Guest guest Posted November 23, 2004 Report Share Posted November 23, 2004 janie8002000 wrote: > Amber > Although there is no real > reason to take that statement to mean that you might be an " enabler " > to Bob, I'm still wondering if I sense something in it like that, > > Janie I'm the one doing all the studying and doing all the proper cooking and encouraging him to cut his portions, etc. I think that we are both adults and I wouldn't like being harped on, so I won't harp on him. I don't think that makes for a good marriage (going on 29 years). If all that makes me an enabler, so be it. Amber Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 23, 2004 Report Share Posted November 23, 2004 Amber My apologies to you. I do not think that not harping on someone in order to honor them as an adult, while expecting them to be responsible for their own actions, qualifies as an enabler. My mother was--out of her love, she made excuses for me which allowed me to continue in my bad habits, which eventually included self- destructive food and substance abuse. I think I have by now matured out of it, I hope. Sorry that I read too much into your situation. Luv, Janie > > > Amber > > Although there is no real > > reason to take that statement to mean that you might be an " enabler " > > to Bob, I'm still wondering if I sense something in it like that, > > > > Janie > > > I'm the one doing all the studying and doing all the proper cooking and > encouraging him to cut his portions, etc. I think that we are both > adults and I wouldn't like being harped on, so I won't harp on him. I > don't think that makes for a good marriage (going on 29 years). If all > that makes me an enabler, so be it. > > Amber > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 24, 2004 Report Share Posted November 24, 2004 janie8002000 wrote: > Amber > > I do not think that not harping on someone in > order to honor them as an adult, while expecting them to be > responsible for their own actions, qualifies as an enabler. Ha, ha, well neither did I. Thanks. > > My mother was--out of her love, she made excuses for me which allowed > me to continue in my bad habits Ok, that would be more my explanation of " enabler. " I don't do that. Amber Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 24, 2004 Report Share Posted November 24, 2004 janie8002000 wrote: > Amber > > I do not think that not harping on someone in > order to honor them as an adult, while expecting them to be > responsible for their own actions, qualifies as an enabler. Ha, ha, well neither did I. Thanks. > > My mother was--out of her love, she made excuses for me which allowed > me to continue in my bad habits Ok, that would be more my explanation of " enabler. " I don't do that. Amber Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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