Guest guest Posted December 8, 2004 Report Share Posted December 8, 2004 Through this transformation I've had support from someone who might seem like an " outsider " to some of you... My friend is a person who changed gender, from female to male, about 3 years ago. Many of our issues are the same... Both of us: Felt uncomfortable all our lives in bodies that didn't fit our concept of ourselves. Felt pressure to accept our bodies the way they were, and felt guilty for wanting to change. Came from subcultures that were conflicted about changing: He came from the lesbian community, which doesn't always look kindly on butch women who change gender. I came from the fat community, which struggles with fat acceptance politics and resents the cultural pressure to be small. Experienced discrimination and recrimination: Me for being fat, him for being a lesbian, and now sometimes for being transgender. Agonized over having transformative surgery/therapies that changed our bodies to a different configuration. Are glad we did it. So if he's " transgender " (also referred to as tranny or MTF, " Male to Female " ), what's my buzzword? Transize? Transfat? Hahaha, I like that one! " We're small, that's all-- get used to it " Martha Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 8, 2004 Report Share Posted December 8, 2004 Its amazing the parrallels.....thank goodness your friend had the courage to change and thank goodness we too are no longer victims of prejudice. Huggles > Through this transformation I've had support from someone who might seem > like an " outsider " to some of you... My friend is a person who changed > gender, from female to male, about 3 years ago. > > Many of our issues are the same... Both of us: > > Felt uncomfortable all our lives in bodies that didn't fit our concept > of ourselves. > > Felt pressure to accept our bodies the way they were, and felt guilty > for wanting to change. > > Came from subcultures that were conflicted about changing: He came from > the lesbian community, which doesn't always look kindly on butch women > who change gender. I came from the fat community, which struggles with > fat acceptance politics and resents the cultural pressure to be small. > > Experienced discrimination and recrimination: Me for being fat, him for > being a lesbian, and now sometimes for being transgender. > > Agonized over having transformative surgery/therapies that changed our > bodies to a different configuration. > > Are glad we did it. > > So if he's " transgender " (also referred to as tranny or MTF, " Male to > Female " ), what's my buzzword? Transize? Transfat? Hahaha, I like that > one! > > " We're small, that's all-- get used to it " > Martha Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 8, 2004 Report Share Posted December 8, 2004 Martha: You have such a way of expressing yourself. Transfat! That is hilarious. You know, through my church, I've met a couple transgender people. And it's funny that I was thinking along the same lines as you: we have a lot in common, just as you expressed it--wanting to change something about ourselves that only surgery will fix. I'm so glad that you have a great friend in someone who understands the need and power of radical transformation. I don't mean to minimize a transgender's situation. It's just that the further I get along in this process the more I find that there are people of all sizes, genders, etc that feel the same " need " as I did: the need for acceptance and love. Thanks for sharing: Gemello -153 lbs / at goal > Through this transformation I've had support from someone who might seem > like an " outsider " to some of you... My friend is a person who changed > gender, from female to male, about 3 years ago. > > Many of our issues are the same... Both of us: > > Felt uncomfortable all our lives in bodies that didn't fit our concept > of ourselves. > > Felt pressure to accept our bodies the way they were, and felt guilty > for wanting to change. > > Came from subcultures that were conflicted about changing: He came from > the lesbian community, which doesn't always look kindly on butch women > who change gender. I came from the fat community, which struggles with > fat acceptance politics and resents the cultural pressure to be small. > > Experienced discrimination and recrimination: Me for being fat, him for > being a lesbian, and now sometimes for being transgender. > > Agonized over having transformative surgery/therapies that changed our > bodies to a different configuration. > > Are glad we did it. > > So if he's " transgender " (also referred to as tranny or MTF, " Male to > Female " ), what's my buzzword? Transize? Transfat? Hahaha, I like that > one! > > " We're small, that's all-- get used to it " > Martha Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 9, 2004 Report Share Posted December 9, 2004 That is a great insight Martha...thank you for sharing! Unusual parallels Through this transformation I've had support from someone who might seemlike an "outsider" to some of you... My friend is a person who changedgender, from female to male, about 3 years ago.Many of our issues are the same... Both of us:Felt uncomfortable all our lives in bodies that didn't fit our conceptof ourselves.Felt pressure to accept our bodies the way they were, and felt guiltyfor wanting to change.Came from subcultures that were conflicted about changing: He came fromthe lesbian community, which doesn't always look kindly on butch womenwho change gender. I came from the fat community, which struggles withfat acceptance politics and resents the cultural pressure to be small.Experienced discrimination and recrimination: Me for being fat, him forbeing a lesbian, and now sometimes for being transgender.Agonized over having transformative surgery/therapies that changed ourbodies to a different configuration.Are glad we did it.So if he's "transgender" (also referred to as tranny or MTF, "Male toFemale"), what's my buzzword? Transize? Transfat? Hahaha, I like thatone!"We're small, that's all-- get used to it"MarthaGet more from the Web. FREE MSN Explorer download : http://explorer.msn.com Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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