Re: I goofed

[Guest guest]

Pat. here. I'm sending you some hugs today ((((((((((PAT)))))))))) It

sounds like we're both having a hard time of it right now. I know it's not good

to bottle all this up inside but that's what we learn to do. Don't get me

started on MIL's. Well...I'm actually on my way to bed . Right now I'm

sleeping during the day..2ish... and awake at about midnight. real fun cuz I'm

one to love the sunshine. so this adds to a bit of depression, too. You can

vent to me. I've been told I'm a good listener, too. The Sarc hi-way sucks no

matter where you are on the road. hugs S.

Pat White wrote:I was reading the message from and got

close to the end and accidentally hit delete. I really agree with her feelings.

Everyone is so much worse but it is so hard to talk to anyone here about what is

going on. My husband is an over the road trucker and only comes home about

every 5 to 6 weeks I hate to bother him when he is home with all my aches and

pains but this time when he came home he could really see be the way I was

looking that things were not doing well. Nobody understands the disease so it

is easier for them to ignore it and especially certain members of the family

that imply that I'm just fat and lazy (mother-in-law)

It is so easy to let other people contribute to the depression or I guess I let

them contribute to my lack of self worth. I know I'm fortunate when I read all

the problems other people have but I'm sure none of us thought our life would be

such a mess.

I'll be in a better mood in a couple of days I've just been over doing. Thus

I'm over tired and overextended.

White

[Guest guest]

Pat,

I just read your post and it broke my heart cause I can relate to how you feel.

I too have a few family members that I know who feel the same way. And hun your

problems are just as important as mine or anyone elses they are important to you

and you yourself are a wonderful person and please don't ever think that you

aren't. We have to deal with this pain and the lousy sometimes uneducated

doctors and we have friends and family that if they don't see the problem or if

you can't take a magic pill and be better it must be all in your head

well...........hog wash!!!!!!!!!!! You need to see what works best for you, if

you need rest then rest if you need to get a better doctor I know its hard cause

i'm working on that one myself then work on that. I had to learn to set my

limits to what I can and can't do and if I need to vent then by all means

vent......I hope i'm making some sense here and that i'm not offending you in

any way.

I'm by far am not the smartest person I used to know alot but I have lost a lot

of my knowledge and that hurt like heck and my memory well what memory.......LOL

But if you ever need to vent or just talk or anything i'm here you can e-mail me

anytime you like and i'll try to get back to you as soon as I can and if I can't

help you then I'll try to find someone who can, but by all means YOU ARE

IMPORTANT and you are SPECIAL I hope I made some sense here and all this isn't

just rambling you know the old noodle is foggy these days........

Much love and prayers

~~Take spring when it comes, and rejoice. Take happiness when it comes, and

rejoice. Take love when it comes, and rejoice.............Carl Ewald

Time is a very precious gift of God;

so precious that it's only given to us

moment by moment..............

~~~~~~Amelia Barr

Jan

[Guest guest]

Thanks for the ear and the words of encouragement.

It seems like I can get on the computer and read the mail and answer ands then

can't get back to the computer for days.

It really helps to know that there are people that understand the frustration.

My phone number is on the list and I'm up and down all hours of day and night.

Thank you again.

Pat

Re: I goofed

Pat. here. I'm sending you some hugs today ((((((((((PAT))))))))))

It sounds like we're both having a hard time of it right now. I know it's not

good to bottle all this up inside but that's what we learn to do. Don't get me

started on MIL's. Well...I'm actually on my way to bed . Right now I'm

sleeping during the day..2ish... and awake at about midnight. real fun cuz I'm

one to love the sunshine. so this adds to a bit of depression, too. You can

vent to me. I've been told I'm a good listener, too. The Sarc hi-way sucks no

matter where you are on the road. hugs S.

Pat White wrote:I was reading the message from and

got close to the end and accidentally hit delete. I really agree with her

feelings. Everyone is so much worse but it is so hard to talk to anyone here

about what is going on. My husband is an over the road trucker and only comes

home about every 5 to 6 weeks I hate to bother him when he is home with all my

aches and pains but this time when he came home he could really see be the way

I was looking that things were not doing well. Nobody understands the disease

so it is easier for them to ignore it and especially certain members of the

family that imply that I'm just fat and lazy (mother-in-law)

It is so easy to let other people contribute to the depression or I guess I

let them contribute to my lack of self worth. I know I'm fortunate when I read

all the problems other people have but I'm sure none of us thought our life

would be such a mess.

I'll be in a better mood in a couple of days I've just been over doing. Thus

I'm over tired and overextended.

White

[Guest guest]

Thanks for the ear and the words of encouragement.

It seems like I can get on the computer and read the mail and answer ands then

can't get back to the computer for days.

It really helps to know that there are people that understand the frustration.

My phone number is on the list and I'm up and down all hours of day and night.

Thank you again.

Pat

Re: I goofed

Pat. here. I'm sending you some hugs today ((((((((((PAT))))))))))

It sounds like we're both having a hard time of it right now. I know it's not

good to bottle all this up inside but that's what we learn to do. Don't get me

started on MIL's. Well...I'm actually on my way to bed . Right now I'm

sleeping during the day..2ish... and awake at about midnight. real fun cuz I'm

one to love the sunshine. so this adds to a bit of depression, too. You can

vent to me. I've been told I'm a good listener, too. The Sarc hi-way sucks no

matter where you are on the road. hugs S.

Pat White wrote:I was reading the message from and

got close to the end and accidentally hit delete. I really agree with her

feelings. Everyone is so much worse but it is so hard to talk to anyone here

about what is going on. My husband is an over the road trucker and only comes

home about every 5 to 6 weeks I hate to bother him when he is home with all my

aches and pains but this time when he came home he could really see be the way

I was looking that things were not doing well. Nobody understands the disease

so it is easier for them to ignore it and especially certain members of the

family that imply that I'm just fat and lazy (mother-in-law)

It is so easy to let other people contribute to the depression or I guess I

let them contribute to my lack of self worth. I know I'm fortunate when I read

all the problems other people have but I'm sure none of us thought our life

would be such a mess.

I'll be in a better mood in a couple of days I've just been over doing. Thus

I'm over tired and overextended.

White

[Guest guest]

Jan

Thank you for the support and encouragement.

It is really hard to set limits. It appears that there are many of us that were

in the medical field and it is hard to change from taking care of some one and

put myself first. I do just about anything to help with my granddaughters but

as my husband and my mother say if I don't take care of myself I won't be able

to help with them at all. I'm going to order several copies of the book for

people that I think will care enough to read them.

It is hard because I still want to go fix things for everyone else maybe

co-dependent. My dishwasher quit and I'm spoiled so the days I'm taking care

of the kids and my husband is gone I finally decided to go to paper plates but I

won't admit that to my mom or most other people. I want the energy to do other

things. It is a minor decision but was hard to make because I feel lazy, but

I'm learning to take more shortcuts.

No you didn't offend me in anyway I just appreciate the support. I will be

somewhat sporadic being off and on but will answer when I'm on or you can call

because I talk on phone but not on computer when girls are here.

Hugs.

Pat

Re: I goofed

Pat,

I just read your post and it broke my heart cause I can relate to how you

feel. I too have a few family members that I know who feel the same way. And hun

your problems are just as important as mine or anyone elses they are important

to you and you yourself are a wonderful person and please don't ever think that

you aren't. We have to deal with this pain and the lousy sometimes uneducated

doctors and we have friends and family that if they don't see the problem or if

you can't take a magic pill and be better it must be all in your head

well...........hog wash!!!!!!!!!!! You need to see what works best for you, if

you need rest then rest if you need to get a better doctor I know its hard cause

i'm working on that one myself then work on that. I had to learn to set my

limits to what I can and can't do and if I need to vent then by all means

vent......I hope i'm making some sense here and that i'm not offending you in

any way.

I'm by far am not the smartest person I used to know alot but I have lost a

lot of my knowledge and that hurt like heck and my memory well what

memory.......LOL

But if you ever need to vent or just talk or anything i'm here you can e-mail

me anytime you like and i'll try to get back to you as soon as I can and if I

can't help you then I'll try to find someone who can, but by all means YOU ARE

IMPORTANT and you are SPECIAL I hope I made some sense here and all this isn't

just rambling you know the old noodle is foggy these days........

Much love and prayers

~~Take spring when it comes, and rejoice. Take happiness when it comes, and

rejoice. Take love when it comes, and rejoice.............Carl Ewald

Time is a very precious gift of God;

so precious that it's only given to us

moment by moment..............

~~~~~~Amelia Barr

Jan