a later date, so that swayed me somewhat . . .she had more than one surgery, because she hadn't done it the first time. My mother and aunt both had recurrence, so it made sense for me. > > On the other hand, I also knew that if I did both at the same time, I would also regret that somewhat, am feeling it a little more than I'd wished but I knew . . .I wasn't going to be happy either way. > > My main loss is the ability to nurse another child should the Lord see fit to bless us with one . . . it was such a rewarding part of my life. But I was misdiagnosed because I was lactating, and that lost precious time . . .my tumor grew quite large, and I just wanted TO LIVE. That was enough. > > I don't think it is EVER a wrong decision to go with the most aggressive, least harmful treatment option you can get, and I'd take surgery over radiation and chemotherapy any day . . .I'm still exactly the same person I was when I went into surgery . . .for the most part. > > The part that bothers me is the chemical treatment - it goes so against my thoughts on taking care of my body and doing things naturally . . . but everything seems to be moving in the chemical direction, and FAST . . . > > I'm not sure what to expect if I do chemo . . .any thoughts? > > I'm also curious, nne, if you want to share, why do you wish you'd done it that way? You've been disease free for so long . . .since that is my primary objective, I'd be glad to have kept the clean breast if I thought I could do it . . .there just wasn't a lot of statistics, or anything I'd read, that supported me in it. > > e > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 7, 2007 Report Share Posted January 7, 2007 : I am praying for all of you. As your mom goes in for the mastectomy, I hope she knows that God has her in His great and healing arms. Take care. Let us know how she does and how you are doing. Jan K adklaura28@...> wrote: I just joined, and my mom's came back after 15 years...... She goes for a masectomy on Monday morning. I'm going to spend tomarrow night with her.... She is rather large, and with her history and her sisters', a double would make sense. I don't think her dr even mentioned it..... Maybe because she has medicaid, not another insurance? BTW, thanks for being here, I hope things go well for all of us, y'all, my mom, and maybe me someday....... > > I am rather large breasted and if I go without a bra for any length of time it bothers my neck and back. But the main reason is that I wouldn't have to worry about the cancer coming back in this other breast. I never forget that it can come back, even though its been over 16 yrs for me. We just had someone join who mother's(?) cancer came back after 20 or 23 years. I don't remember if she has posted or not. I have chemo brain something terrible. It affects my short term memory. > > I had absolutely no problems with my chemo. I had Methotrexate and 5fu the first two Tues of the month, took Cytoxan pills the third week and rested the fourth week. I did this for six month. > > I will keep you in my prayers. > Hugs > nne > Breast Cancer Patients Soul Mates for Life > http://www.geocities.com/chucky5741/breastcancerpatients.html > BreastCancerStories.com > http://www.breastcancerstories.com/content/view/433/161/ > Angel Feather Loomer > www.angelfeatherloomer.blogspot.com > Check out my other ornaments at > www.geocities.com/chucky5741/bcornament.html > Lots of info and gifts at: > www.cancerclub.com > removing healthy breast as well as diseased AND what to expect from chemo? > > > I knew it was going to be this way when I decided to do a double, and at the last minute, as the surgeon was discussing the procedure with me over the phone and getting my verbal consent on what would be going on, I nearly said, just do the one you need to right now . . . but I knew . . . > > If I kept the healthy breast, I would always wonder about recurrence and another surgery needed, and possible spreading. If I had kept it, I would probably > have wondered when that decision was going to come back to haunt me. A friend with breast cancer told me there is a 50 percent chance of a mirror image tumor appearing in the healthy breast at a later date, so that swayed me somewhat . . .she had more than one surgery, because she hadn't done it the first time. My mother and aunt both had recurrence, so it made sense for me. > > On the other hand, I also knew that if I did both at the same time, I would also regret that somewhat, am feeling it a little more than I'd wished but I knew . . .I wasn't going to be happy either way. > > My main loss is the ability to nurse another child should the Lord see fit to bless us with one . . . it was such a rewarding part of my life. But I was misdiagnosed because I was lactating, and that lost precious time . . .my tumor grew quite large, and I just wanted TO LIVE. That was enough. > > I don't think it is EVER a wrong decision to go with the most aggressive, least harmful treatment option you can get, and I'd take surgery over radiation and chemotherapy any day . . .I'm still exactly the same person I was when I went into surgery . . .for the most part. > > The part that bothers me is the chemical treatment - it goes so against my thoughts on taking care of my body and doing things naturally . . . but everything seems to be moving in the chemical direction, and FAST . . . > > I'm not sure what to expect if I do chemo . . .any thoughts? > > I'm also curious, nne, if you want to share, why do you wish you'd done it that way? You've been disease free for so long . . .since that is my primary objective, I'd be glad to have kept the clean breast if I thought I could do it . . .there just wasn't a lot of statistics, or anything I'd read, that supported me in it. > > e > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 8, 2007 Report Share Posted January 8, 2007 Thank you, she just left for the hospital. I have to get the kids off to school and then follow. Gonna be a looong morning. > > > > I am rather large breasted and if I go without a bra for any length > of time it bothers my neck and back. But the main reason is that I > wouldn't have to worry about the cancer coming back in this other > breast. I never forget that it can come back, even though its been > over 16 yrs for me. We just had someone join who mother's(?) cancer > came back after 20 or 23 years. I don't remember if she has posted or > not. I have chemo brain something terrible. It affects my short term > memory. > > > > I had absolutely no problems with my chemo. I had Methotrexate and > 5fu the first two Tues of the month, took Cytoxan pills the third > week and rested the fourth week. I did this for six month. > > > > I will keep you in my prayers. > > Hugs > > nne > > Breast Cancer Patients Soul Mates for Life > > http://www.geocities.com/chucky5741/breastcancerpatients.html > > BreastCancerStories.com > > http://www.breastcancerstories.com/content/view/433/161/ > > Angel Feather Loomer > > www.angelfeatherloomer.blogspot.com > > Check out my other ornaments at > > www.geocities.com/chucky5741/bcornament.html > > Lots of info and gifts at: > > www.cancerclub.com > > removing healthy breast as well as > diseased AND what to expect from chemo? > > > > > > I knew it was going to be this way when I decided to do a double, > and at the last minute, as the surgeon was discussing the procedure > with me over the phone and getting my verbal consent on what would be > going on, I nearly said, just do the one you need to right now . . . > but I knew . . . > > > > If I kept the healthy breast, I would always wonder about > recurrence and another surgery needed, and possible spreading. If I > had kept it, I would probably > > have wondered when that decision was going to come back to haunt > me. A friend with breast cancer told me there is a 50 percent chance > of a mirror image tumor appearing in the healthy breast at a later > date, so that swayed me somewhat . . .she had more than one surgery, > because she hadn't done it the first time. My mother and aunt both > had recurrence, so it made sense for me. > > > > On the other hand, I also knew that if I did both at the same > time, I would also regret that somewhat, am feeling it a little more > than I'd wished but I knew . . .I wasn't going to be happy either way. > > > > My main loss is the ability to nurse another child should the > Lord see fit to bless us with one . . . it was such a rewarding part > of my life. But I was misdiagnosed because I was lactating, and that > lost precious time . . .my tumor grew quite large, and I just wanted > TO LIVE. That was enough. > > > > I don't think it is EVER a wrong decision to go with the most > aggressive, least harmful treatment option you can get, and I'd take > surgery over radiation and chemotherapy any day . . .I'm still > exactly the same person I was when I went into surgery . . .for the > most part. > > > > The part that bothers me is the chemical treatment - it goes so > against my thoughts on taking care of my body and doing things > naturally . . . but everything seems to be moving in the chemical > direction, and FAST . . . > > > > I'm not sure what to expect if I do chemo . . .any thoughts? > > > > I'm also curious, nne, if you want to share, why do you wish > you'd done it that way? You've been disease free for so > long . . .since that is my primary objective, I'd be glad to have > kept the clean breast if I thought I could do it . . .there just > wasn't a lot of statistics, or anything I'd read, that supported me > in it. > > > > e > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Recommended Posts
Join the conversation
You are posting as a guest. If you have an account, sign in now to post with your account.
Note: Your post will require moderator approval before it will be visible.