Re: In a spiral

[Guest guest]

Hi gang,

It has been a while since I have posted anything here but I feel like

I should check in before I leave on vacation. I have been having a

very bad time these days with a lot of things. So I feel as though I

am on a spiral going down instead of up. Recently I had a touch of

the flu and 3 days later I had pneumonia. Flu is not a good thing to

have when you have had surgery because of the vomiting and the

nausea. Well I am OK from that but now I feel the need to be away

from the problems that surround me at my home. There is too much

stress here and I am having trouble trying to not revert back to old

habits and it is not working. My weight had been at 206 at one time

and now it is 227. Not only that but my sciatica has come back with a

vengeance and now when I over do it I am in so much pain at night. I

feel so lost and I am having a hard time trying to do for me. I find

it is increasing more difficult to not fall into the bad habits again

whether it is subconsciously or not. I start each day thinking that I

will start to eat the correct way and journal and drink my water and

by the time noon comes around I am already off track. I even had a

hard time just going to the gym where as before I loved going there.

I have also for some reason become absent minded and get side tracked

so easily. So taking all that I am going through, I am leaving for

Texas on Saturday and try to get a new perspective on life. I have

told my family that I am in desperate need of a break from them even

if it is only going to stay with my sister. Since my husband started

working swing shift it is though I have no time for anything. I don't

have time to go to the support group meetings because of

transportation problems and his lack of understanding as to why I

need to go. Once I get back I will try to get a good therapist that

is willing to work with me one on one. The last one that I had just

thought that I needed to go into a group type situation but that

didn't fill my needs at the time. So this is where I am at this point

in my life. While I am gone I will still check in once in a while

just to keep me focused.

Ramona

1/13/2002

357/227/?????

[Guest guest]

Ramona!!

Please dont stay away...what you are going through is when you need

us the most!! I will try and help you any way I can. If you dont feel

like posting to the group e-mail me privately bdduenas@...

will help you through this!! Dont give up..you are sooooo worth the

fight!!

Huggles

>

> Hi gang,

> It has been a while since I have posted anything here but I feel

like

> I should check in before I leave on vacation. I have been having a

> very bad time these days with a lot of things. So I feel as though

I

> am on a spiral going down instead of up. Recently I had a touch of

> the flu and 3 days later I had pneumonia. Flu is not a good thing

to

> have when you have had surgery because of the vomiting and the

> nausea. Well I am OK from that but now I feel the need to be away

> from the problems that surround me at my home. There is too much

> stress here and I am having trouble trying to not revert back to

old

> habits and it is not working. My weight had been at 206 at one time

> and now it is 227. Not only that but my sciatica has come back with

a

> vengeance and now when I over do it I am in so much pain at night.

I

> feel so lost and I am having a hard time trying to do for me. I

find

> it is increasing more difficult to not fall into the bad habits

again

> whether it is subconsciously or not. I start each day thinking that

I

> will start to eat the correct way and journal and drink my water

and

> by the time noon comes around I am already off track. I even had a

> hard time just going to the gym where as before I loved going

there.

> I have also for some reason become absent minded and get side

tracked

> so easily. So taking all that I am going through, I am leaving for

> Texas on Saturday and try to get a new perspective on life. I have

> told my family that I am in desperate need of a break from them

even

> if it is only going to stay with my sister. Since my husband

started

> working swing shift it is though I have no time for anything. I

don't

> have time to go to the support group meetings because of

> transportation problems and his lack of understanding as to why I

> need to go. Once I get back I will try to get a good therapist that

> is willing to work with me one on one. The last one that I had just

> thought that I needed to go into a group type situation but that

> didn't fill my needs at the time. So this is where I am at this

point

> in my life. While I am gone I will still check in once in a while

> just to keep me focused.

> Ramona

> 1/13/2002

> 357/227/?????

[Guest guest]

Hi Ramona,

Oh, how I wish I knew how to reach across the internet and find some way

to connect with you . . . to help somehow.

I am sorry to hear that you've been sick, but very happy to hear that

you're better. Sciatica can be a bear - wish I knew something that

would help there, but I'm still trying to find something that will ease

mine. Just talked with an orthopedist yesterday. I was consulting with

him about my knees, but I figured it couldn't hurt to ask about the

sciatica. Unfortunately, he said that, in nearly all cases, there is

nothing that can be done beyond stretching and building up your back

muscles. Sigh . . . been working with a physical therapist for months

on those and still no improvement.

Sounds like a break is good idea. A trip to your sister's might be just

the ticket, especially if your sister is understanding and supportive.

It is unfortunate that your husband doesn't understand how vital support

group meetings can be. Everything I've ever read about long-term

success after WLS indicates that support-group attendance is a key

factor. You mentioned transportation problems - maybe we can find a way

around that. I don't recall what area you are in or which support

group(s) you attend - would you remind me, please? When you get back

from Texas, maybe we can work on getting you to a support group.

Someone might be able to give you a lift - I'd be happy to if it is

geographically feasible.

I think getting connected with a therapist one-on-one is a great idea.

I'd be lost without mine. So much comes up as our weight goes down. It

might take a few tries to find the right therapist, but it is worth the

effort.

I know that it isn't much . . . but I am here to empathize, listen, or

whatever I can possibly do.

Have a wonderful trip.

Take care,

Kay

in San Leandro

open RNY 12/1/03

Ramona wrote:

>

> Hi gang,

> It has been a while since I have posted anything here but I feel like

> I should check in before I leave on vacation. I have been having a

> very bad time these days with a lot of things. So I feel as though I

> am on a spiral going down instead of up. Recently I had a touch of

> the flu and 3 days later I had pneumonia. Flu is not a good thing to

> have when you have had surgery because of the vomiting and the

> nausea. Well I am OK from that but now I feel the need to be away

> from the problems that surround me at my home. There is too much

> stress here and I am having trouble trying to not revert back to old

> habits and it is not working. My weight had been at 206 at one time

> and now it is 227. Not only that but my sciatica has come back with a

> vengeance and now when I over do it I am in so much pain at night. I

> feel so lost and I am having a hard time trying to do for me. I find

> it is increasing more difficult to not fall into the bad habits again

> whether it is subconsciously or not. I start each day thinking that I

> will start to eat the correct way and journal and drink my water and

> by the time noon comes around I am already off track. I even had a

> hard time just going to the gym where as before I loved going there.

> I have also for some reason become absent minded and get side tracked

> so easily. So taking all that I am going through, I am leaving for

> Texas on Saturday and try to get a new perspective on life. I have

> told my family that I am in desperate need of a break from them even

> if it is only going to stay with my sister. Since my husband started

> working swing shift it is though I have no time for anything. I don't

> have time to go to the support group meetings because of

> transportation problems and his lack of understanding as to why I

> need to go. Once I get back I will try to get a good therapist that

> is willing to work with me one on one. The last one that I had just

> thought that I needed to go into a group type situation but that

> didn't fill my needs at the time. So this is where I am at this point

> in my life. While I am gone I will still check in once in a while

> just to keep me focused.

> Ramona

> 1/13/2002

> 357/227/?????

[Guest guest]

Hi Ramona,

Oh, how I wish I knew how to reach across the internet and find some way

to connect with you . . . to help somehow.

I am sorry to hear that you've been sick, but very happy to hear that

you're better. Sciatica can be a bear - wish I knew something that

would help there, but I'm still trying to find something that will ease

mine. Just talked with an orthopedist yesterday. I was consulting with

him about my knees, but I figured it couldn't hurt to ask about the

sciatica. Unfortunately, he said that, in nearly all cases, there is

nothing that can be done beyond stretching and building up your back

muscles. Sigh . . . been working with a physical therapist for months

on those and still no improvement.

Sounds like a break is good idea. A trip to your sister's might be just

the ticket, especially if your sister is understanding and supportive.

It is unfortunate that your husband doesn't understand how vital support

group meetings can be. Everything I've ever read about long-term

success after WLS indicates that support-group attendance is a key

factor. You mentioned transportation problems - maybe we can find a way

around that. I don't recall what area you are in or which support

group(s) you attend - would you remind me, please? When you get back

from Texas, maybe we can work on getting you to a support group.

Someone might be able to give you a lift - I'd be happy to if it is

geographically feasible.

I think getting connected with a therapist one-on-one is a great idea.

I'd be lost without mine. So much comes up as our weight goes down. It

might take a few tries to find the right therapist, but it is worth the

effort.

I know that it isn't much . . . but I am here to empathize, listen, or

whatever I can possibly do.

Have a wonderful trip.

Take care,

Kay

in San Leandro

open RNY 12/1/03

Ramona wrote:

>

> Hi gang,

> It has been a while since I have posted anything here but I feel like

> I should check in before I leave on vacation. I have been having a

> very bad time these days with a lot of things. So I feel as though I

> am on a spiral going down instead of up. Recently I had a touch of

> the flu and 3 days later I had pneumonia. Flu is not a good thing to

> have when you have had surgery because of the vomiting and the

> nausea. Well I am OK from that but now I feel the need to be away

> from the problems that surround me at my home. There is too much

> stress here and I am having trouble trying to not revert back to old

> habits and it is not working. My weight had been at 206 at one time

> and now it is 227. Not only that but my sciatica has come back with a

> vengeance and now when I over do it I am in so much pain at night. I

> feel so lost and I am having a hard time trying to do for me. I find

> it is increasing more difficult to not fall into the bad habits again

> whether it is subconsciously or not. I start each day thinking that I

> will start to eat the correct way and journal and drink my water and

> by the time noon comes around I am already off track. I even had a

> hard time just going to the gym where as before I loved going there.

> I have also for some reason become absent minded and get side tracked

> so easily. So taking all that I am going through, I am leaving for

> Texas on Saturday and try to get a new perspective on life. I have

> told my family that I am in desperate need of a break from them even

> if it is only going to stay with my sister. Since my husband started

> working swing shift it is though I have no time for anything. I don't

> have time to go to the support group meetings because of

> transportation problems and his lack of understanding as to why I

> need to go. Once I get back I will try to get a good therapist that

> is willing to work with me one on one. The last one that I had just

> thought that I needed to go into a group type situation but that

> didn't fill my needs at the time. So this is where I am at this point

> in my life. While I am gone I will still check in once in a while

> just to keep me focused.

> Ramona

> 1/13/2002

> 357/227/?????